So i have a teenager who is 17. We r very close. We hang out together a lot (i was young when I had him.) I have babied him in many ways. I think I have done that out of guilt. One, for not having been a stable mother. Although he loves it when I'm hypo. Two bc his father hasn't been in his life much. Last night we were both excited about seeing Silver lining playbook.

When I recently went into that God awful mixed state he got a hold of his father. His father took him for 2 wks or so. I'm shocked by it.

So he comes back yesterday. I was so excited. Earlier a guy had come over to fix our hot water tank.....well my son hadn't bathed when he got home and come to find out no hot water. I'm making dinner and I call maintenance man. He had forgot to turn fuse back on or whatever. So no movie.

I have never hit my son. He is big, and he has used his size to intimidate me more than once. Well last night after not seeing him for 2 wks and that all happening, I was so freaking' stressed. I did and do yell, he absolutely hates it. I mean it makes him really angry. What he'll do is ask me ? After ?. "Why didn't he turn the fuse back on, where does he live..." it drives me nuts. So I will start off saying, "idk" he continues and then I yell "WHY DON'T YOU CALL HIM AND ASK HIM, IDK!!!"

We ended up having a wonderful night. We watched some shows he wanted me to see and he is so very wicked smart for his age. We both just really know how to push each other's buttons.

So my point....anybody have some ideas on how to respond when you feel harrassed and bombarded with ?s. Without responding by yelling.

[~Christina]

When I get question after question fired at me . I get angry ( typical response)

Now I take a deep breathe and say " okay lets try this one question at a time.

If the other person just keeps going on and on I remove myself from the situation.

Not always easy to do , loads of coping skills do come in handy .

I'm glad you and your son had a good nite

[Nessa213]

My husband does this to me all the time. He also has a crappy knack for timing and seems to ask me the litany of questions at exactly the wrong time. (i.e. 2 minutes before I need to run out the door to go to work and I'm already running late.)

I've told him before that this kind of thing bothers me and there's been a few times where I've responded with outright rage when I really didn't mean to. I can tell if it's a conversation that's going to head that way and before things get too heated I try to cut in with "hey, can we not talk about this right now, please?".

Something about adding the "please" in there at the end softens the blow a bit too.

I can then approach the conversation later in the day or several days later on my own terms when I know I can better handle it.

Originally Posted by ~Christina

When I get question after question fired at me . I get angry ( typical response)

Now I take a deep breathe and say " okay lets try this one question at a time.

If the other person just keeps going on and on I remove myself from the situation.

Not always easy to do , loads of coping skills do come in handy .

I'm glad you and your son had a good nite

Thx. Today was hard. Not bc of my boy. We saw silver linings playbook was ok not great and then dealt with a complete idiot at the store. I need my lamictal upped but have to do it slowly and whoa I'm struggling keeping it together. I have to admit something. I'm only taking 2 mgs of risperdal a day instead of 3. When I take that additional mg, I want to eat. I just cannot gain ANYMORE flipping' weight. Thanks, though it does really help me ppl like u.

I'm getting my dbt book out those coping skills help. Must remember feelings r only temporary.

Originally Posted by Nessa213

My husband does this to me all the time. He also has a crappy knack for timing and seems to ask me the litany of questions at exactly the wrong time. (i.e. 2 minutes before I need to run out the door to go to work and I'm already running late.)

I've told him before that this kind of thing bothers me and there's been a few times where I've responded with outright rage when I really didn't mean to. I can tell if it's a conversation that's going to head that way and before things get too heated I try to cut in with "hey, can we not talk about this right now, please?".

Something about adding the "please" in there at the end softens the blow a bit too.

I can then approach the conversation later in the day or several days later on my own terms when I know I can better handle it.

I'm gonna try that, saying pls. Thx

[~Christina]

Passionskyy,
I so understnd the issues of weight gain . ED here. I tried loads of AP's and damn near ate my couch. Weight gain is not healthy. There are Medications that are weight neutral. You need to let your Pdoc know whats going on and how your dropping your med dose due to weight gain issue.

I think sometimes a patient and there Pdoc need to sit down and discuss ALL meds that are being taken, maybe too many meds at once or too little of some.. It all takes time to get figured out.

It's ok to refuse a medication that causes weight gain.

Good Luck

So I have a peer support person, where I go for therapy has lots of additional stuff, and when I am well I hope to give back to them. They really have been a godsend. Anyway she is very sweet and like me is 1/2Native American and 1/2 Caucasian. We have tons in common however she really lectures me on taking my meds and not cutting back like I am with the risperdal. I know she does it out of caring, but it's starting to frustrate me. I told her we are different and pls still b supportive. I feel she is like if I don't do EVERYTHING like she wants then she is like well I gotta go and is conditional in her support.

Anybody have any idea how to approach her? She is younger than me and very sensitive so I need to tread lightly.

So I have a peer support person, where I go for therapy has lots of additional stuff, and when I am well I hope to give back to them. They really have been a godsend. Anyway she is very sweet and like me is 1/2Native American and 1/2 Caucasian. We have tons in common however she really lectures me on taking my meds and not cutting back like I am with the risperdal. I know she does it out of caring, but it's starting to frustrate me. I told her we are different and pls still b supportive. I feel she is like if I don't do EVERYTHING like she wants then she is like well I gotta go and is conditional in her support.

Anybody have any idea how to approach her? She is younger than me and very sensitive so I need to tread lightly.

[~Christina]

This woman no matter how much you like her... is NOT your Pdoc. Your situation with Meds needs to be between you and your Pdoc, You and he/she need to mutuality agree on what meds you will and will not take.

Good Luck

So I just talked to her and she got REALLY offended. I was very careful and approached her gently. This sucks, she is brand new at this and I just don't think it's gonna work. What I noticed about her is (she also has bipolar and PTSD) she relies on meds more than me. Don't get me wrong I know I need some meds especially right now, however I also use a lot of coping skills. She doesn't really. I think bc I was dx'ed so late in life I have learned how to survive this illness w/o meds. I know I need them I'm just saying I also rely on coping skills just as much as meds. This sucks. I don't think this will work, I don't need to be tiptoeing around somebody right now, especially somebody that is being paid to help me.

[~Christina]

Can you request a new person? You need to be worried about YOU , not her illness or thoughts.

Personally I can't imagine having anyone between me and my Pdoc. This baffles my mind.

Originally Posted by passionskyy

So i have a teenager who is 17. We r very close. We hang out together a lot (i was young when I had him.) I have babied him in many ways. I think I have done that out of guilt. One, for not having been a stable mother. Although he loves it when I'm hypo. Two bc his father hasn't been in his life much. Last night we were both excited about seeing Silver lining playbook.

When I recently went into that God awful mixed state he got a hold of his father. His father took him for 2 wks or so. I'm shocked by it.

So he comes back yesterday. I was so excited. Earlier a guy had come over to fix our hot water tank.....well my son hadn't bathed when he got home and come to find out no hot water. I'm making dinner and I call maintenance man. He had forgot to turn fuse back on or whatever. So no movie.

I have never hit my son. He is big, and he has used his size to intimidate me more than once. Well last night after not seeing him for 2 wks and that all happening, I was so freaking' stressed. I did and do yell, he absolutely hates it. I mean it makes him really angry. What he'll do is ask me ? After ?. "Why didn't he turn the fuse back on, where does he live..." it drives me nuts. So I will start off saying, "idk" he continues and then I yell "WHY DON'T YOU CALL HIM AND ASK HIM, IDK!!!"

We ended up having a wonderful night. We watched some shows he wanted me to see and he is so very wicked smart for his age. We both just really know how to push each other's buttons.

So my point....anybody have some ideas on how to respond when you feel harrassed and bombarded with ?s. Without responding by yelling.

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Can you request a new person? You need to be worried about YOU , not her illness or thoughts.

Personally I can't imagine having anyone between me and my Pdoc. This baffles my mind.

My pdoc is at another agency. Yes I have decided I will not work with her. This is stressing me out. Now I'm worried that my T will be mad at me. I'm still struggling with some paranoia this isn't good. I left a vm with my therapist but she still hasn't called.

I can go to another agency for a peer support person which I'm in the process of. I'm so stressed now.