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Jan 10, 2007, 07:32 AM
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hey everyone! I need someone to talk to that understands. I am married with two children a two year old and a 7 week old both boys. My husbands and kids are great. I think that I may be bipolar. I can go from happy one minute to screaming and shoutting the next over my husband asking me to put my hair up. I snap and yell at my kids alot. I stay up to all hours of the night its 6:00am here and i have not been to bed yet. I am hurting my husband and kids and never realized it until tonight when he told me that he can't deal with me tonight and said that he wanted a divorce because of me acting the way I do towards him and my kids. I don't even know that I am doing the things that I do until its to late. I am scared that I am gonna loss the person that I love with all my heart. what do I need to do? someone please help.
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Jan 10, 2007, 09:02 AM
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My husband & I almost got divorced due to my erratic & really irrational behavior. I was also depressed most of the time, but 5 years ago I finally got diagnosed with bipolar & began a year-long quest to find the right meds for me. I went through an out-patient program at a hospital where I learned about the disorder & got group therapy. I was also in individual therapy.
The hospital had a class for spouses, parents, etc. of people with bp & that helped my husband a lot to realize that I wasn't just a mean, bad person, but that these behaviors were symptoms of my disorder & that I could be helped. Your might try (if in the U.S.) NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) or DBSA (Depression & Bipolar Support Alliance). Both have classes and support groups for the consumer (the one with the mental illness) as well as family members. Go see a psychiatrist asap. Maybe your family doc could recommend one. Please let us know how you are doing.--Suzy |
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Jan 10, 2007, 10:37 AM
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With a 7-week old baby, you are deep in the midst of hormonal issues yet! I would chalk it up to that before I would go thinking you were bipolar. Not everybody just gets postpartum "blues" only. Do talk to a doc if it will make you feel better, though.
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Jan 10, 2007, 11:05 AM
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Hello I hope you get some needed SLEEP soon. You may want to call the Dr who delivered your last child and see if they can recommend a Psychiatrist for you to go see at this time.. If you can not get in to see anyone soon see if your Dr can prescribe something for you to take until you get to see a Psychiatrist. You may want to think about a family member or friend coming over to help you so that you can get some rest and help with housework and the stress you are having at this time. Take care Soidhonia
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Jan 10, 2007, 12:44 PM
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i really do know how you feel. my daughter is 6 and my husband is just now realizing what my problems are and really helping me. at first we all thought it was a deep deep depression. i would be ok 1 minute and then scream, cuss, throw things, hit walls, you name it. i ended up in psych's office and was diagnosed with bipolar and major depression. i also affected my child- she now sees a child psychologist and is on a mild antidepressant. i deal with that guilt of pushing her but even at a young age, she know mommy was sick and wanted to take care of me. my advice is to see your dr. explain not just crying and depression but the"up" of mania and no sleepin(been 24 to 36 hr. no sleep and i never missed it).they need to know it all.ask your husband to go and that may help him to understand you and know how to help. believe me- it gets worse w/out med. that sometimes takes a while to fing the right kind. after 6 months we have 1 mood stabilizer that works and still trying to find the other right one. hang in there. get professional help and explain to your hus. that it's not just a fit you are sick just like someone with diabetes but can be treated. you need family and friends now. your in my prayers and thoughts.
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Jan 10, 2007, 02:06 PM
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Hugs for you!! I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with everyone who has posted. you should seek medical assistance as soon as possible. Best of Luck with everything, please keep us posted.
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Jan 10, 2007, 09:10 PM
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I would let your doctor know what's going on and see what the feedback you get there is.
A couple thoughts: Every day, do you take some time for YOU? It could be a twenty minutes with a good book, a quickie manicure, a short walk, or a phone chat with a friend. I have discovered as I review my life that I tend to put myself at the end of the line, so I am trying to make a bit of time for myself to care for ME. Do you have a time during your day to relax and renew yourself? Maybe write in a journal, work on a hobby you love, pray or meditate. You are just as important as everyone else in your house! If you constantly pour water out of the vessel but put nothing back in you will be drained and then what will you have to give? Best to you, RF
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#8
Jan 10, 2007, 11:47 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
sarahbuck said: never realized it until tonight when he told me that he can't deal with me tonight and said that he wanted a divorce because of me acting the way I do towards him and my kids. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> He got your attention didn't he. He may have been giving you some nonverbal clues along the way or even verbalizing his discontent... this is a wake up call. I am sorry that you are going thru this. He probably doesn't want a divorce he wants you to be well. What you are going thru is very hormonal...even for a regular woman having a baby...this is a hormonal time. LIke the others have said. Get a referral to see a pdoc-psychiatrist and ask to see a t-poc, therapist as well so you can also talk with a professional about your problems for a bit....a marriage counselor for the two of you so that you can learn the language to better communicate with your hubby. There is a plethora of information here on the web and at this site about bipolar and depression. Continue to post and read and learn... there are many medications on the market to help with mood swings...hope you find an even keel real soon. ((((HUGS)))) bizi
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#9
Jan 11, 2007, 07:10 AM
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Hello and welcome to pc. My name is Wally and I have been diagnosed with manic-depression since 1997. I can't speak for anyone but myself, but perhaps I can shed some light and put some perspective on your situation. Knowing that you love your husband and child(ren) very much, I would advise you to see a psychiatrist and ask your husband to come along as well. It's that simple. Again, welcome to pc come back soon and try to relax knowing that you are not alone in this, because we at pc share many similiarities and welcome You with open arms. Best wishes. Wally
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