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Feb 12, 2015, 09:33 AM
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Hooligan, I'm sorry for what happened. I, too once had to leave a job I was fantastic at and felt deeply connected to, suddenly and in such a manner that I didn't know if I would ever work in the field again. I got so depressed. So I sympathize so hard. I'm sure you didn't deserve that. It really is a matter of grieving.
Maybe you are not in a place where this is helpful, but on the chance that it will help at some point, I will say it . My takeaway from my experience was that it is *dangerous* to put so much of your identity and self worth into a job or even any single thing. Things like jobs can be lost at any time, and you're left missing a piece of yourself. You have to rebuild your sense of purpose and self, and that's nothing to sneeze at. So be gentle with yourself. You are not a dumpster. People are never dumpsters. Whoever said that to you did something awful in saying that. And you are valuable just because you are you, not because of what you do. Maybe this is helpful, maybe not, but it's never a waste of time to offer words of support no matter the situation. I wish you the best. |
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#133
Feb 12, 2015, 10:18 AM
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 (((Hooligan))) You are grieving. It is a natural response to loss. We live in a fallen world in which there is no such thing as fair. Our mistake is when we think we are immune to it. If you are stupid, I'd like to have a large serving of stupid from your plate please... 
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#134
Feb 12, 2015, 12:17 PM
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I do appreciate the fact that you have left your comment. 
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#135
Feb 12, 2015, 12:18 PM
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Here, please have some cheese and biscuits. *Hands Rufin said cheese and biscuits through cyber space |
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#136
Feb 12, 2015, 01:01 PM
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Hooligan I can certainly relate to your story-I am a nurse & have had such passion for many positions I held but found my sweet spot working with teens in a treatment/psych setting. I loved it & was great at my job-it truly was a passion for me. After having to take a long medical leave for a physical injury the hospital held my position open as long as possible but I was not ready to go back so they hired someone else (who was terrible btw). A few months later when I was ready to return I intended just to work as needed due to my injury & my dormant psych issues that had reared their ugly heads. When I went in our awesome little hospital had been purchased by the Wal-Mart of psych care & many long term employees had left. Since my position was filled they wanted me to be manager of the adolescent unit-I had supervised in a similar capacity in the past. I let me ego get the best of me & immediately said yes & then found myself working 16-18 hour days but only getting paid for 8 (management jobs are salary) & discovered pretty much everything I had been told was a lie. Our staffing was cut by 30% & I had to cover so many positions it was unbelievable-it worsened all my physical & MI issues-it was a freaking nightmare-In 9 months I only got to work with my kids on 2 occasions & the place became truly unsafe to work. In the state I was in I resigned with a scathing letter to said Wal-Mart of psych care how unsafe & terrible the conditions were becoming & anyway wow did I burn that bridge. That was almost 4 years ago & I still have not got up the nerve to go back to work. The entire experience left me scarred & has added to my PTSD & I go through periods where I obsess about how I should have handled things differently trying to effect change instead of bailing. Anyway whether it helps or not I just wanted you to know I get that whole "Failed" thing & as others have said this is a grieving process. I know I am often way too hard on myself & feel you are doing the same-please take care
you are not the only one who is unsure & frightened about their future in regards to career choices.
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"This is just a moment in time. Step aside and let it happen."-Inara from Firefly  Bipolar Disorder Depression Generalized Anxiety Disorder OCD PTSD Insomnia Chronic Pain Prozac 30mg daily Buspar 10mg three times daily Propranolol 10mg three times daily Currently titrating up Lamictal daily Ambien 5mg prn Trazodone 50mg prn |
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#137
Feb 12, 2015, 01:36 PM
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OMG i can't believe how smart you must be just because you obviously learned alot in you area of expertise, it sound difficult!!!I am so sorry you got fired, all it takes is one bad apple to get a person in trouble. you were and still are very smart and i praise you for working all those years you did too. please don't give up because of it, you have alot of crodentials, good ones as you worked for 15 years, and did all those other things too.You seem to me to be a pillar of society, i hope you can realise this and don't put yourself down anymore!!You have soo much to offer.Hopefully you can get over this and maybe get another job? I wish you luck!!!you deserve soo much more than how you've been treated!!
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#138
Feb 12, 2015, 04:08 PM
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Im sorry that happened. This illness is a *****
Dont cross teaching off forever though...you sound like you were gifted at it 
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I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning, I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing Now the old king is dead! Long live the king! One minute I held the key Next the walls were closed on me And I discovered that my castles stand Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand |
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#139
Feb 12, 2015, 09:05 PM
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((((( Hooligan ))))) You are not a dumpster.
You are awesome.  Thanks for making me smile with all the silly signs.
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#140
Feb 14, 2015, 07:26 AM
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You're simply none of those negative adjectives you used to describe yourself!!!
While you are stumbling through your grieving process, and this must be terribly hard for you, I would like to point out the fact that YOU HAD A CAREER, YOU WERE ******* BRILLIANT AT YOUR JOB, and you DIDN'T DO ANYTHING to screw that up. Me? Lady I can't even work for 3 months without going batshit crazy. I flit from job to job on a routine basis. I've never known myself well enough to be able to even choose a field of expertise (although I'm supposedly intelligent) I've been changing my mind every few months for the past decade. So wow, just wow that you chose to be a teacher, and an even bigger wow that you were such a spectacular one at that. You might be many things Hooligan, but a stupid dumpster is nowhere near one of those things.
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