OK, help me out here, please...

So, as everyone knows, the hubs has been an FDB ever since I lost my job. Been home a couple of times and been a real jerk. Even up until yesterday when he knew he was coming home, he was still saying the same b.s. and saying he didn't know what he wanted, he didn't want to sleep in the same house as me, blah, blah, blah..Now, I just got a phone call from him, he'll be home in an hour or so and he's saying, "Nothing to worry about, I love you to death, everything will be fine!" So, this is what I want to hear, right? Then why am I crying and it's NOT happy crying?

dear PT,, you know you are on the rocky road to heartbreak one more time,, get HELP~!

I have an appointment in the morning - just had anti-D's added last week so they haven't kicked in yet...and I know I'm definitely stronger this time; I am going to make my expectations clear and if he isn't willing to work on it, then I'm outta here.

PT52! As a guess, I'd have to say because everything is so topsy turvy for you lately that it's putting you in a spin and not knowing what to think or believe from one minute to the next. That's very disconcerting! Frustrated and disoriented? I'd cry too... As "real life" is throwing you curves, remember we're here for you...

I'm glad you have an appt. in the morning. Boundaries and clear expectations -- good for you!

PT52; I'm sorry you are going through relationship troubles along with a new diagnosis. You have enough on your plate and don't need hubby to be a FDB. I hope you can get your meds worked out soon.

What's an FDB? Other than that you are getting mixed signals from your hubby. That would make anybody cry. Hang out at PC as you go through this for support. I'm wearing boxes of Kleenex on my shoulders if you need a human crying towel.

(((((((PT)))))) I'm really sorry you're going through so much stress I don't know any of the history with your hub so I'm not sure what is up with that, but mixed messages like that from a spouse are enough to drive anyone to the brink of despair. Let alone if you're already dealing with other stuff. I'm really sorry this is happening.

I hope the appointment tomorrow helps and I'm keeping everything crossed for you that things get resolved and that you feel better.

NF: an FDB is an f'n douche bag
Thanks everyone! Don't know what I'd do without you guys. Anyway, we had the serious talk and I think I really scared him this time because I had actually started packing things when I was upset yesterday. So he's asking for us to just take it one day at a time...he promised to quit bringing up the past (pre-diagnosis), which has been our biggest issue. So, fingers crossed, I got the old hubs back, hopefully a little wiser. Still depressed, though, but now I'm thinking it has more to do with meds.

Gotcha! We are here for ya (slaps FDB effigy upside the head). Keep posting!

Really glad you had a good talk. Big hugs to you (((((((((((PT)))))))))))))

(PS: PT had to explain to me what an FDB was too!)

I hope that you can work things out, but don't settle if things get worst. It is hard on my husband at times, he generally stays calm but the other day he snapped. I can't always explain what's going on in my head. I know it must be frustrating for him.

(((PT52)))
I'm glad your husband is willing to work on things. I hope he is serious about it and all comes out well. You really deserve to have a supportive and caring husband. Wishing you the best of luck.

So far, so good. I think he's really listening when I talk about gettings the meds balanced, etc, and how the depression isn't his fault, but he wasn't helping it any. Honestly, I think he was in denial because he was afraid I would be like one of my sisters who is BP I and doesn't do anything to help herself except self-medicating to a dangerous degree. Anyway, no rambling...the sun is out so I think I need to go sit in it for a while. Thanks, everyone for your support!!!!

We are here if you need us.

Wishing you well PT. It sounds like you are doing all you can to advance your recovery. Keep communicating and hopefully he will be up for the task of being supportive.

All the best, hope you can continue to communicate well... Love and hugs