[BlueInanna]

Just intercepted a call from my 16 yr old's meth dealer, told him he'd best not be calling my son ever again. I have told this guy before, but he keeps coming back like a sick predator. I have told the cops, they seriously couldn't have given a smaller crap.

Also, talked to my son again a few minutes ago, he asked if i'm really sending him to his dad's. I said yes. He said when. I said next week. God I hope he'll get on the plane this time. I better order up the ticket... mixed feelings, must stay strong and do this, for him to have a new start.

Oh wow Blue!!! I hope this works out, I really really do!

Does he seem okay at all with going?

Yes stay strong, You are strong!!!

Shoot, Blue I have to go for the night.

Thinking of you, please take a little time, to just breathe, and have faith this will turn around!!

[Victoria'smom]

I'm so glad you got a break even if it's a small break.

[Giabrina]

Yes, stay strong! It sounds like it will be good for him to have a new start! Is he willing to go?

You are doing the right thing Blue! You might get the jitters just before sending him. That's okay, your a caring mom so your supposed to. Just follow through for his best interest! The dealer won't be going away, and I live too far away to have a talk with him for you, so this is the best thing to do. You are strong, and just stay in that frame of mind until he is off. then it's okay to break down, but stay strong for now!

[~Christina]

Good for you taking that call !!! You have been thru the damn ringer with all this and I know your heart is breaking .. Stay strong and follow yo9ur gut feeling.

((( Hugs )))

[BlueInanna]

Gia - yes, I think he has come to terms with going. he very easily feels abandoned and so this has taken time for him to process in his head that this change could be good. he'll be living in a shack with no running water with his dad, but it is *on* the beach, sunset beach. very healing place, i've never felt so whole as when i lay in the shallow waves getting cuddled and rocked by mama island, mama ocean. and i'm keeping hope that he will one day understand that i'm not abandoning him, trying to give him opportunities, which he's been shutting out with drug addiction.

Dan, thank you. Yea i want to kill this guy, he's 28, hanging out with 16 year old and giving them meth. and you're right, he's not going away. my son ended up getting something and was high all night. altho, he said, mom it's not meth i promise, i'm just on acid and mollies(extasy i think). so it's a little crazy around here. very touch and go. yea, it's dad's turn to step up and take a turn.

my other ex, youngest's dad, is here today helping fix the doors and sheetrock the holes in walls. older son loves him so they're working on it together. so i'm happy to get ready for the appraisal. But the ex is detoxing from alcohol right now and doing manual labor so i'm a little worried about him. he's sweating profusely.. gets seizures sometimes when he quits it's a crazy life around here right now!

That's awesome that you found help getting your place ready for appraisal. Hopefully the better loan will go through and take some stress off of you!

[Victoria'smom]

I'm so glad things are coming together even if it's slowly.

mollies- A "legal plant food" pill that acts like Ecstasy and acid for about 16 hrs. Generally a EDM (rave) drug.

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

I'm so glad things are coming together even if it's slowly.

mollies- A "legal plant food" pill that acts like Ecstasy and acid for about 16 hrs. Generally a EDM (rave) drug.

omg like miracle grow?? how disgusting!!
(thank you for the info)

[MommaR]

I sent my 19yo to drug rehab. It was a success but he still has tons of legal reprecussions we are dealing w/. Im praying for you both. My son's DOC was strong pain killers. He almost destroyed his family (he is a daddy of the most incredible littel boy who totally deserves better)

[MommaR]

O- after thought- does your son have any mental health diasnoises? Many of those (self included) b4 received an accruate diagnoisis seek to self medicate the pain in their brains.

[BlueInanna]

yes he has a bp dx, and possible borderline, and he has a problem with cutting

but he's not med compliant, so probation or his dad are the next step...

[Victoria'smom]

Your doing the right thing.

Originally Posted by BlueInanna

omg like miracle grow?? how disgusting!!
(thank you for the info)

Hmm, here where I live Mollies are pure MDMA, which I think is a type of amphetamine. Very similar to ecstasy, and the names are often used interchangeably. I could be wrong, I don't use drugs, but I am sure that is what it is. Who knows tho, many drugs have so many and sometimes the same slang names. people often mix MDMA with acid or other psychedelics.

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by Anika

Hmm, here where I live Mollies are pure MDMA, which I think is a type of amphetamine. Very similar to ecstasy, and the names are often used interchangeably. I could be wrong, I don't use drugs, but I am sure that is what it is. Who knows tho, many drugs have so many and sometimes the same slang names. people often mix MDMA with acid or other psychedelics.

That sounds like what he was describing actually... mollies is short for molecular something. there's all sorts of synethetic acid even going around. i had no idea when i was a teen and partying, what i was putting my parents through, and it is just so much worse these days.

He confided in me yesterday that his dad called him and he wants to go out there, how much he's missed his dad, how much it meant to him to have his dad pick up the phone and call him... I think it must be good he's talking about his feelings.

[manic most days]

OMG!!!! Same situation RIGHT HERE!!!! Only difference is child on probation, probation allowing him visits with meth head, alcoholic, unstable father!!! Whom is telling my child I'm on drugs etc etc etc.
He is sitting in a shelter right now refusing to come home and over my dead body will he be going to his father's. My only saving grace in all this is children services will be getting notification from me, UA definetly being completed by me and demanding the same from his father!

Oh good Blue! maybe he is really starting to do some self reflecting! I hope sending him to his dad's will really help him make some strides.

It's very good that he's starting to talk about his feelings, I hope this is the beginning of a very good ending!!

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by manic most days

OMG!!!! Same situation RIGHT HERE!!!! Only difference is child on probation, probation allowing him visits with meth head, alcoholic, unstable father!!! Whom is telling my child I'm on drugs etc etc etc.
He is sitting in a shelter right now refusing to come home and over my dead body will he be going to his father's. My only saving grace in all this is children services will be getting notification from me, UA definetly being completed by me and demanding the same from his father!

mmd - what a horrible situation raising kids has been the hardest thing in life ever. i kind of knew it would be, had natural home births for all 3, knowing that no matter how painful, it was going to be the easiest part of parenting! and yea it was freakin painful from hell!! and now, with these teenage years, it just hurts so bad, parenting, so much of it is straight pain through the heart.

my son is on probation, for about 3 weeks now. the po talked to me and agreed to tell him he has to go to school full time, even the judge said she wanted him in a school for social adjusting. then po met with my son and told him oh ok online school is fine.

i had him put on probation at the recommendation of the doctors and therapists, but what a freakin joke. he has no fear of probation, and the po is softer than me. i shouldn't say my son has no fear of it, i know he does, but he pretends to be tough. he's a lost hurt kid with bp plus other stuff. Finding help has felt so impossible at times.

I don't know what UA is? i have been dealing with cps/child services, they've been minimal help. mostly they just make me more stressed out!

Luckily I get along ok with my ex's. This son's dad, seems to have had to escape society to do what he had to for his sanity. and he works now, doesnt do the hard drugs anymore, so i need him to take son. his turn...

[hamster-bamster]

I had home birth with my third child in 2000.

All of yours home births - wow, I am so proud of you!

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

I had home birth with my third child in 2000.

All of yours home births - wow, I am so proud of you!

Thanks Hamster Quite an experiance isn't it? My youngest was 10 lbs at 2 weeks early, 33 hour labor, I saw angels, almost had to go to hospital. He's still huge, he looks like a viking lol

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by BlueInanna

Thanks Hamster Quite an experiance isn't it? My youngest was 10 lbs at 2 weeks early, 33 hour labor, I saw angels, almost had to go to hospital. He's still huge, he looks like a viking lol

I have quite the opposite case. My daughter was also big - 9 pounds, born a tad early but with gestational age of 41 1/2 weeks. But now, she is the shortest kid in the classroom! Always has been, throughout elementary and middle school. And she is doing gymnastics - THE sport for short girls with athletic build. My former MIL is very short, so probably the short genes are coming from her.

I cannot even begin to imagine a 33 hour labor! I have had short labors - several hours and I was done. But there were pretty intense moments during those short hours!