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Old Feb 25, 2009, 03:02 PM
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That's why I'm going to talk to my dr about it and find out. It wasn't online, it was in Connor's psychology lesson.

Thank you, I didn't realise I had any control at all!
Thanks for this!
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Old Feb 26, 2009, 04:05 PM
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WOOHOOOOO!!!!

I have beaten my slight fear of heights!!! YAY!! I did some climbing, abseiling and tight rope walking activities today. Four hours and *phew* am I knackered?! But it was all worth it!

I did the scariest bit first, the tight rope walking :/ I screamed once and then started laughing at myself and carried on walking. I started finding it hard to breathe but, whilst attatched to an abseiling/rock climbing rope, I knew i was safe and I did it!! All 3 levels!! Woooo!! And that was just under 60ft!

Then, I did the climbing wall. There were a few loose grips, so I slipped a few times :/ but carried on! THEN came the scariest part!

There was a pole to climb up with little metal bars that you have to thread through the holes as you climv up, with an "eagle table" on top, about 1.5 ft by 1.5ft. That was the hardest part. Getting onto it was incredibly scary because the whole thing wobbled as you got nearer to the top! I got there and knelt, looking down (big mistake!) and Eeeeked, but then slowly stood up and spread my arms wide Then Andrew (a key worker here, who took us 3 - me, wayne and ollie) climbed up and we held hands and leaned of opposite edges! :/:/:/ Then abseiled down.

The worst part to come was after lunch. Dave, the instructor said "Mike, get the trapeze moving towards the pole a bit closer" uh-oh. Ollie said "Aha! We have to jump from THAT pole, to THAT trapeze!" I stood there and melted.. "WHAT?! No way!!!" but.. Andrew did it and he reached. I did it and fell. What a knock of my confidence, after spending about 5 minutes contemplating just not doing it. I almost cried, but just let myself abseil down. 2 attempts and fails later, I still wasn't giving up hope. I HAD to do it!! So, they moved the trapeze about 2cm closer to the pole (I was the shortest out of us all!! They were all between 5ft 8 plus!!). One more jump and... Everyone in the group next to us for buiding confidence against fear of heights, gasped as I took the 'Leap Of Faith' aaaaand... CLANG! My hands grabbed the bar and I screamed "YAYYYYY!!!" and got it all on video! :/ scary stuff, but it was immense. Definately something to be done before you die! My first attempt ruined my arm, though, because I grabbed the bar with my left hand and it slipped and I fell, pulling the muscle.. Possibly tearing it :/

But I DID IT!!! I Finally did it!!! So I am sooooo pleased with myself and I want to do it all again! I still have a tiny fear there, but.. It's better than ever! Woohoo! I beat it!

There are going to be videos up on youtube of all my attempts, fails and finally, my win It was so great to feel that bar between my fingers and to be swinging over 60ft in the air on a trapeze! It was funny, though, when the person who was in conrtol of my rope was stood saying "Come on, Kirst, you can do it, jump with all the strength you can muster!" and I said "I'm scared I won't reach it now! I'm shaking my butt off!" and then I jumped and everyone gasped as I jumped, then broke out in applause and "woohooo's!!!" Funny, too when I kept saying "are you ready? Sure you're ready? Really ready?" On that last one, Andrew started counting 3-2-1 and I jumped before Mike could even answer!

OhMyGod I'm sooooo excited and chuffed with myself! I just can't believe how determined I was to keep puffing up that 60ft pole and struggle onto the tiny platform, then jump with all the effort I had left and finally make it

*phew* I'm exhausted now, but just so full of adrenaline from all those jumps and balancing acts etc. I'm on such a high!

When i finally did it, I said to everyone "My job here is now DONE! Wicked! I did it!" and the confidence building group all came over and clapped again saying "that was great! Well done! Good on ya!" Teeheehee. I'm so exciteeeeeed! And proud
What a wonderful feeling tackling the world one stsep at a time. Congratulations
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Old Feb 26, 2009, 04:41 PM
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thats awesome, you should be proud. congrats

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WOOHOOOOO!!!!

I have beaten my slight fear of heights!!! YAY!! I did some climbing, abseiling and tight rope walking activities today. Four hours and *phew* am I knackered?! But it was all worth it!

I did the scariest bit first, the tight rope walking :/ I screamed once and then started laughing at myself and carried on walking. I started finding it hard to breathe but, whilst attatched to an abseiling/rock climbing rope, I knew i was safe and I did it!! All 3 levels!! Woooo!! And that was just under 60ft!

Then, I did the climbing wall. There were a few loose grips, so I slipped a few times :/ but carried on! THEN came the scariest part!

There was a pole to climb up with little metal bars that you have to thread through the holes as you climv up, with an "eagle table" on top, about 1.5 ft by 1.5ft. That was the hardest part. Getting onto it was incredibly scary because the whole thing wobbled as you got nearer to the top! I got there and knelt, looking down (big mistake!) and Eeeeked, but then slowly stood up and spread my arms wide Then Andrew (a key worker here, who took us 3 - me, wayne and ollie) climbed up and we held hands and leaned of opposite edges! :/:/:/ Then abseiled down.

The worst part to come was after lunch. Dave, the instructor said "Mike, get the trapeze moving towards the pole a bit closer" uh-oh. Ollie said "Aha! We have to jump from THAT pole, to THAT trapeze!" I stood there and melted.. "WHAT?! No way!!!" but.. Andrew did it and he reached. I did it and fell. What a knock of my confidence, after spending about 5 minutes contemplating just not doing it. I almost cried, but just let myself abseil down. 2 attempts and fails later, I still wasn't giving up hope. I HAD to do it!! So, they moved the trapeze about 2cm closer to the pole (I was the shortest out of us all!! They were all between 5ft 8 plus!!). One more jump and... Everyone in the group next to us for buiding confidence against fear of heights, gasped as I took the 'Leap Of Faith' aaaaand... CLANG! My hands grabbed the bar and I screamed "YAYYYYY!!!" and got it all on video! :/ scary stuff, but it was immense. Definately something to be done before you die! My first attempt ruined my arm, though, because I grabbed the bar with my left hand and it slipped and I fell, pulling the muscle.. Possibly tearing it :/

But I DID IT!!! I Finally did it!!! So I am sooooo pleased with myself and I want to do it all again! I still have a tiny fear there, but.. It's better than ever! Woohoo! I beat it!

There are going to be videos up on youtube of all my attempts, fails and finally, my win It was so great to feel that bar between my fingers and to be swinging over 60ft in the air on a trapeze! It was funny, though, when the person who was in conrtol of my rope was stood saying "Come on, Kirst, you can do it, jump with all the strength you can muster!" and I said "I'm scared I won't reach it now! I'm shaking my butt off!" and then I jumped and everyone gasped as I jumped, then broke out in applause and "woohooo's!!!" Funny, too when I kept saying "are you ready? Sure you're ready? Really ready?" On that last one, Andrew started counting 3-2-1 and I jumped before Mike could even answer!

OhMyGod I'm sooooo excited and chuffed with myself! I just can't believe how determined I was to keep puffing up that 60ft pole and struggle onto the tiny platform, then jump with all the effort I had left and finally make it

*phew* I'm exhausted now, but just so full of adrenaline from all those jumps and balancing acts etc. I'm on such a high!

When i finally did it, I said to everyone "My job here is now DONE! Wicked! I did it!" and the confidence building group all came over and clapped again saying "that was great! Well done! Good on ya!" Teeheehee. I'm so exciteeeeeed! And proud
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Old Feb 26, 2009, 04:43 PM
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let us know when the video is posted, id like to see that. sounds very exciting.


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WOOHOOOOO!!!!

I have beaten my slight fear of heights!!! YAY!! I did some climbing, abseiling and tight rope walking activities today. Four hours and *phew* am I knackered?! But it was all worth it!

I did the scariest bit first, the tight rope walking :/ I screamed once and then started laughing at myself and carried on walking. I started finding it hard to breathe but, whilst attatched to an abseiling/rock climbing rope, I knew i was safe and I did it!! All 3 levels!! Woooo!! And that was just under 60ft!

Then, I did the climbing wall. There were a few loose grips, so I slipped a few times :/ but carried on! THEN came the scariest part!

There was a pole to climb up with little metal bars that you have to thread through the holes as you climv up, with an "eagle table" on top, about 1.5 ft by 1.5ft. That was the hardest part. Getting onto it was incredibly scary because the whole thing wobbled as you got nearer to the top! I got there and knelt, looking down (big mistake!) and Eeeeked, but then slowly stood up and spread my arms wide Then Andrew (a key worker here, who took us 3 - me, wayne and ollie) climbed up and we held hands and leaned of opposite edges! :/:/:/ Then abseiled down.

The worst part to come was after lunch. Dave, the instructor said "Mike, get the trapeze moving towards the pole a bit closer" uh-oh. Ollie said "Aha! We have to jump from THAT pole, to THAT trapeze!" I stood there and melted.. "WHAT?! No way!!!" but.. Andrew did it and he reached. I did it and fell. What a knock of my confidence, after spending about 5 minutes contemplating just not doing it. I almost cried, but just let myself abseil down. 2 attempts and fails later, I still wasn't giving up hope. I HAD to do it!! So, they moved the trapeze about 2cm closer to the pole (I was the shortest out of us all!! They were all between 5ft 8 plus!!). One more jump and... Everyone in the group next to us for buiding confidence against fear of heights, gasped as I took the 'Leap Of Faith' aaaaand... CLANG! My hands grabbed the bar and I screamed "YAYYYYY!!!" and got it all on video! :/ scary stuff, but it was immense. Definately something to be done before you die! My first attempt ruined my arm, though, because I grabbed the bar with my left hand and it slipped and I fell, pulling the muscle.. Possibly tearing it :/

But I DID IT!!! I Finally did it!!! So I am sooooo pleased with myself and I want to do it all again! I still have a tiny fear there, but.. It's better than ever! Woohoo! I beat it!

There are going to be videos up on youtube of all my attempts, fails and finally, my win It was so great to feel that bar between my fingers and to be swinging over 60ft in the air on a trapeze! It was funny, though, when the person who was in conrtol of my rope was stood saying "Come on, Kirst, you can do it, jump with all the strength you can muster!" and I said "I'm scared I won't reach it now! I'm shaking my butt off!" and then I jumped and everyone gasped as I jumped, then broke out in applause and "woohooo's!!!" Funny, too when I kept saying "are you ready? Sure you're ready? Really ready?" On that last one, Andrew started counting 3-2-1 and I jumped before Mike could even answer!

OhMyGod I'm sooooo excited and chuffed with myself! I just can't believe how determined I was to keep puffing up that 60ft pole and struggle onto the tiny platform, then jump with all the effort I had left and finally make it

*phew* I'm exhausted now, but just so full of adrenaline from all those jumps and balancing acts etc. I'm on such a high!

When i finally did it, I said to everyone "My job here is now DONE! Wicked! I did it!" and the confidence building group all came over and clapped again saying "that was great! Well done! Good on ya!" Teeheehee. I'm so exciteeeeeed! And proud
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Old Feb 27, 2009, 03:37 AM
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I got the disc through the other day, with the videos and pictures on, so will be uploading that very soon.

Not feeling so great today
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What's going on?
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Congrats on the acomplishment. We cant wait to see you flying high. No way you would get us on one of those things.

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I've just a real tough day of it today.. I'm so close to giving up.. I'm pretty damn fed up of this life I lead and I'm failing at everything, again.. Sigh. Everything's been wrong today.. The stomach pains have been bad again, my migraines have com eback and I keep getting dizzy spells and my Mum phoned me, and we talked about my Dad and my twin.. The twin bit got me angry and the Dad bit got me upset and the bit where Mum said "I hate that our family's falling apart. Your Dad would hate it too.." upset me and made me feel guilty because I *know* it's my fault that the family's falling apart..

I told Mum about my adoptive family and Bryony (twin) calling me fat and ugly and she was furious. I'll explain later what she said. Riggt now, I',m too weak and tired to do anything Anyone got any spare hugs to give?
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Old Mar 02, 2009, 09:42 AM
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TPND, I am sorry that you are having a hard time! You are the child in this family, why are you the one who is responsible for the health of this family? Your adoptive parents are the ones who had the power while you were a child. The health of your family was in their hands. It was never in yours.

Please don't see "set backs" as failures! Life is not supposed to be free and easy. Why do you want to see normal life ups and downs as your failures?
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Old Mar 02, 2009, 12:48 PM
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I guess it's because "normal life ups and downs" in my life, were always made otu to be failures by my adoptive family.. I don't know..

I had a pretty scary weekend, Connor came over and helped a little. When he left, though, I was way too close to cutting or OD'ing, but stayed in Charlene's room for the night, to make sure I'd be ok. We had a talk about our self harm and stuff and it was good. It helped a little, which is good.

Had the scariest night ever last night, though.. I couldn't convince myself that the voices, the visions weren't real.. They were real to me, they happened.. I saw it with my own eyes and felt it with my own skin. How can that not be real.. asically.. I went into the bathroom and out of the window saw shadows moving. I saw a blue torch shining in through the window, flickering in my eyes and then saw a face moving closer and closer.. I was so, so scared I had to escape the bathroom as fast as I could but they just wouldn't let me out.. The door wouldn't open. I felt so stuck, I started panicking but then allof a sudden the door opened.

Then, they were following me, shouting, screaming at me, telling me that if I didn't hurt myself then they would.. They'd make sure I didn't live to see another day. I was sat in Charlene's room on her bed, hiding the panic and such, when they stabbed me in the leg.. They grabbed my shoulders and shook me, stabbing me over and over and over again.. I was texting my friend, Tom at this point and he kept trying to reassure me that they weren't real but I just don't understand how it couldn't be real when I could see and feel it.. How?! They went away for a few months, but now they're back and they're going to kill me this time.. how do I stop them? They're going to kill me and everyone close to me.. Oh God.. What do I do???

It's horrible.. I can't let myself sleep, my body won't let me sleep because of the fear of them coming to kill me..
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TPND, I am so sorry that this is happening to you! Do you need to go to the doctor to discuss this?
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Old Mar 03, 2009, 04:24 AM
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It's ok.. I couldn't sleep last night because of it, I was constantly watching my back, wherever I went. I did some writing, which I'm going to post in creative corner and then just read my book for a while. Didn't sleep until about 2-3am and had to get up at 7.30. I'm going to go to the doctor about this at some point, I know I need to.. Just to make sure that something can be done about it.. I saw them again last night, heard them. I had the blade, I was so close, but then Charlene knocked on my door..

I've not gone to college today.. I feel like utter crap. I had enough sleep, you know.. The usual 4 hours is good enough for me.. But, I just can't face college today, not after the last couple of nights.. Last night, I stayed up for most of the night crying.. I didn't realise until I started speaking to Kevin, a counsellor who's a friend of my close friend's and who knows me quite well.. I found it easy to talk to him, and then started to realise that actually, there's so much hat i have just shoved to the bottom of the pit and not let go, not thought about, feeling I've not felt, things I've not done.. It felt awful and it was incredibly overwhelming, which, I guess is why I pushed it all down so much..

So.. I'm in a really overwhelmed state today, feeling really, horribly depressed, despite having taken my anti-d's and everything and I just really don't want to go to college today..

I'm going to email my tutor, see if I can go in to see her some time today, to talk about everything, tell her that a very, very close friend of mine died recently and I've been finding it hard to cope with and such. Let's hope she's symp[athetic to that and doesn't just say "well it's no excuse!" But then she can't say that, because I'll be saying that I know it's no excuse.

I really, really ought to go to my dr about this because it's now got to the point where it's disrupting my college course and making me fall behind, making me feel worse, making me fall behind even more and so on and so forth. It's yet another catch 22.
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hi ((Pain)))) i think sometimes in the rush rush of life we create for ourself impossible situations and then suddenly need to stop what we are doing, re-analyze the greater situation... college years are hard because in youth we know that time is passing and soon we are going to be the dreaded 'adult' ... many thoughts jam our thinking about doing now, enjoying later... pressure pressure pressure.. just remember, in the long run, your health is the only thing that truly matters... sending caring and understanding thoughts
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Thank you, nowheretorun. That was an inspiring read.

I'm trying to keep my health as good as I possibly can, it's not going so well, though..
I've taken the day off college, Connor's not happy about it at all, in fact he seems quite p*ssed off with me about it tbh. I just feel like complete and utter s**t today. I wouldn't function well in college at all. I'd be a mess and then I'd have to go home anyway.

Tom's been trying to make me smile. He always comes over to me and says "come on woman, smile!" and tries to push my face into a smile. It doesn't last long. I don't even realise just how depressed I look, just how.. How little I smile. it's horrible. I wish I could just smile. But it's just not that simple.
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Thank you, Sannah.. I really needed that
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