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I don't know what's wrong with me. I have so many issues it would take years to fix me. I've managed to completely isolate myself.
It's so uncomfortable talking to my family. I really think I hate my mother 90% of the time. I'm too old to not have a single friend. If I died there would be no best friend, no co-worker who thought I was a contribution to the company, etc. I'm past the point of caring. I don't want to do anything. Just be by myself and dream about what my life could or should be like. I want to break out and be different but I feel like my family has put me in this spot. I can't stop being the person they expect me to be. I have a brother who moved to another state and just cut off everyone. He talks to people when he wants but will ignore everyone when he doesn't want to be bothered. He is financially secure independent. People in the family are always calling him for help even though he hasn't done anything for them in years. On the other hand I'm always doing stuff I don't want to do to please others. Many times they don't ask me to be self sacrificial or appreciate it even if they did ask. I do it anyway. Now I just want to be left alone but I'm lonely. Does that make any sense? |
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Zelev said:
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And since in our society of over THREE HUNDRED MILLION PEOPLE there are LOTS of the same kind of people, you can most definitely find quite a few others with just your combination of wants and needs. Quote:
Keep in mind, though, that NO ONE need go without a friend, or several friends. All it takes, in this internet age, is, first, a reasonably clear idea of who you yourself are, what needs, what desires, what characteristics, what preferences. And then, second, a willingness to get out there on the internet and CIRCULATE. Talk to people. Look for the folks who are your true relations. And THEY'RE THERE!!! No kidding. No ********. YOU WILL find friends on the net, people you can relate to, people like you, people entirely similar to whoever you may be. Quote:
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Most of what you say rings true...made me laugh at myself anyway. I'm like a little kid stuck in a time loop. I keep repeating the same stuff that doesn't work and then I get upset about it and do it all over again.
Most of my issues are with people I've known my whole life. I know there's a ton of people with different wants and needs but I either I put them into familiar categories or I'm focusing on people with similar personalities so I get the same relationships. Over and over again. Curious about this though: Quote:
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I've also completely isolated myself. It's funny how hurtful it is when family leave me to myself, even if I have chosen not to be a part of their lives.
I'm not a people person, but I crave a close relationship with another human being. I get the 'wanting to be left alone, but feeling lonely' thing. It sucks to have no one to share things with. But most people annoy me... how do I find people that I can stand to be around for more than five minutes at a time? ![]() |
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G'day iscarabaider
Aaarrrh the built in clock- where people have to prove themselves as warm and caring within 5 minutes or their out. Then they have to be able to maintain this warm with our "on the spot" without warning valuations. We push folks away not to feed the afterthoughts. You/me/us do crave belonging and attachment and the thought of rejection holds us away. I manage afterthoughts to allow people in- Yes, I'm selective to who... but that's my balance. Snap ![]() |
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