Do your Family or Friends ever ask....

"Did you take your medication?" "Is is getting time for your pill?" "Forget to medicate today?" Other such remarks

I am getting very disgusted and tired of being asked this every time a family member deems that I am acting hyper or otherwise. I was so fed up when asked this yesterday by an alcoholic family member. I (now regretfully) replied "I sure did, but the big question here is .....did YOU take your Antabuse (sp?)?" That didn't go over ...I wish I hadn't said it now, but maybe they got the picture.

What IS the proper way to handle these snide comments? I am sensitive to others and desire the same for myself. What works in this situation???!!!

When you respond to questions like that, it's like banging your head against the wall. Nothing gets accomplished. If there is a next time, try killing them with polite kindness. Something like, "I'm sure being rude and insensitive wasn't your intent; but thanks for your concern." And deliver it with a sincere smile if at all possible. Snideness kind of minimizes the impact. Once in a while, in this let it all hang out society of ours, people forget what manners are.

I often get....

"Did you take your meds?"
"Did you forget again?

It upsets me..

Thank you both for responding. Oh, there will be a next time...and another and another.

That's what troubles me. Why do some people think it okay to ask someone who takes "metal health" medication those type of questions? If at a family gathering... (for an example)...asking Uncle Bob if he took his Parkinson pill because you noticed his hand shaking...well THAT would just be cruel and insensitive. Why do reasonably educated family members/friends feel it is okay to ask ME if I have taken MY medication? Perhaps they feel that Uncle Bob has a "true" medical problem...and I am just a "nut", my feeling aren't as valid, etc. That is how it makes me feel anyway, no matter of their intentions.

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Well I have to say that I liked the antibuse answer...lol... but yes ..guess that might have not gone over well.

If you feel that you take your med responsibly and you realise the importance of the med then I think that you are doing what you need to do. Do you feel that the med is doing what it needs to for you?

My thought is that you need to have a little chat with people in your life that are important to you such as your parents or your SO or siblings (depending on each of these people's maturity and trust value.) I think that you can tell them that you are taking your meds in a responsible manner and do not find it humerous when you hear these comments and consider them unnecessary and disrespectful (if I am on target.)
You deserve to be respected for your responsible treatment of your condition.

If you have a person or two in your life that you trust to tell you if you need to be looking at your meds or your behavior, then you can trust them... You know this in your heart. You can arrange whatever with them....IF YOU WISH TO.... Otherwise.... yes those other comments are inappropriate.

I love yous guys! I always get the best responses, insight and compassion when on this site. Secret Garden, "you da bomb". I have read many of your post to others, and you really have wisdom and great a kind spirit. You too, Airway and LittleMiss! Thanks for all the responses. I appreciate it more than you know.

Oops! Love to you too, datlmhc! Thanks!

Simply answer the question , and be gratful for the feedback as a means of self observation, remember we kinda were people out

I used to get that all the time. I just tried ignoring them and that didn't work then I joined in and said it first so they couldn't say it to me. But, in the last 2 mo's I have found a doctor that finally prescribed an amphetamine (the depressants they gave me that I DID NOT need put about 20 #'s on me) anyhow, boom that was the start the beginning of a new life again. So, I am now on Adderall (2 weeks so far) and we'll probably need to go up a notch on the dosage but I feel so much better. Psychotherapy, with a cognitive type therapist, has helped tremendously too. But you must have the "right" one. Anyhow, as a young adult I thrived on "speed" because that was what helped me achieve and focus. Then, as I got older of course there were no connections. Now the Adderall has brought my focus back, well it is better but I have a ways to go. So, with all of this said, just beat them at their own game. Then, you're in charge, not them. You'll soon take the fun out of it for them and will find they will eventually quit.