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Hi, im not sure this is the right place to put this but i think i have a lot of anxiety about my present and future situation.

in the present i just feel so awful i dont feel like doing anything to get better but thinking about the future im assaulted by catastrophic thoughts about my loved ones and my own life.

things like: i'll never get a job. i'll always live with my parents, i'll never find a boufriend (im 34), i'll be totally alone when my parents will die and even worse if we had to face a fatal illness together. everyone else move on with their lives while im stuck, i'll never amount to anything, im a total failure etc.

these thoughts are constant in my mind and paralize my life. im afraid of changing things even though that what i'd need to do.

how do i get past this? its not that easy to find a job and its not that easy to find a boyfriend if all i do is going to work and then staying in bed crying...
please, help

[IrisBloom]

It looks like you torture yourself with thoughts about failure before there is any reason to expect it. This is not unusual with MI, but it is self-destructive, and you are wanting help, so maybe you need to learn techniques to think more positive.

I find when my mood is down it's hard to think positive, but you can force yourself if you really try. Make plans, look forward to the future. Find something to get excited about!

I would bet when the time comes you will find strength inside yourself that you never knew you had. I have faced times I thought I would crumble under, but I rose to the occasion and did what had to be done, and was better for it.

Be kind to yourself and stop worrying so much!

Are you in treatment for your issues?

[Fuzzybear]

I think when in such a hard place, thoughts of the "future" are going to be scary, catastrophic and generally unhelpful. Stopping those thoughts is another matter altogether. Many have found mindfulness and focusing on the gifts and blessings we do have (all the senses for example) is helpful.

Nobody is a "total failure"
If anyone thinks that about any others, quite possibly they have severe "difficulties" like severe narcissism for example...

You are helping some people by posting here on PC. You have the courage, insight and honesty to share

[superfly47]

Anxiety is caused by excessive thinking. Of course if you could just switch off constant worrying you'd have already done so.

Do you have any hobbies that you used to enjoy? Getting into them can be helpful, even if you don't enjoy as much as you used to it does provide a distraction. Much easier not to think excessively is to get into doing something else so mind has something to focus on.

Of course if you're depressed doing stuff is much harder. Hang in there and hopefully things will be better!

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I'm sorry you're suffering with these negative thoughts. I can relate because I do the same thing. My bf is always so positive where I will burst into tears from the thoughts in my head. He's always saying how I make such a big deal about everything and worry myself too much. I'm on medication (bp 2) but meds can only go so far as far as changing our train of thought. I think this is where therapy comes in to help. I know I need to start therapy again like yesterday! I would highly recommend it for you and maybe a PRN med for anxiety if you're already not doing these things. Other than that just try to be positive. I know it's easier said than done but we can really brainwash ourselves in the long run.



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[RomanSunburn]

I'm having similar issues with my anxiety right now...

Something that sometimes helps me is to write it all out. For me, journaling helps me "put it away" for a bit, so that I can start getting work done and stop focusing on the negative thoughts.

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IrisBloom: yes, its torture and i cant think positive since its the future that gives me more troubles with anxiety. i see all black. how can i imagine something positive when i dont believe it could even happen? that would be deluding myself. and i cant get excited about anything anymore. have lost any interest about anything. im seeing a psychiatrist, a regular T and and DBT T.

Fuzzybear: i cant practice mindfulness. i honestly find it meaningless for me. but thank you for the encouragement.

Superfly: yes, i think too much. i dont have hobbies, interests, activities to do or that i enjoy anymore. except coming here online.

RxQueen: thanks for understanding. as isaid i see the docs but they dont seem to help

RomanSunburn: i do write everything in the posts here and in a journal i keep but it doesnt help much i feel like im going crazy.

Thanks everyone for responding,
im just having a bad day (again)