Having a hard time

I'm sitting here trying to figure out what to say here. I'm just not used to putting my feelings out there, but I know I have to get this out.

I'm so anxious and nervous right now. I get this way when I'm alone. My kids are all at school and my hubby is at work, and I'm left here to feel like a nervous wreck. I don't know what to do about it. I don't know what to do with myself. I have plenty of laundry and house cleaning to do, but I am so anxious that I feel like I can't even move.

I hate the mornings. They always seem to be the worse time of day for me. I don't know why, but the mornings make me feel like this. I wish there was something I could do to make myself feel better. But there's nothing. I just have to sit here and tough this out by myself.

I've tried going back to sleep, but I can't. It feels like I'm going to explode.

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So sorry you are feeling this way hon

How are you breathing Jenn? Short and fast? If so, try concentrating on slowing your breathing down....deeply and slowly in through your nose and slowly out through your mouth. That will do a number of things for you...first it will help get much needed rich oxygen to your body and brain and secondly will get you thinking about something other than the anxiety right now.

How about going for a brisk walk around the neighborhood? If you can do that...maybe a little exercising in the house? Stretching is great for the body while deep breathing.

So glad you posted ... I do so hope you are feeling better really soon.

Much Love
sabby

Can you go outside and ground yourself with the cold or the cars passing in the street? Life going on? When I was having trouble with alone, I'd go to the library or the local convenience store or library, somewhere I could see people and talk to them minimally if I could. Just interacting with a "live" person use to help me some.

Have you ever tried meditation? I generally have bad mornings too. Would often keep me from sleeping. If I feel good at bedtime I dread going to sleep and waking up feeling poorly.... crying before I even open my eyes.

Now I start each morning with a quiet time of meditation and positive self talk. I take the time to focus on my breathing and centre my thinking before I engage in the world around me. Before any of the days planned activities are allowed in my head to crank up the anxiety I level myself with calming messages.

I prefer being alone so I can't relate to how you feel when everyone leaves the house for the day. That's usually the moment I say "Yah! I'm alone again." My anxiety starts again when school is out and my alone time is broken. I usually have a short quiet time again before my son gets home so that I'm ready for the change of pace and energy.

It might help if you engage in doing things that you would normally do alone even if there were people in the house with you. Maybe a relaxing bubble bath or give yourself a facial or manicure. Pamper yourself a little and try seeing the time alone as time to attend to your personal needs.

Getting outdoors with nature is always very grounding for me. Greeting neighbours or going to the park to play with the children or chatting with the moms and dads can break rountines enough to have a calming effect.

Hope things get better for you. It's no fun starting our days with a cloud over our heads. It is a head game we are playing with ourselves. Talking ourselves into doing the things that we least feel like doing. I know the call back to bed all too well. It usually leaves me wanting more because it's just a delay tactic that doesn't work. What I was avoiding is always there when I wake again or finally push myself into action.

Love yourself.....

Hi Jenn

don't think I've ever posted in this forum before..... my current T. thinks I'm in denial about anxiety.... so thought I'd take a look here.....

Anyway, I feel like you do sometimes at home alone..... for me it is the absence of noise that makes me feel this way..... so I put on some loud music and vacuum, or put on a favorite movie and dust, or just turn on the TV and do the dishes....... for some reason just hearing other people gets me going a little.....

Well, just wanted to share another idea.... I'm so sorry you are struggling at the moment.

mandy

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(((MP)))))))))))
so sorry you were feeling that way, I hope it has past. Mornings can be the hardest for me at times
very early that is

Dear MP,

I just wanted to say that I understand and hope that you are feeling better. Besides, mornings were made so that roosters will have something to talk about. Ohhh Man...I know that was a really bad pun, but it just might have made you smile! Any way, many hugs heading your way.



Take care,

David

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I hear you hon....I'm on my own too I'm in my comfort zone posting here right now, but I will grit my teeth, do 15 mins step on the bottom stair vigorously and get on with the chores...hugging you, sorry you feel so anxious.....I have to make myself ove, no matter how anxious I feel and do something, usually helps to listen to fav music too.....

takce care...Jinny xxxx

Just wanted to check that you're ok. Was this a one-time thing, or does it happen every morning? I hope things are better.

hugs to each and every one that responded (((( everyone ))))
I'm feeling a little bit better today. My kids had a snow day so they've been here all day with me. I finally got myself calmed down some yesterday by breathing like y'all told me to. It's amazing how that works. I still ended up taking a klonopin, though. Sometimes they help and sometimes they don't. Luckily it helped this time.

Yes, this happens to me every morning. Unfortunately. I panic and stress out and don't know what to do with myself. But after morning passes, I seem to calm down some.

David, you did make me smile with that post of yours! Thank you! lol

Ok, this is going to sound lame, so forgive me. In the morning, I like to watch Rachel Ray and have breakfast and a cup of coffee. If I'm still lonely, I turn on The View. This little routine saves me from feeling the initial loneliness. I always feel more vulnerable when I first wake up.

If it's feasible, having a cat really fills up the space.