[tigersassy]

So I'm curious. My sex drive is up up, but the problem is that I'm not wanting it from my wife. I only want pleasure from myself. Other people touching me just makes me mad. I know what I want but don't know how to articulate it to my wife. Im the only one that achieve it. Is this just me or is it something that can come with the bipolar?
I have noticed the up mood so maybe its just a part of my mania. I don't know.
Tig

[Victoria'smom]

Its usually when I have an aggravated mania that I'm like that.

[Alone & confused]

Ya, I think it could be related. Sometimes the strangest things get me aroused, but it doesn't mean I want my bf's "attention". Sometimes a nice hot shower does me more good.

That's the hard thing about bp for me, in a depression I am not interested in anyone and when I am up I get hypersexual and interested in myself and other people. In either case I'm usually not interested in my husband.

[swheaton]

I haven't been hyper sexual in a long time. I did have a spell where I was. The meds I'm taking have kind of killed it. My poor husband.

I had a pretty high sex drive at baseline, both with my partner and without, but since starting new meds the interest is dropping Im really sad about that. When Im hypomanic my sex drive is off the charts. In depression its not too bad, its one of the only things I do still enjoy, but the energy is different.

[Cocosurviving]

Before my BP onset my sex drive was low to mild. When my onset happened I was single and all I had was "me". My sex drive was tense and thank God I got in a relationship directly after my onset. I only wanted him and "me". I would exhaust "me" out when he wasn't around. My appetite was so intense I needed both. My body would actually shake like I was on edge from craving to have "me" or my bf. I started a mood stabilizer and a side effect is decreased sex drive which was a plus for me.

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Hypomania can "mess" with my sex drive, and there are times when I've experienced what you've described, Tigersassy. I don't like getting too touchy-feely with my boyfriend, and when he's being affectionate, it just feels clingy to me. At other times, I have hypersexuality associated with hypomanic episodes -- my urges might be directed at my partner, or other people (in which case, I have to try and keep myself in check). Good luck!

[Curiosity77]

I definitely relate to hypersexual feelings when my mood is elevated or mixed, and I've gotten into some pretty interesting situations as a result. When I was in hospital I ended up hooking up with one of the other patients right on the unit. I can't believe I did that now, but it was pretty fun at the time. I miss the hypersexual feelings now that my mood is more stable. Sex is still good, but it's not the same.

[Theseus]

Originally Posted by tigersassy

So I'm curious. My sex drive is up up, but the problem is that I'm not wanting it from my wife. I only want pleasure from myself. Other people touching me just makes me mad. I know what I want but don't know how to articulate it to my wife. Im the only one that achieve it. Is this just me or is it something that can come with the bipolar?
I have noticed the up mood so maybe its just a part of my mania. I don't know.
Tig

I hear you. My husband (I'm a legally married gay man) is quite plain vanilla, I like raunch. There's only one thing I really like doing with him (sorry kids, no details ), but his meds kill his sex drive/ability. Mine have me growing antlers. Otherwise I'm pretty OK and prefer self-service. I find it more pleasurable and intense by fantasizing, watching porn and doing the right knuckle shuffle. I've even taken my iPhone into the bathroom at work, opened a porn video and had at it. I can't give an explanation or reason, but I just wanted to say it's not just you.

[Side2Side]

Glad to hear there's others with the 'if you want something done right do it yourself attitude' I hate making my gf upset because sometimes to her I seem unsatisfied by her but can get there on my own. Makes me feel kinda weird but nice to know we aren't all self abusing freaks lol we're just a bit different at times :-)

[tigersassy]

Originally Posted by Side2Side

Glad to hear there's others with the 'if you want something done right do it yourself attitude' I hate making my gf upset because sometimes to her I seem unsatisfied by her but can get there on my own. Makes me feel kinda weird but nice to know we aren't all self abusing freaks lol we're just a bit different at times :-)

Ain't that the truth. It seems to me that it has something of an irritated tone to it. I can't stand how overly sensitive I can get about certain things like textures colors and sounds when I'm like this. I wish that my wife understood that I'm not trying to do this on purpose.

Tig

[Theseus]

One thing I'll caution about, having been there done that, is online sexting. There have been a few occasions when other guys from another forum I hang out at (its a SFW site) have struck up on-line flirtations via pm that became quite steamy and had me running into the men's room a couple of times a day. There was no chance of having ever met these guys, but it made me feel creepy,being married. I'm not judging anyone for it, just cautioning that it can sneak up on you. I've since put a stop to it.

[Noodles_320]

I had too.

[BipolaRNurse]

Hypo/mania has never made me cheat on my husband, but I don't need to because I know how to take care of things myself. Sometimes my sex drive is so high that I'll even go in the bathroom at work to take care of business, and it might be as much as 3-4 times a day just to scratch that itch (so to speak). I literally crave sex as much as I do food when I'm hungry and water when I'm thirsty. I just don't go looking for it away from home.

[tigersassy]

Originally Posted by BipolaRNurse

Hypo/mania has never made me cheat on my husband, but I don't need to because I know how to take care of things myself. Sometimes my sex drive is so high that I'll even go in the bathroom at work to take care of business, and it might be as much as 3-4 times a day just to scratch that itch (so to speak). I literally crave sex as much as I do food when I'm hungry and water when I'm thirsty. I just don't go looking for it away from home.

I have no desire to look outside either and its exactly what you said. I know how to take care of business.

Tig

[LazarusIII]

Originally Posted by Theseus

I hear you. My husband (I'm a legally married gay man) is quite plain vanilla, I like raunch. There's only one thing I really like doing with him (sorry kids, no details ), but his meds kill his sex drive/ability. Mine have me growing antlers. Otherwise I'm pretty OK and prefer self-service. I find it more pleasurable and intense by fantasizing, watching porn and doing the right knuckle shuffle. I've even taken my iPhone into the bathroom at work, opened a porn video and had at it. I can't give an explanation or reason, but I just wanted to say it's not just you.

I'm single, but I have had similar experiences. Seems to cycle, total disinterest all the way to borderline hypersexual. On the downslopes I even have to schedule masturbation sessions just to keep from having to do unnecessary laundry caused by nocturnal emissions. Since it's somewhat cyclical I just attributed it to the bipolar but I found out that my middle brother had low testosterone a few years ago and think I need to be tested as well.