[jusmewho]

The frst thing I do is write a few paragraphs. (which is hard enough) and lost them somehow... OMG...
I am very unhappy.. and so tired of feeling like Im on the outside looking in. I know I have ADHD.. people have told me.. No Doctor.. just people I know and work with. Ive always known I have problems with concentrating... school was a nightmare and I opted out to smoke pot because, well I had to fit in somewhere..
I took the ADHD test.. affirming what I know... but what do I do now?
I can barely funtion.
I look back and remember having some self disipline when I was young..
but this is getting worse with age. I am 49.
Work is a nightmare when I have to do paperwork... sometimes I get into a rythem and until the phone rings or womeone interupts me it is good.
Sooooo... yes, I have all the problems that go along with this and am so very unhappy...

I want ot read and learn and grow.. etc.. etc.. but reading is so difficult right now.. I have stacks of books to read. I used to be able to do it where do I start? what do I do??

Most times I can laugh about all this confusion.. but I am tired of making myself the brunt of jokes at work. Right now I cant seem to locate spell check and am certain it's probably right there.

Could someone take a moment to maybe tell me something I need to hear?
I wold appreciate it soooo much... I am at the end of my rope... but know there is HOPE... there has to be!!!
what does add tags mean?

[sunshine88]

wow!!! i dont know how much help i can offer but i can tell you that you sound exactly like me!! i wasnt ever 'diagnosed' with adhd til high school, never did anything about it, but EVERYONE tells me i have it and i am always having to make fun of myself or laugh it off when others point out my flaws like being spacy, forgetting things, being slow, etc. all of that. i am 21 and i will agree that adhd gets much harder as you get older. it is almost like it is somewhat accepted when you are a kid; you can be the class clown/ whatever and thats ok, yet as you get older so much more is expected of you and people are less tolerant of you being late or forgetful or inattentive or jittery. i am experiecing those same problems and i'm finding it increasingly hard to adjust. the only advice i can give, since i clearly struggle with the same problems (also have a hard time reading) is to try to take it one task at a time, one day at a time. i am trying to do that in my life now. i have so much that i want to get done but instead of trying to do everything at once i am trying to work on one thing at a time. it is definitely a process but there is hope. i think add tags is just something you can add to let ppl know what your post is about. but anyway, know that you are not alone! =)

[jusmewho]

Thank you Sunshine!! Yesterday at work... my project took me ALL DAY but I ALMOST completed it... One step at a time!!
I was in a funk for sure when I wrote my first post.. We probably dont come here because we are Mentally Sound in the first place...!! But iot's all a process like you said... You DID say that didnt you???
That is another crazy thing I do... Make up my own conversations and only hear what I guess I want to hear..!! OMG...
Okay... I really am out the door to work... Thanks for the feedback and I hope you have areally good day today!!

Originally Posted by sunshine88

wow!!! i dont know how much help i can offer but i can tell you that you sound exactly like me!! i wasnt ever 'diagnosed' with adhd til high school, never did anything about it, but EVERYONE tells me i have it and i am always having to make fun of myself or laugh it off when others point out my flaws like being spacy, forgetting things, being slow, etc. all of that. i am 21 and i will agree that adhd gets much harder as you get older. it is almost like it is somewhat accepted when you are a kid; you can be the class clown/ whatever and thats ok, yet as you get older so much more is expected of you and people are less tolerant of you being late or forgetful or inattentive or jittery. i am experiecing those same problems and i'm finding it increasingly hard to adjust. the only advice i can give, since i clearly struggle with the same problems (also have a hard time reading) is to try to take it one task at a time, one day at a time. i am trying to do that in my life now. i have so much that i want to get done but instead of trying to do everything at once i am trying to work on one thing at a time. it is definitely a process but there is hope. i think add tags is just something you can add to let ppl know what your post is about. but anyway, know that you are not alone! =)

Originally Posted by jusmewho

I want ot read and learn and grow.. etc.. etc.. but reading is so difficult right now.. I have stacks of books to read. I used to be able to do it where do I start? what do I do??

Congradualtions on being in schol at age 49.

At this point in time I cannot read books. If i'm knitting while I read ,I can .

I usually end up having to reread beause I get ditracted because Im very visual . I learn visually . I have to see a picture in order to rememer. and I need movement.

I now only buy books on tape.

I don't know how you would get your text books on tape . Have a freind record them possibly.


How I made it through my first two years of colledge was to record all my lectures and listen to them over and over ,

In fact . The professor had a trick question on one of the tests . It was set up to catch those who were passing around old tests to the new students some were paying money for them .

I was the only one who got the right answer because I had his exact statements .

boy that was a memory I had long forgotten. I got an A in the class.
But it was very hard work for me to do that.


I am slowley reading a book called

4 weeks to an organized life

with ADHD.

its using visualization for organizing

there are exersiszes for visualizing / memory work

I belive writing out a list of what you want to do for the day

and at the start of the day befor you do anything . as in while sitting on the edge of your bed and not putting slippers on or going to the bathroom.

do a visual run through of what your day will be like .

and if you can't do the entire day . just do four things .

add in smells and tastses you might have say If you are droping the kids off for swimming clases . smell of clorine . for ex.

this will jog your memory in a way a written list will not.

so where are we... do a visual run through of what you want to do all the steps you can visualize.
and at the end of the day reveiew what you did what got you off track.

and if it was too much ramp down the amount of visuals.

I like that. Instead of not making a long list .

don't fit more visuals in that you can do in a day. LOL!

I know this works . many atheletes do it.

Could someone take a moment to maybe tell me something I need to hear?
I wold appreciate it soooo much... I am at the end of my rope... but know there is HOPE... there has to be!!!
what does add tags mean?

It may not be what you need . I know this is what will work for me.

you can also try to find an ADHD coach or a phychiatrist for medication.

a few other things I was reading tonight while I can still remember

those of us with ADHD are always "ON" as in GO and seldom stop . if we stop it means faliure to us.

we are also very rapid thinkers .

holistic and we stated at the end and tend to work backwards sometimes .

for me theres no linear nothing straight lined .

Im very hard to follow when I type my mind is always going from one thing to the middle to the biegingi and back .

Thats what makes it so hard to write papers.

I would also try to get a tutor who knows something about ADHD and the difficulties you are having with writing a paper. check the schools counseling offerings .

[sunshine88]

haha yes i did say its a process. thats ok, i hear what i want to hear too. thats what add is, selective hearing lol. i havent been on here in a while, like you said, we do not come on here when we are feeling mentally sound! hope you have a wonderful day and take it step by step. but dont forget to stop and smell the roses...or notice a butterfly... bc that is the beautiful gift of a.d.d. lol!!!