Bipolar disorder related in any way to wanting to run away?

blueoctober · Jul 13, 2010, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by MooLove25

I know all I can do is love him and support him...if he goes...then I guess I have to let him. I cannot force him to stay.

I think that is a healthy attitude. A relationship with a person diagnosed with bipolar can be a challenge at times, but really what relationship doesn't have it's challenges? Just try to keep things in perspective (I know it's hard) and try not to have the whole relationship revolve around bipolar. It's important for you to talk to someone about your feelings as well. Just because he is going through a crisis it doesn't mean that you don't have your own feelings that should be addressed.

I wish you the best of luck and as far as giving someone their space, I think you should honor his wishes, BUT I often have said that and it hasn't been the best thing for me. Sometimes certain modes of communication are better for me when I'm in major depression. Talking on the phone is brutal, seeing a person in person is brutal, but e-mail works because I can have time to think about my responses. I am definitely a person that requires more alone time than the average person, but when depressed I isolate myself and not having anyone reach out to me makes me feel even more worthless. Just a different perspective on this topic, because everyone is different.

blueoctober · Jul 16, 2010, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by MooLove25

I have actually been reading the book by Julie Fast and it has been extremely helpful.

Moolove, I LOVE Julie's book too, but I just read a review on a book in my BP magazine called "Living with Someone Who's living with Bipolar Disorder A Practical Guide for Family, Friends and Co-workers" by Chelsea Lowe (2010).

I haven't read it yet, but plan too once I finish the 3 books I have on the go right now! Just thought I'd suggest it to you. Hope it helps and I hope things are going well for you.

Special-K · Jul 16, 2010, 04:34 PM

My Dad died & I moved out of state leaving all my siblings behind. 5 years later I've woken up from that & very much miss my family. Now I'm trapped. So runing away, yeah I can relate.

johndsgirl · Jul 16, 2010, 05:53 PM

I know how you feel. Every time my boyfriend and I fight, I have Bipolar Disorder Mixed, he tells me to go back to Iowa. I think he says things like that to hurt my feelings, because I'm hurting his. Then we both calm down and see things in a new light.

I just got out of a ten day stint in the hospital. I wanted to run home to Iowa, but realized I'm 31 and my place is here. Tell your bf to think positive, of all the good times you've had. Maybe u 2 need to seek therapy together to determine his triggers and why he wants to run.

He may also need Inpatient treatment with daily therapy at a hospital to realize he doesn't want to go. That's what worked for me. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Parks · Jul 16, 2010, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Shakti

Solitude is 10000000% my best medicine (statistically impossible though that is

). No doubt about it. And it has no bearing on how much love I have for anyone...I can just think more clearly when I am alone, especially when I am in a mood episode, because I'm not having to worry about interaction with others (which can be frustrating for me anyway) and because I just genuinely love being alone. I enjoy my own silence, my own little activities and diversions (sip tea, read, paint, make jewelry, be in the woods, cook, bake, be in the ocean, go for drives, read books in French or Latin, write, organize stuff, clean, Buffy marathons, Film marathons, snuggle the dogs, make lists, yoga, lift weights, sing, dance, be both in and out of myself--whatever gets my attention), and whatever I want/need/wish to do when I am feeling low and can do by myself that I won't do with others (like most of that junk I just listed). I can lose myself in things that I enjoy and be in my own world and the rest of the frenetic craziness often falls away and things rewire correctly...much faster than they otherwise would have. It's a time to regroup and center--not a running away. It looks like hiding, but it's not--it's actually healing. Basically, solitude is peace for me. It's better than any pill. This could have more to do with my personality than anything else, but I think with relation to bipolar it is a common feeling that when we are in solitude we can control the incoming stimuli and begin to sort through our thoughts, whether racing and confusing or sluggish and confusing. I could be wrong, but I have found this to be generally true. Although...my personal circle of people in this world is very small. So one cannot apply my sample size to the larger population...it's just a hunch.

Shakti, reading what you wrote here I could swear you've been rummaging around in my brain. Solitude=Peace. That sums it up. I was first diagnosed Bipolar1-mixed episodes in 1982, and a Dr. I had for 6 or 7 years years at that time would tell me that I could never take more then 1 college course at a time because more would be overstimulating. Solitude is a must, but it is hard to get across to others at times. A bit of time to regroup and become less frazzled. Thanks for writing that so well.

intergalactictraveler · Mar 13, 2013, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Shakti

Solitude is 10000000% my best medicine (statistically impossible though that is

). No doubt about it. And it has no bearing on how much love I have for anyone...I can just think more clearly when I am alone, especially when I am in a mood episode, because I'm not having to worry about interaction with others (which can be frustrating for me anyway) and because I just genuinely love being alone. I enjoy my own silence, my own little activities and diversions (sip tea, read, paint, make jewelry, be in the woods, cook, bake, be in the ocean, go for drives, read books in French or Latin, write, organize stuff, clean, Buffy marathons, Film marathons, snuggle the dogs, make lists, yoga, lift weights, sing, dance, be both in and out of myself--whatever gets my attention), and whatever I want/need/wish to do when I am feeling low and can do by myself that I won't do with others (like most of that junk I just listed). I can lose myself in things that I enjoy and be in my own world and the rest of the frenetic craziness often falls away and things rewire correctly...much faster than they otherwise would have. It's a time to regroup and center--not a running away. It looks like hiding, but it's not--it's actually healing. Basically, solitude is peace for me. It's better than any pill. This could have more to do with my personality than anything else, but I think with relation to bipolar it is a common feeling that when we are in solitude we can control the incoming stimuli and begin to sort through our thoughts, whether racing and confusing or sluggish and confusing. I could be wrong, but I have found this to be generally true. Although...my personal circle of people in this world is very small. So one cannot apply my sample size to the larger population...it's just a hunch.

Yes, yes, yes!!! Exactly how I feel. In a 21 year highly dysfunctional marriage and me with treatment resistant ultradian cycling/mixed state bipolar, I've had this...feeling...just something in my gut, telling me, that if I was alone, not having to deal with my wife's meltdowns, drinking and obsessive worrying, I'd feel so much better(s-i-g-h) but as soon as she senses that I'm pulling away, well, she melts down and while I'm treading water, I have to keep her afloat in the middle of my own psychic storm. And if I could work, I would leave, but SSDI doesn't pay enough for me to live on my own. Divorce?

aquaman · Mar 14, 2013, 01:50 PM

I think about running every single day. If I did though, I'd drain my savings and go to Europe or the ME. The only thing keeping me here is my son. I just can't abandon him.

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