[Pheasant11]

I have come to this forum twice before. This is my third and final try. Many on this site seem genuinely to care about themselves and others. The rest of the people here are rather self centered. If you are in “the clique” then you are welcome to post and to engage. The rest of us new “losers” are made to feel uncomfortable, unwanted, or even plain ridiculous. I am thanking those of you that have been so supportive. To the others I say to heck with you. You make me feel worse than I did before.

[Tucson]

I am sorry. I understand what you are saying. I am interested in what you have to say with your posts. Really. I am being honest with you here. You can PM me if you wish.

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry you feel unheard here on PC. It is true that things move quickly here. And it can take a while to become known. However I would like to encourage you to stay with us. PC can be a very good place to be. My best wishes to you.

[wiretwister]

I am not here as much as I used to be ... so I guess I missed you ... welcome ... pm anytime or we can talk here ... there are some wonderful people here .... you just have not connected yet ... stick around ... share you troubles or sucess ... Tigger .

[99fairies]

I have been here for over 2 years and I still feel that way sometimes... big hugs.

[HALLIEBETH87]

I'm sorry you feel that way. Keep coming back!

[Wild Coyote]

It takes awhile to become known here, whether it should or not.
This is true for everyone.

Most people here are very kind and very supportive toward everyone.


You may have encountered otherwise; if so, it's rare, imho. If you've been offended, it's usually the same person(s) and you can put them on "ignore" if they are triggering to you. There are a couple I find very triggering (rude). We find a mix of types of people everywhere we go.

I'm encouraging you to stay, to join in, and to "protect yourself" by ignoring anyone troubling to you.

Sometimes, I am in a place where I need a break, too. So please realize many of us do take breaks from PC and during these times, we do not respond.

I hope your experience here changes and you feel supported!


WC

[Daonnachd]

I understand what you're saying. I chalk it up to lack of context. I believe that once the general populace of the forum has a frame of reference for your posts you will feel more connected to the community as a whole. I'm confident you'll get there.

[Guiness187055]

The best way to become known is post away. I am sorry you feel the way you do feel free to IM me.

[Tucson]

Originally Posted by vertigo

I understand what you're saying. I chalk it up to lack of context. I believe that once the general populace of the forum has a frame of reference for your posts you will feel more connected to the community as a whole. I'm confident you'll get there.

I agree with this very much so.

[Northchild]

Hi Pheasant!

[~Christina]

I’m sorry you have felt this way and been treated poorly.

This is a very active forum and often a post quickly travels to page 2 where it can get “ lost “

If someone bothers or down right triggers you please use the ignore feature PC has, I have needed it numerous times, self care is important.

Welcome to PC I hope you choose to stay

[tecomsin]

I've sometimes had similar thoughts. I hope you decide to stay.

[LadyShadow]

Every community has some form of a "cliquey" atmosphere or it feels like it because you are coming into a new area. I have trouble integrating myself on forums, just because I am not as active all the time.

I have come and gone here on PC for nearly five years, and sometimes when I come back I feel a bit excluded from the general consensus or overall opinion on the site. It is very easy for your voice to get lost in this big crowd.

I feel very sorry that you feel like you have been alienated where you feel unwelcome, there are good people here, and a lot of us don't even know what to say half the time, so we just offer hugs, at least I do, and its something.

[emgreen]

It doesn't make much difference to me whether I recognize someone, or not. I read posts based on my interest in the topic & consider all responses. I think I know the thread that led you to bolt, & understand how you might have taken offense. There are one or two people on the boards who really get my goat, but I don't put them on ignore, as I feel that's as juvenile as the folks writing the comments I find obnoxious. Sometimes it's just best to try to take things with a grain of salt. I hope you continue posting.

[RainyDay107]

Originally Posted by Pheasant11

I have come to this forum twice before. This is my third and final try. Many on this site seem genuinely to care about themselves and others. The rest of the people here are rather self centered. If you are in “the clique” then you are welcome to post and to engage. The rest of us new “losers” are made to feel uncomfortable, unwanted, or even plain ridiculous. I am thanking those of you that have been so supportive. To the others I say to heck with you. You make me feel worse than I did before.

I’m here but I’ve not been online. I’m having a mixed episode and almost had to go IP.

I used to go by RainyDay but this is a new account so few people know me. I joined at least ten years ago. I’ve been here ages, lol. I just had to switch accounts with admin helping...boring story.

But, yeah. I understand. I don’t think cliques are on purpose. I was very active with my first account and long time member. Now it’s different but people are supportive to me and please give it a chance.

The more active you are and replying to others threads helps get to know more people. I have been too sick to log on so I haven’t read your story. I logged on to post a thread on meds. But saw this and wanted to reply.

I’ll be your friend if you want to send a friend request! Please just know I’m unwell and if I don’t reply soon, it is not personal.

Thinking of you. People are nice here. I’ve been around for a LONG time. It’s the best bipolar forum on the Internet, IMO.

I have to go but I want to know your story. I care about you.

[RainyDay107]

Pheasant,

I sent you a friend request.

I also wanted to say hi and post on your profile page, but I think maybe I am confused or maybe it’s disabled.

Take care and I’ll be back on. Mixed episode. No IP but currently “up” and crash a lot. Huge maelstrom inside for ... I’m not sure how long. So I’m MIA sometimes.

Well, I’m a low maintenance friend and I’ll support you as much as I can.

[Leia78]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

It takes awhile to become known here, whether it should or not.
This is true for everyone.

Most people here are very kind and very supportive toward everyone.


You may have encountered otherwise; if so, it's rare, imho.


WC

It is not rare, IMHO. I feel the same way pretty often and I have been here a little while. I can see where my post has been looked at 20 or more times but no one had a thing to say. I know people can relate. I feel left out because I usually get 2-3 replies and have to keep bumping the thread up myself. I do sincerely thank those that do take the time to answer me but it's not many. I think you are included in the thank you - I do believe you have answered me once or twice.

[Leia78]

Originally Posted by Pheasant11

I have come to this forum twice before. This is my third and final try. Many on this site seem genuinely to care about themselves and others. The rest of the people here are rather self centered. If you are in “the clique” then you are welcome to post and to engage. The rest of us new “losers” are made to feel uncomfortable, unwanted, or even plain ridiculous. I am thanking those of you that have been so supportive. To the others I say to heck with you. You make me feel worse than I did before.

I don't think people self centered but I do agree with the clique feeling in here and other than I don't feel like a loser, I agree with things you are saying.
There are a few people who do reply and answer my posts with true sincerity and offer something to help or something of support. To those, I too, truly thank and appreciate.

I feel lonely here, surrounded by people like me, when I ask for support a lot of times. I just feel lonely here and unwanted much of the time.

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by Leia78

I feel lonely here, surrounded by people like me, when I ask for support a lot of times. I just feel lonely here and unwanted much of the time.

Leia, I go in and out of spells where I feel this way. I always wanted to be one of the people that got lots of attention, to put it bluntly. I do find the few people who have reached out to me on pm, or vice versa, heartwarming at times and there are also a couple of threads and people in them, that I'm starting to get to know.

I really do believe that there is some overlap in between autism and bipolar at least in my case, I have 'traits' of what used to be called asperger's. But sometimes I'm socially clueless plus I often don't know what to say. Then i look and see how other's responded and find myself learning a lot and enjoying the process because it is fascinating to start to develop a 'theory of mind' which has been lacking.

Right now I'm feeling more connected to this place. I hope this message goes some way in that direction for you too.

[Leia78]

Originally Posted by tecomsin

Right now I'm feeling more connected to this place. I hope this message goes some way in that direction for you too.

Thank you for this. It really does help me get in the right space, direction.

[Victoria'smom]

I don't post a lot unless I'm manic/mixed. I just don't know what to say and when I do talk (here and IRL) it comes out wrong. So I just read, Sometimes I offer hugs but often don't. When I do post it's rarely more then a paragraph. I'm sorry you don't feel welcomed. Hopefully you'll find a place here.

When I first came here basically no one responded on my threads. I lost interest for a few months and then came back and just dove in. Generally the more you post and people know You, the more interaction you get. It's nothing personal. I can say I've made some amazing friends on here. There are a few on this board alone who I talk to every day. I'll send you a friend request.

[RainyDay107]

Yeah, we need to look back a couple pages like Christina mentioned. The pages scroll fast.

Everyone deserves support...sometimes we need it and it’s always good to give it when we can. We have to take care of ourselves first, but we need more *community.*

I’m going to try and be here more. If anyone needs a friend, send me a request. I like making friends. I’ve had this illness for awhile too, so I remember how lost I felt when I was (misdiagnosed then) diagnosed. But now it’s...life. I’ll give back more. xo
xo

[Moreta]

I read stuff, but usually my brain is so disorganized idk wtf to say. It used to not be this way. My brain just won't work anymore.