Who are you? Who do you want to be?

Recently I've decided to take a break in my life (no longer in a relationship) and figure myself out. Now that I have the oppertunity I've asked myself:
Who am I?
Who do I want to be?

Just wondering if anyone else has been through this or what other people have come up with for answers to these questions...

I ended a 10 year relationship just over a year ago. I started asking the 'Who am I, who do I want to be?' questions soon after the breakup. I'm still asking those questions. I have a much better idea of who I am, but who I want to be still isn't clear. I have lots of ideas and am just following what life and my instincts have taught me. I think I'm making progress...

things like that don't bother me anymore- and i know that's very neggative, but with all the things that have gone wrong in my life, i really can't see myself developing any sort of future or being happy

it used to bother me all the time- you know, what do i want to be?. how do i want my future to turn out?. but i'm at the stage where i can't answer those questions... i don't know

my biggist fear has always been dying with nothing to show for it, so it's always been a sort of priority of mine to think about stuff like that- but as i say, i've lost so much, missed out on so much, that i can't see anything making much of a diffrence now

When I became a civilian again about a year ago I felt a lot like this. It can be difficult to cut out a large part of your life, then try to figure out where that relationship ended and where you begin. Still working on it, just less scared now. You will get there, enjoy the journey!

I agree with Shattered Sanity. I started out marrying at 17 and was "Don's Wife", then at age 25 I became "Amber's Mom". At 42, after my divorce, I thought I would find me, but never did. I just seemed to drift. Sometimes I doubt there is really "a Me" to look for anymore.

Age has changed me. I, too, have a big fear of dying with nothing to show for it, but I do have my beautiful, wonderful daughter, who has no idea how lost her mother really is. My husband and I live as roommates. I do have two 13 year old dogs that love me. I can't support myself so leaving is out of the question. Maybe if this depression ever lifts I can manage some happy days. That is what I hope for.

Thanks all!

I started this journey because my mother died when she was 32 years old. Since I was only 2, I don't really know much about her but in my eyes she was somebody. I've been told that she was always a happy person.

I too have a fear of dying (as I will be 29 in a few weeks) and having nothing to show for it. I don't want to be a waste of life anymore! I know tomorrow is never a promise so I feel the need to live today! I have made many changes in the last 9 months, most of them were very hard choices to make. But I can only hope that I am doing it all to better myself... It might be wishful thinking but I'll be damned if I'm going to die a nobody!

You should read the play called "A Doll's House" by Henrik Ibsen. You're situation reminds me of it and you may like the play, I certainly did.

Here is the link to the play (although it looks long I read it in a short period of time)
A Doll's House, by Henrik Ibsen

I personally have never been through such an event like yours because I'm quite young, but I thought I could at least contribute this play that is similar to the situation of questioning of one's identity.