Husband's birthday

My husband died 6 yrs ago and I still think about the life we could have had...should have had. Today is his birthday and would have been 56 if he were alive. Some days I wish I could just let go...but after all these years I still have troubles...

Happy Birthday Dana......Miss you horribly
Snow

((((((((((snowflake))))))))))

{{{{{ Snowflake }}}}}

I'm so very, very sorry.

((((snow)))) I know how hard it is. august 14 marks the 5 yr anniversary of my late husband. His bday is Sept 3 and I don't think there is a day goes by that I don't think about him. you are never alone hon.

Snowflake,
I join you in saying happy birthday to Dana. Today is the 14th year anniversary of my son, Travis', death. I have plans to have my grandson(my son's child), his friend, and my nephew over for hotwings, in a couple of hours. it sounded like a great idea until today. All I want to do is stay under the covers. They gave the the opportunuity to call it off, but I'm going to go throught with it. Snowflake, it's so hard for me to let those close to me know that i am hurting, to be needy brings up feelings of shame. But maybe it's ok to let people who love you know that you are hurting, and that you need them. Maybe we'll laugh, eat some hotwings, watch a movie, maybe i'll cry, maybe i won't. But to be free to be where i am emotionally is what matters. Sorry to run on like this. as you can see, i can so relate. Is there someone you can be with, talk with, just be yourself with and cry if you want to? maybe that's the answer. Giving ourselves permission to grieve, to hurt, to miss our guys. And to surround ourselves with one or more people who love us enough to share our pain.
God bless you snowflake,
dorsey

(((snowflake)))

Thank you everyone for your replies. I haven't read everything or replied because I am to emotional yet. As I have read some of your replies and I am typing this I am letting the tears slide down my cheeks. I can't read all right now but I will come back and reply to each of you. I am not sure if they is making sense to you...I hope it does.

Thank you all.....I will be back to reply when I am less emotional.....
Snow

(((((((((((SNOWFLAKE))))))))))). Happy Birthday to your husband. I am very sorry for your loss, and I hope you can enjoy the memories of your husband in the future when the pain has subsided. Take care of yourself SNOW. Soidhonia

those special days like birthdays and anniversaries holidays are always so hard to deal with. I know I understand hon and I am sure others here do as well. we are here when you can be hon.

(((((((((((((((((((((((( snowy & Dana ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry I didn't see this thread before now. How blessed you were to have Dana in your life and as your love and partner. I'm so sorry the pain of missing him is so great now. I have no doubt he is with you 24/7, sitting next to you always, looking over you and caring for you in his own special way.



Love & Hugs
sabby