[Gez]

Hi,

I'm terribly anxious right now.

I'm in a relationship, a long distance one. Ive been anxious and depressed for some time but its the relationship that is causing me to be particularly anxious. My boyfriend is going through some stress right now and he is very quick to anger. I feel like I cant talk to him about something that is important to me because he takes everything the wrong way. When we're not arguing things are god between us but when we do argue its very stressful. The problem is, I dont think I'm to blame for his quick anger responses and he becomes particularly unfeeling when we do argue. I seem to fall apart. Everytime we fall out, sometimes we dont speak for a couple of days and I always feel he will end the relationship. We havent spoken for two days now and I'm becoming anxious to the point where I am almost in a panic attack situation. Why do I feel so scared? How do I deal with it? I cant take ADs..I am too sensitive to those and tranquillizers are addictive. I have already taken a half but it doesnt seem to be working.

I know tjis post is vague but i just need someone to turn to.

Thanks

Gez

[krzyk101]

I truely do feel for you and all that you are going through. I do not believe that I am able to provide the type of support that you are asking for. If you feel that things are getting to the point where you are feel out of control, or fear for your life or others, than for now I would suggest that you get ahold of your local mental health emergency service or the Doctor who prescribed you your medication. I have felt those feelings and to me it sounds as possibly a professional may be able to help you through this issue. I just want to say to stay safe, and if you are prescribed medications to take them as prescribed and if they are not effective or have side effects you can not tolerate to contact the Doctors office and explain you situation.

Peace~ CHRIS

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

[(JD)]

Of course you're not to blame for HIS behavior! Ya know, I have made a few posts about "looters" but you're new so let me tell ya what I think: he's a looter. Looters do NOT return value for value. They take and take and then make YOU feel guilty for not giving more.

Get rid of him. You can NOT change him, and he obviously doesn't think he's the problem. There really are nice guys out there who can listen, and converse and act like adults. I hope you find one of THEM instead of this losing looter.

Make good decision to take care of yourself and I'll bet a lot of your anxiety will melt away. : )

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>

[Butterfly_Faerie]

deep breathing, abdominal breathing (always helps ease away anxiety/panic attacks) take time to do relaxation, self talk will help too, will it away with postive thoughts, even if you don't think it will help do it anyways, cause it will, i do it all the time when under stress and filled with anxiety.


<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

[Gez]

Hi,

Well we've had another fight. I'm upset as usual. I cant see my way forward with this relationship anymore. I wish I felt strong enough to break it off.

He discusses his insecurities, his jealousy..the fact that he is afraid of losing me but he is driving me away and he cant see it. He can be so sweet but I see a side to him I dont like.

We were talking on the phone and he was angry as usual and hung up on me. I called back and his daughter spoke to me who is only 15. She told me that she had defended me and told her father how rude he was being. She told me he does it with her every day. I hated that she got caught up in the argument. I have no idea what I am going to do. I cant tell you how disappointed I am with this man who could do no wrong in my eyes and who I thought the world of.

Thanks for listening.

Gez

[Gez]

I'm hurting so much. I didn't think it were possible for a person to have so much disregard foir anothers feelings. He just doesn't care about my feelings at all. How can a person tell you that they love you and show such callousness? I wouldn't treat a dog like this.

I have a splitting headache, and physically I can hardly funcion. I keep going over in my head the hurtful things he has said to me. I will never trust another man as long as I live.

I'm a warm and caring person-why do people walk all over me? What the hell did I do to hurt anyone.

Maybe if I were nasty and ruthless I'd get on in the world. I feel so alone and I'm very distressed. I'm overwhelmed with pain. It feels like i'm dying.

Gez

[Butterfly_Faerie]

((((GEZ))))

I'm so sorry hon, all you can do is take it one step at a time....hang in there.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

[Jill_B]

I would not tolerate his abusiveness. Tell him you are not going to talk to him when he is like that. You desreve better. Love yourself 1st.

Jill__B

[dre2004]

sweetie, i have been there and done that. deep inside you know your being treated bad but you've seen the "nice" side of this guy and you think if you hang in there, it will go back to the good days, and it does for a day or two, then the fighting again. it won't change. i know it hurts to hear that because i just got out of a 2 year relationship 3 days ago. don't get me wrong, it WILL hurt, but darlin, screw him!!! (not literally ha ha ha) as soon as the pain strts to go away, a sense of accomplishment and strength kicks in, then the loser wants YOU back, but by now, you've discovered that you don't need him, you don't need anyone!! Let's get through it together!! Take that first step, stop it!!!!