[Melmo]

Does anyone else feel guilty all the time? I feel like I am always feeling guilty about something.
I am always feeling guilty about the crap I eat, that I don't drink enough water, my binge eating etc.
I feel guilty about spending too much money, wasting money on stuff for me instead of my daughter (she does have a ton of new clothes I recently bought her, she has tons of toys so she definitely isn't neglected) so today I went and bought her a new pool and a big box full of play dough.
I feel guilty when I am feeling depressed and don't pay enough attention to my daughter or the little girl I babysit.
I feel guilty when someone asks me for something and I have to say no. I am too much of a people pleaser. I try to please everyone even if it means it stresses me out.
I feel guilty that when I am in a depressed mood, I don't feel like cleaning and the apartment is a mess.
Basically the list goes on...I feel guilty about everything and it's stressing me out. Can anyone relate? How do I stop feeling so guilty?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

How do I stop feeling so guilty?

just stop! guilt is not like infatuation

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

Does anyone else feel guilty all the time? I feel like I am always feeling guilty about something.
I am always feeling guilty about the crap I eat

do you have an obligation to eat better foods? to whom?

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

that I don't drink enough water

You do not have to drink enough water. Not everyone likes water. You need to consume enough fluids, which can come from tea, coffee (caffeine needs to be limited both in total intake and to the earlier part of the day to avoid sleep difficulties), soups, high moisture foods, etc. Is there anything in that list that you like? Choose something that you like.

I know you cannot afford those, but if eventually you get into a better situation, there are lots of tasty options - some of the vitamin water flavors are pretty good. If you try many - there is a whole variety - you will like something.

Not everybody LIKES water - I do not and one of my two daughters does not and the other daughter would drink nothing like water because she LIKES it.

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

guilty about binge eating

Your binge eating is due to a disease. Why would you feel guilty about having a disease? Did you will yourself into having the disease? No. Plus, you do not have obligations to others with respect to your eating, so the only person who should care about what you eat is YOU, and YOU can absolve YOU of guilt!

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

I feel guilty about spending too much money, wasting money on stuff for me instead of my daughter (she does have a ton of new clothes I recently bought her, she has tons of toys so she definitely isn't neglected)

Why would you want to spend money only on the daughter? Who will then spend money on YOU?

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

I feel guilty when I am feeling depressed

like binge eating, depression is a disease, not a crime, so there is nothing to feel guilty about it.

[Confusedinomicon]

You need to counteract each negative thought with two positives.

Example; I feel guilty about neglecting my daughter.
Truth: My daughter is healthy and she is treated like a princess.

[Melmo]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

do you have an obligation to eat better foods? to whom?



You do not have to drink enough water. Not everyone likes water. You need to consume enough fluids, which can come from tea, coffee (caffeine needs to be limited both in total intake and to the earlier part of the day to avoid sleep difficulties), soups, high moisture foods, etc. Is there anything in that list that you like? Choose something that you like.

I know you cannot afford those, but if eventually you get into a better situation, there are lots of tasty options - some of the vitamin water flavors are pretty good. If you try many - there is a whole variety - you will like something.

Not everybody LIKES water - I do not and one of my two daughters does not and the other daughter would drink nothing like water because she LIKES it.



Your binge eating is due to a disease. Why would you feel guilty about having a disease? Did you will yourself into having the disease? No. Plus, you do not have obligations to others with respect to your eating, so the only person who should care about what you eat is YOU, and YOU can absolve YOU of guilt!



Why would you want to spend money only on the daughter? Who will then spend money on YOU?



like binge eating, depression is a disease, not a crime, so there is nothing to feel guilty about it.

I feel like I do have an obligation to eat healthier, to me and my daughter. I feel better when I eat better, and my daughter deserves to have a healthy happy mom.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

I feel like I do have an obligation to eat healthier, to me and my daughter. I feel better when I eat better, and my daughter deserves to have a healthy happy mom.

maybe if you try to eat better in order to feel better rather than out of a sense of obligation, it will make your path easier.

[bipolarmomof2]

A couple years back my aunt randomly said to me that guilt is a useless emotion. Sometimes I use that creed as an excuse during manic episodes to be impulsive without feeling guilt. Other times I use it for good to actually allow myself to not be so guilty and judgmental of each and every action. Guilt can be so oppressive to a bipolar person especially, try to step back and focus on the positives of your parenting and what a good mom you know you can be, and hopefully that will help take some of the pressure off of your own actions.

[Melmo]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

maybe if you try to eat better in order to feel better rather than out of a sense of obligation, it will make your path easier.

I am trying to eat better for that reason and it still doesn't make it any easier. Then I feel like **** because I'm eating ****, and feel guilty for not eating better. I'm still trying though.

[sassymck]

Hi. Yes, I can relate very much to feeling guilty about everyone and being a people-pleaser. It is a difficult burden to bear. I use self-talk to get rid of the guilt. What would you say if a friend came to you with this guilt?? You would likely tell him or her that there was nothing to feel badly about; that it was 'okay'. Treat yourself with the kindness with which you would treat a friend. That is the motto I try to follow; the example by which I try to live. Good luck to you.

[Confusedinomicon]

Make the bad food rewards for staying on track. If you try to completely cut it out you'll often have a hard time in the beginning. I think phasing out bad foods works more effectively.

Or you could look up detoxes.

[redbandit]

I feel guilty all the time too. Guilty for not having a job, guilty for not being more social, guilty for never feeling like cooking or cleaning, guilty for sleeping too much, etc. I dont know how to stop either