does anyone elese avoid doctors

Hi i know a few a you from another board..but here i am again.. I seem to have a problem with doctors.. My mental health doc is the only one i go too and i miss most of those appointments... but i need to go to my reg doctor but i cant get my self to go.. See about 5 years ago, i would go to the doctors about everything.. i guess i didnt know when you have pain in your chest it may not be a heart attack.. and they did test on me I never want again.. now i dont go to the doctors at all and my chest has been hurting again..but i feel so stupid because i cant tell whats real and whats in my head..

does anyone elese feel this way..

(((((((((((sweetie))))))))))))
I can't stand going to the doctor and I have to be pretty sick to go to one. I always feel like they treat me different because of my mental issues.

I would find a doctor that has nurse practioners working with him/her and see one of those for a full checkup. They are not as scary to me and don't make fun of or humiliate me.

Your chest pains could just be stress but it could be comforting to get them checked out and maybe a few minor things taken care of. Relieving some stress is always a good idea. And seeing the doctor, you won't have to do it again for awhile, it will be behind you and you'll be able to feel relieved instead of further stressed because you have a hard time going.

I avoided having a physical for years. But once I went, it was ok, and now I go regularly. I have to see my pdoc monthly & I'm pretty comfortable with her. My real phobia is dentists. I avoided going to the dentist for 10 years and as a result had to have 14 fillings done and the scaling was really painful. I'm going to be good about going for check ups from now on.

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oh dont get me started on dentists... i still have my part of my braces from when i was 13 and im 39 now... I guess ive been avoiding doctors for a while...

I guess going to the doctors i have 2 fears..
1. they will be something wrong with me
2. they will be nothing wrong with me and i will look like idiot..

at this point i do not know what is worst..

If they find something wrong, it's better to find out about it early when they can do something about it.

If they don't find anything wrong, you're perfectly normal like thousands of people who go for annual physicals every year and don't have anything wrong with them.

Don't know where you're at protocols vary from country to country, but you're coming up on the age where they may want to do a baseline mammogram, I think my Dr. told me she wants me to have one at 40 so that they'll have something for comparison in the future.
So that's something to think about. And really Dr.'s are used to nervous patients. They don't have to be scary.

I'm slightly nervous about going to doctors because I'm worried that nothing will be wrong with me and I'll look like a hypochondriac.

I like my pdoc (which is really obvious for those of you who've read my posts, lol) but I get really anxious during my appointments with him. My blood pressure is usually around 110/60 when I measure it but it shoots up to the 140/90 range when I'm at his office. He says it's "White Coat Syndrome".

I have a phobia of Drs. I only go if i absolutely have to! when i sit in the waiting room im almost in tears for no reason due to fear lol

I rarely go to see my GP . He is one of those who is not at all helpful if you go about a mental health problem but when you go about a physical problem he will do the It's to do with you having a mental illness' bit.
Now i accept there can be a mind-body connection but not all physical things are a due to one being mentally ill.
When i do go he tends to make me feel 6 inches tall.
I also don't go because basically he is an awful doctor. He was terrible when it came to my late wife's problems.
For example putting her on an asthmas pump and telling her she should take it as required as opposed to twice a day. Failing to treat a post operative infection from a lumpectomy she had(she was prone to post operative infections) resulting in radiotherapy being delayed several months while community nurses came into treat the gaping wound that resulted.
One time the community nurse even phoned to ask him to make a home visit because she was so concerned. He wouldn't and i had to go along with her to the surgery.
Then there was the fact that he and the practice nurse wouldn't believe me/didn't pay attention when i said i was concerned about my wife re memory and behaviour problems. They acted as though i was exaggerating because i was mentally ill. This meant i was left struggling for ages before i could get anyone to take on board she had problems.
Which was bad for her and didn't exactly help re being mentally ill and the stress.

On top of that mistakes when it came to prescriptions . These if repeat prescriptions being done via computer by the receptionist and then taken into the doctor for his signature.
One time they put her down for a beta blocker when it should have been an anti arthritis medication.
Another time i went about a water infection problem. He spent a couple of minutes looking through his drug book and wrote out a prescription.
When i gave it to my local pharmacist he turned round to me and said 'What did he use? A third world medical book? There's no such thing!'
He like my doctor is Asian so he was not being racist.

I have not been in the surgery since a few months before my wife died nearly three years except to pick up my repeat prescription.

I can change gp but last few times i checked there was not a place available at another Gp within the catchment area.

im so sorry for what you went threw. .. i will never understand doctors.. your wife was lucky to have you.. sometimes the people around us can do more than any doctor can.. just by hearing us.. I hope you can find a doctor that you can trust.. thank you for sharing what you've been threw.. and i completely understand what holds you back..

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im so sorry for what you went threw. .. i will never understand doctors.. your wife was lucky to have you.. sometimes the people around us can do more than any doctor can.. just by hearing us.. I hope you can find a doctor that you can trust.. thank you for sharing what you've been threw.. and i completely understand what holds you back..

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I'm not sure she was lucky . I did my best but didn't always do very well as i got stressed a lot and i do not handle stress at all well.
I still beat myself up quite a lot and the guilt surfaces from time to time.
Then at other times i can rationalise it and say that i was mentally ill not even getting the help i am now(which isn't fantastic) and trying to look after a very ill wife in a very stressful situation and that both of us should have had a lot more help.

I do not know what the situation is like elsewhere but here in the UK social services are very reluctant/slow to provide support for a relative/partner looking after someone with dementia.
When my wife was eventually put in hospital to be assessed 90% of the relatives who were coming in to see there husbands/wives/mothers/fathers etc were on tranquillisers themselves as a result of the mental strain of coping while they waited for social services to provide support/their relative to be assessed.

your wife was lucky because she had you fighting for her.. see in a way i can relate with you.. i had just got married and my husbands dad had a stroke.. his wife left him because she did not want to care for him me and my new husband moved in with him and i was his sole caregiver... it was the hardest thing ive ever done and i would not of changed the time we had together.. i to made so many mistakes and i always look back and think i could of done this better or that better if i would not of had my mental illness.. i took care of him for 3 years with his stroke and then another year with a stroke and colon cancer he died sharing his life with me and then my husband left me.. he said he knew right after we were married he didnt want to be married to me but i was taking care of his father.. I was so lucky to be able to spend that time with my father in law.. and even thou i was not the best most of the time he was glad i was there.. he told me he was lucky to have me and im sure your wife felt the same way..sometimes doing your best is best that could happen... hugs...pam

I have found that I avoid my doctor appt that are not of a serious nature these days....... hope those doctors do not stop seeing me as a patient.

I hate going to the doctors, I always get so nervous.
Every time I go and they take my temp it's elevated and my pulse is always high.