Anyone give-up before the game starts?

Hi,

I'm posting this in bipolar, but that may be incorrect. As long as I can remember I've been very anti-competitive. I LOATH competitions of any kind, so I just give-up and do my worst to get out of playing. Even if I had a really good chance of winning.

In my career it carried over because I was basically run over by co-workers. I don't know why I do this - set myself up to fail. I guess some of it has to do with believing in yourself and your abilities, so maybe it's just low self-esteem.

I just wondered if this was relevent to anyone with bipolar?

Thanks for reading,

TnT

I am not a copetitive person. I don't like to compete. I think I do this sometimes. But, I don't think it's because of my lack of ability. I know I'm capable at many things. When I try even a little bit, I do very well.

Hey there, TnT ...
I'm not competitive, except with myself. I alway want to outdo what I did the last time. But others? No, I don't "race" well. There's usually an underdog who needs to win worse that I do & I'm fine with their taking it. I have no idea whether that's really a bipolar trait or not.
I don't set myself up to fail ... just manage to get out of competitive situations.

I feel the same way, too, ladies; however, it was my psychiatrist who told me that "you can either compete or not compete". Either way is okay. I began to wake up a little with that one, and it's true.

We live in a highly competitive society and have one of the highest drug-use nations in the world. If we choose not to compete (and as Roadie says only against ourselves) we may be doing ourselves a great big favor, in my view.

Life is much more pleasant not competing, and if people want you to do that just tell them that you are not a competitive person. Whatever they wish to do is fine with you and it's neither good nor bad; it's the equivalent of being an extrovert or an introvert--both are just fine; they are only two different types of personality.

When a psychiatrist says that, I believe it and I haven't had problems with competition since. Granted, I live very independently, but I like it.

Ladies, please relax and enjoy your personality just as it is. There isn't another someone exactly like you in the world, you know; you deserve to think well of yourself and I believe you do.

Avoid it. Hated sporting events in Primary school. Hated the 'who's the hottest' competition in HS, especially since I didnt knowingly enter myself, and only found out LATER, that I was in it. Never took part in sports, and stopped singing coz I was sick to death of hearing I MUST enter idols. Buuuut,like Roadie, I compete with myself. I just love beating my personal bests

I lile sports and lots of activities, but I am not competative at all. I just want to do my thing and enjoy. So I do sports that are kind of solo, snowboarding, bmxing, rollerblading, yoga etc. I noticed tho at work, and maybe for me it's not just competition, and I can be a team player, but I prefer to work alone too. I can count on me, and I trust me. I don't like having to rely on others for anything. I am competetive with myself, but only on things I am passionate about.

I think it's perfectly fine to not be competative. I always have been labeled as shy too, like it was a really bad thing. I am not shy tho, slighly misunderstood, but I "get" me. So I am good with that.

Thank you all so much for the comments

I always felt like such an oddball doing this in life.

Hugs,

TnT

I also am not one to like a team really. I like to do things myself and my way on my own. I only like to have a team if I really, really know the other person or people well and trust them. Everything you said makes sense to me.

I am the oposite. No one thinks I am shy, but I'm actually very shy. (I know, what?) I don't think it's shy. I think it's mistrust. But I think my pressured speach outpaces my desire to keep quiet. I'm weird. Very weird. Supposedly I'm schizoid. I don't seek out friends exactly. I want friends, though, but then I don't. I can't explain.