Is it worth getting diagnosed by a therapist.

I have talked about this with my previous therapist, but not with my PDoc yet. What my therapist said was that most men are like this, and that now I'm a grown up adult with a job, it really doesn't matter. So that made me think of not bringing this up again at my PDoc.

But I understand that all those other things I'm suffering such as OCD, GAD, Insomnia and IBS are just symptoms from the underlying problem. I have taken several self diagnostic Autism and Asperger tests, and they all suggest a very high probability of high functioning autism.

I'm married in a dysfunctional marriage. I'm a software engineer in profession, and I can be proud of my career and achievements. I'm quite revered among my colleagues for my intellectual prowess in the field.

At school, I was considered a freak, and I would in many occasions ally with the bullied against the bullies. Many teachers has complained my parents that I'm not paying attention at the classes, because I do not look at the teacher and their eyes. But I do listen to every single word they say with undivided attention; only that they do not see me looking at them. But the wisest teachers know that I'm the one giving the most attention. Even to the day, I find it quite difficult to keep an eye contact.

I do several sports, but not any team sports. Archery and Badminton at the moment. Because even in badminton dual play I find it hard to keep track of the one other team member and coordinate.

I can't stand dumb people, and I get very irritated if someones stupidity bothers my matters. It is very hard for me to walk on a crowded street for a couple of reasons. I find it very uncomfortable to be touched by a stranger. As soon as I reach safe place, I need to wash away any dirt I got from people outside. When outside, I'm constantly worried if I would have dropped something, so I need to check the way I have passed, not just once, but several times. This irritates me, and specially when other people look at me and what I would be searching for, or to help me search what I'm looking for. It makes me feel pathetic. I just can't help it.

I can look at a bunch of numbers and see so many patterns. My field of research is Enterprise Intelligence, and it involves writing programs to see patterns in numbers and relations between pieces of information. I see patterns everywhere. When other people scratch the surface, I see through the flesh to the gears, nuts and bolts. Since I was like 8~10, I could take down a clock or a Walkman mechanism and put it all back together.

My mom says, when I was like 3~4, I was not talking and when I started speaking I was talking long sentences at a very high pace that many other people couldn't comprehend it. So my mom had to train me speak in a slower pace so other people can understand. My mother has been very helpful throughout my development. She is a science teacher with an old school diploma in child psychology. She knows I have been a different child, but probably does not know a word for that difference. About my current status of anxiety related complications, she often asks me "what are the problems you have to worry so much". But it is not just about "some problems"; anxiety can come out of nowhere.

Most of my childhood was spent with my grandmother, while my parents had their job far away. It is hard for me to explain emotions I have. Keeping thought records is a difficult thing. I have so many internal dialogues and trains of thoughts going at many directions at the same time. That could be one reason for being unable to fall asleep.

Those are just some stuff I'm/I've gone/going through. I do not know weather I should talk about this with my PDoc too. Maybe she has already figured it out.. Does it worth a diagnosis, and what (treatment) options would open after a diagnosis.

Telephone numbers do not stay in my head, no matter how hard I try. I can remember faces quite well, and draw a face rather than trying to remember their name. Only after so much effort and repeating in my head I can finally relate a name to a face.

The other problem when going outside is the noise. I NEED to have earphones or ear plugs when going outside or on a long trip. But when I was small, I would prefer silence for the most time, but enjoy some very loud music for an hour or so almost every evening. Now I do that only when I'm extremely pissed off and need some sensory overload.

Some music such as Linkin Park and Megan Brown I like very much somehow drags me to a deep abyss of depression, so I rarely listen to those even I would like them so much.

In my opinion, if knowing is important to you, even if it'd just make you feel better to know, it's worth it. Most doctors can't understand the validation/possible validation that could come with a diagnosis. Not to mention, it sounds like with the other issues you have it could definitely give you an explanation and maybe help give insight into how to treat them.

I'm quite worried weather Autism could be hereditary. My daughter is in a similar position when I was at her age. She is with her grand parents, and we visit them once or twice a month for a weekend. Recently I have noticed some autistic traits in her that bothered me since then.

Her toys are all categorized and in order. When she laughs, she laughs at nobody. If she is not smiling and asked to smile for a photograph, she would show all her teeth like in the movie terminator, emotionless. Likes to spin a lot when happy, and roll on the floor when unhappy. She has started talking full phrases after several months (almost a year) later than expected.

Just like me, she too finds it hard to communicate over a phone line, but neither keep an eye contact for a long time.

So, here is what happened to me in the past week. I have gone to a series of wedding celebrations in another state. It is colder and dry there. I also had to carry my office laptop computer, so I packed our largest travelling bag.

I looked into all the small details of things I should be carrying, even dental floss and Vaseline and rubbing alcohol. I also packed comfy clothes.

Shoes, the black leather ones - my wife reminded me several times; I packed them too. But for some reason it didn't occur to me that I should be wearing two separate suites for two days of the wedding.

They say the black leather shoes looks great on me. But mu legs still hurts after wearing them for two days - two days apart.

I has been like - other people supposed to understand that I would be packing multiple suites with a laptop and all those meds and supplements and nick-nacks in to this large but space-limited travelling bag to travel over 100's of miles. And I was only focusing my comfort and apparently been selfish not to be pleasing to the eyes of other people.

It really does matter only a little bit to me how other people think of me than how comfortable I feel. So my father-in-law was quite-not-amused and quite-not-pleased and quite-vocal about how shameful it would be to introduce me to all those people with the same dress as the previous day.

At the age of 32, I'm still learning the purposes of these kind of celebrations humans gather for. Even "Pride and Prejudice" failed to teach me this kind of interactions do exist.

I have read some about Aspergers since I had been married to a guy for 33 years in a total dysfunctional marriage. After I left, I needed to know what I had been dealing with all those years. Aspergers wasn't even diagnosed in the USA before 1994. In reading it did indicate that autism spectrum can be inherited. I don't know anything about my ex husbands family background. He refused to be diagnosed. The thing is that after I left I ended up seeing how dependent he was on me to take care of things & fix the messes he made when I tried to force him to be an equal part of the marriage. We were both computer design engineers mostly doing military contract work. He was good at his job but anytime he was required to work in a group situation, he ended up having problems & he moved around in jobs a lot. He got angry when he didn't get a promotion to a managerial level but he was incapable of managing people. He had a hard time grasping the concept that you don't get paid for a level of performance you aren't capable of doing.

Honestly from personal experience it might be good to get the diagnosis & maybe work with your therapist on some of the things that are making your marriage dysfunctional. I would hate to see your wife after years together get fed up living in the dysfunction & maybe leave when it maybe could be helped if you actually had the diagnosis.

His life is so messed up now (I left 10 years ago) but he can't get needed help because he doesn't have the diagnosis....he is so financially irresponsible it is very sad actually & there are ways to help but not without the diagnosis to prove help is needed.

I wish you the best for you & your family. It might be good to get a diagnosis for your daughter & they might be able to get it for you at the same time.

You have quite a load of things that seem to cause you concern. I think there is hope though. My son used to write his thoughts on little pieces of paper and save them. Example: "at school today, ryan lost his notebook." Clearly this isn't really an important thought to remember. And he had a big box of these seemingly irrelevant thoughts written down. So I can understand how some peoples' brains work very differently than other peoples' brains.

This is just one of about fifteen things he did that puzzled me. There was never a diagnosis further than OCD and anxiety. I think he's autistic, but I haven't pushed for that diagnosis, because he took the eleven suggestions I gave him (as an adult) and implemented those he chose. He didn't change all eleven things on the list, perhaps he changed 6 or 7, but with each one he changed his life changed. You see it's not possible to change something in your life and have your life not change. If you quit your, job your life will change. If you give up having a car, your life will change. If you stop bathing, your life will change. Anyway, you get the point. My son was unhappy from about age 3 until about age 24. He had to detox from 6 or 7 different meds at age 24.

Today, he's med free, anxiety free, OCD free and depression free. He still has some odd behaviour, but mostly he seems happy now. This is the list. I'm not suggesting this will change your life, I'm just saying this is the list I gave him that changed his life:

1. Dietary change - less junk and sugar, more healthy food
2. Less caffeine and no caffeine after 3:00 pm
3. Sleep schedule change - sleep from 11:00 pm to 8:00 am, instead of 3:00 am to 2:00 pm
4. Get a hobby or learn something new
5. Workout - walk, run, swim, hike - 3 times a week
6. Take supplements - lavender, ashawaganda, passion flower
7. Meditate or have some kind of spiritual thoughts or beliefs
8. Read a book, it doesn't matter what it's about, as long as it's not stuff you already know about - fiction is good
9. Be grateful - express gratitude for what you do have
10. Be positive - because positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative
11. Go to a dog park and pat someone else's dog (with permission) or get a pet

He didn't do all of these things, but he did enough of them that it changed his life. He went from detoxing from seven different meds and being angry and ornery for an entire year to becoming happy and pretty much easy to be around. He knows what he wants and just now graduating from university. He has a best friend and is very creative and productive with his time.

And he couldn't talk to the server in restaurants until he was about fifteen. I had to order his food for him. This is all different now. Really it boils down to behaviour modification, which he chose to do on his own, because he really didn't want to go to therapy. Although I think therapy is very beneficial and now that I mention it, it was the twelfth thing on my list. And I think you would benefit from Turmeric supplements. Turmeric is actually a spice, but it has great benefits to the brain. I take it, but it tastes bad, so I take Turmeric capsules. I can't eat Turmeric on my food.