How can I help my husband's anxiety?

My husband has really bad anxiety. Sometimes he's ok, then all of a sudden he gets paranoid and delusiional, then it turns to anger. I have anxiety too, so I can relate to some of what he's feeling, but I take meds for it. He refuses to take meds or even go see a shrink. It's getting hard for me to control my anxiety when I'm around him. When he gets angry, my anxiety goes through the roof, I dont think any meds could help that. He doesn't use physical abuse, but it's more emotional abuse, because we are so close that I can feel what he's feeling.

I try to help him by telling him to not sweat the small stuff (he has horrible road rage). And I encourage him to not depend on me so much. I always have to answer the phone, make appts, have everything in my name. And he gets so paranoid and acts like it's the end of the world when even something little goes wrong. I remember being like that and I told him it doesn't have to be this way, he can get help. I've even offered to make the appt for him or go with, but I don't think he would go. I don't know what to do, I think he might be bipolar because of his sudden mood swings, or could that just be anxiety, coming and going?

I just don't know if I can take much more, I might have to go on stronger meds to deal with it. I love him with all my heart and I just want him to be happy and not worry so much about everything. I love his passionate personality, but it just gets out of control.

well. i might not be much of a help really, but i had terrible anxiety at one point and after a while the doctor had me on meds which made it worse. So i started self medicating myself with energy drinks and lots of caffeine to force anxiety upon myself, after about a week or so forcing anxiety upon myself with lots of caffeine and energy it went away. So maybe that can help, fighting fire with fire. Although if he drinks/eats alot of sugar or it is caffeine that is causing he should not drink caffeine or consume high amounts of sugars. My friend had that problem the reason he had anxiety and that worked for him. Well hope i helped a bit =\ good luck and cya

i would say stand by him, but it seems you are already doing that. Im in the opposite situation, im the 1 with anxiety and my husband does not. So Im not really sure how to help ya.

Help him to get help.. I find that us men are typically less willing to seek out help.