[SunAngel]

I think having BP Disorder makes us so much for sensitive and feel things greater than people without BP Disorder.

I get hurt very easily, but when I feel hurt or offended, I come out fighting everytime. I have acquired this defense mechanism to deal with being hurt by people.

If, in the past, I got hurt or offended, I would ruminate on it for days until I got a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach and it was doing nothing except hurt me emotionally and physically, so now whenever I get hurt, I come out fighting everytime.

How about you guys. Are you easily hurt or offended and, if so, how do you react to it?

[Miss Laura]

Hey SunAngel,

Yip I am very easily hurt and offended. I take it very personally too... It always ends in me being a moody cow for days/weeks on end unfortunately

[onlymedid]

Oh yes, I am very sensitive and I hate it. I get hurt or offended super easy. I try not to let things get to me so much, but I don't know how to stop it.

[SunAngel]

How I learned to fight back:

I was so sick and tired of getting hurt, so I got really angry after a while and just started fighting back, and by that, I do not mean getting revenge. I tell people that it was very wrong to do or say that to me and set bourndaries with people.

So, instead of ruminating after someone hurts me, I get it out and feel much better afterwards because I let the people know who have hurt me, how they hurt me, and to never, ever do it again in a not such great tone of voice.

I have found this works so much better than keeping it inside and ruining your physical and emotional health. If people keep doing it to me, it becomes a very toxic situation, so I just remove those individuals from my life and let them know why I have removed them from my life.

[Hopeful55]

Originally Posted by SunAngel

How I learned to fight back:

I was so sick and tired of getting hurt, so I got really angry after a while and just started fighting back, and by that, I do not mean getting revenge. I tell people that it was very wrong to do or say that to me and set bourndaries with people.

So, instead of ruminating after someone hurts me, I get it out and feel much better afterwards because I let the people know who have hurt me, how they hurt me, and to never, ever do it again in a not such great tone of voice.

I have found this works so much better than keeping it inside and ruining your physical and emotional health. If people keep doing it to me, it becomes a very toxic situation, so I just remove those individuals from my life and let them know why I have removed them from my life.

My brother seems to do the same thing, I'm here for him to better understand him since he too suffers from bipolar. I'm glad to see this post since I sincerely don't know what or how to approach him when someone or myself has said something to upset him. I've always had a motherly structure towards him since it was just him and I growing up and especially after loosing both of our parents.

Thank you so much for this post SunAngel.

[Yesterdays]

I definitely get hurt very easily, and another thing I tend to do is overreact. I get hurt over very silly things and then I blow up at people and say things that I later regret. It's something that I'm working on, so hopefully I learn to cope in a better way than screaming at people and acting a lot less than my age.

[Miss Laura]

I am with you on that Yesterday. I over-react and then I end up blowing my top and then I am in the wrong but don't know that until I have completely mucked up. Then I am "the bad person" for a wee while as I have caused drama

[widgets]

I take everything so personally. Things people say to me translate differently in my brain. For instance
'I have plans friday,' means 'I hate you and never want to see u again.'
If my manager praises someone else at work, she may as well turn round to me and say 'not you mish, you're rubbish!'
'can you do the washing up?' and they only want me to do this because they purposely want to wind me up.

I often surpress all the feeling I someone hurts me be because I can't trust my own judgement, on whether it's 'how I see it,' or if it's 'real life and how it really Is'.
I feel like all our feeling, thoughts and emotions are heightened with bipolar.

Like if you only scored 99% on something you would immediately think yourself a complete loser. And that would happen whether up, down or level.

[~Christina]

Great topic for a thread )))))

I cant remember a day in the past year ( or more) that I havent been hurt or gotten offended ,, or just plain treated like Poo ....

Im working so hard with my T to learn ways of coping better and not just letting whatever happened to me circle around in my head for days or weeks like a shark .

Sunangel.. I applaud you for finding ways to keep the same people from hurting your feelings over and over. My biggest issue is my husband who isnt really being supportive to what im going thru, Im not sure at this point if the marriage will survive.. outside of my immediate family I have had to break ties with a few people because they thought it was fun to poke fun at me and make all the horrible " bipolar jokes"

Thankfully I could just remove them from my daily life.. the husband on the other hand isnt so easy to write off . LOL

Wishing you all some peace ~

[Ryask]

I get hurt easily, however i have decided it's not me being over sensitive, it's actually the fact that most people in this world are incredibly rude. I have HUGE anxiety involving others saying something rude to me. If someone looks a bit different or they are heavy or short or whatever i find the ones to point it out are children , mentally handicapped people, and actually the elderly. If i know any of these people will be at somewhere i am supposed to be i do what it takes to get out of going, if i do attend i normally break out in hives and then have a panic attack because i am so worried someone will say something rude, and it would be 100000000 times worse if someone said something in front of a whole bunch of people.... and if someone does say something rude, i "ignore" it for 5 seconds while i get somewhere quiet so i can have my panic attack in private. It's just easier to not go anywhere or see anyone ever....

[kindachaotic]

Yes, so much so that I get paranoid. Have I done something to offend someone or I've done nothing & am getting the snotty end of the Kleenex... Sometimes or a lot of the time I just avoid eye contact.

[Yoda]

No I don't usually fret too much unless it is an ongoing thing (such as my bossy sister).

[Confusedinomicon]

I do get offended easily and hurt but Ive learned to manage it better.

I second Ryask on the note that the world is full of rude people. Most times I get offended or take something personally, it's usually because I should. I only keep less than a handful of close friends & don't take acquaintance's opinions with a grain of salt. That implies that if someone says/does something I feel personally offended by; they are a close friend & there's a reason for me feeling hurt (read: pissed off & angry). Every person who has made snide remarks or who has attempted to push my buttons has been a poisonous person in my life & they have been thusly excommunicated. I don't allow myself to suffer at the hands of someone I am kind to.

[manicminer]

I have the exact same thing. It might be a minor issue, like being 5 minutes late for work or tripping in front of a group of people and getting made fun of. I will beat myself up emotionally about it for days and not be able to let it go. There are some things that happened earlier in life, that when I think about them I start to get mad, yell, call myself names. Its even gotten to the point I punched myself in the face. And the whole time I'm doing it I'm telling myself that its nothing and it wasn't my fault, its in the past and done with, yet it continues to haunt me and make my life a living hell. Even when my buddies give me crap jokingly, and I fully know they are only joking, I still take every word to heart and it continues to feed that voice in the back of my head that likes to tell me I'm a worthless sack of crap. A 23 year old Eagle Scout, Penn State graduate, completely independent with a high paying job is hardly worthless, and I know that and am proud of my accomplishments, yet I hate myself more and more every day.
Because of this feeling, I've never faught back against those that have actually hurt me or done something that was truely egregious or offensive. I've bottled it all up for 23 years and I'm afraid one day the right person is going to do or say the right (or wrong, depending how you look at it) thing that's gonna make me snap. I'm 5'9" 210lb and stronger than most, and I know from experience that when I go full blown manic I feel no pain. I was able to slip tight handcuffs off my wrists and tear through at least 5 layers of heavy duty trash bags with my forearms. That night left my arms black for a week because they were so badly bruised, yet I did it fairly easily. Having never thrown a serious punch in my life, I am terribly afraid that if that day does ever come I might end up killing the person.
So for now I still brush it off and shove it in that back pocket of my brain. But the walls are getting thin and its only a matter of time til it explodes. When that day comes, look out.

[Secretum]

I've always been emotionally sensitive. When I was a child, I cried whenever I had the slightest indication that someone might be thinking something bad about me. Now, I have certain issues that trigger my inner rage more than others. Due to a history of depression and depersonalization that stemmed from the depression, I have a hard time feeling "real". So, whenever anyone does anything that implies that I'm not as real and worthy as everyone else, I get very upset.

Since sixth grade, I have been a rather quiet person. Many people think that, because of this, I A). Have no personality or sense of humor, B). Am naturally meek and mild, C). Am a simple, one-dimensional person (i.e. being shy is my entire identity) and/or D).Don't have a need for companionship, love and respect.

These attitudes towards quiet people make me furious. I fantasize about getting over my anxiety and telling people who treat me this way just how I feel about it, which usually includes using certain four-letter words that they probably don't think I even know.

But that will never happen, so I'll continue to be treated like a stupid little invisible child indefinitely.

Question for other emotionally sensitive bipolar people: do you tend to ultra rapid cycle, or do you have frequent mixed states? I think those of us that do are more susceptible to being emotionally reactive.

[Cnytroxy1973]

I get offended very easily. It could be as simple as my roommate telling me that I spelled something wrong... to my daughter playing a joke or trick on me... (she is only 6) I want to explode when this happens..

[skilite]

Originally Posted by SunAngel

I think having BP Disorder makes us so much for sensitive and feel things greater than people without BP Disorder.

I get hurt very easily, but when I feel hurt or offended, I come out fighting everytime. I have acquired this defense mechanism to deal with being hurt by people.

If, in the past, I got hurt or offended, I would ruminate on it for days until I got a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach and it was doing nothing except hurt me emotionally and physically, so now whenever I get hurt, I come out fighting everytime.

How about you guys. Are you easily hurt or offended and, if so, how do you react to it?

One of the things I struggle with is that I don't do well with rejection and take everything personal. I do lash out in anger when people say disrespectful to me. I do consider other people's feelings when relating to them and never hesitate to put them in their place while I continue to find my own place. I make hats and donate them to people who need them or give them to thrift stores Helping other people feel better about their situations is one of the pure joys in my life. I give what I take and take what I give. It keeps me grounded. I pay it forward any way I can. Listening to music, reading and writing in streams of consciousness help me to temper my anger. What ever form of self expression anyone out there has know the feelings that come. from this. I liken it to healing myself from within I saves my from being a slave to my anger, and being my own worst enemy. Thank uou for the question. Be well.

[sugahorse1]

This is definitely something that resounds with me. I find this to be one of the biggest issues I have with dealing with BP. For me it triggers anxiety and often depression too. The stress of uncertainty is also something I battle with...

[rjaimz]

Yes I do. But I never show the feeling of hurt. I turn into a raging maniac. I get so angry at the person. I never show them any emotion but anger. I literally get so mad and upset.