[Victoria'smom]

So the clinic I go to is packed. I can only see a T 1x every three weeks or so. I see pdoc probably every 3 months depending on how I'm doing. I'm torn between feeling I need more and not. I become paranoid, and (at times) non-compliant when my appointments are far apart. However I like the staff and location.

[HALLIEBETH87]

Use the dbt skills and do a pros and cons list of staying and leaving

[Wander]

That's a really tough situation to be in. Maybe you could test the waters with another T at a different place as close-by as possible, and make sure they will be available more often. I guess the same goes with your pdoc, but I know that would be more difficult. Are you able to get in to see your current pdoc in emergencies? Three months apart would freak me out, as would three weekly sessions with my T. In the end you can only work with what is available to you.

As Halliebeth87 suggested, using coping skills, insight, sticking with your med regime, and using the support systems you have available is your best bet of making it through those times you don't have the support of your T or pdoc. I really wish you the best.

[~Christina]

Can you see your old T at the other clinic more often ?

[fern46]

My therapist recently recommended monthly sessions and we settled on three weeks apart. She feels I am doing really well and I don't need to go as frequently. I agree I am doing well, but I still carry a lot of fear of relapse and frequent check ins gave me comfort. I'll move to monthly in a while if I continue to improve.

My pdoc also changed the frequency of my appointments at my last visit. I was going monthly and he moved me to every three months. This gives me a bit of anxiety, but he said I'm stable and don't need to be seen as often. He said he is pleased with my lifestyle choices and the strong support system I have at home and he felt confident I would come in more often if something shifted.

It seems the frequency you are on is perhaps indicated when a patient is doing well on their current mix of meds and has been emotionally stable for a period of time. If this is not the case for you I would seek a way to be seen more often. You shouldn't have to suffer through paranoia if you know the right thing for you is a different frequency. I hope you're able to find a treatment plan that works and gives you a greater sense of comfort.

I remember having a therapist who only wanted to see me every three weeks. Part of it was financial (he didn't take insurance), but it was too little for me, especially at that time. One benefit was that he welcomed email correspondence. Will your tdoc allow you to contact her/him, if you really need to? Are there possibilities to see her/him in urgent cases? If not, you may want to explore finding someone new.

Does your tdoc/pdoc know you have trouble with compliance when appointments are far between? You may want to tell them.

[MickeyCheeky]

You have every right to have weekly appointments if you feel like you need to, Miguel'smom! I COMPLETELY AGREE with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! Does your therapist allow you to contact him/her during emergencies if you need additional support? If that's not possible, I'd DEFINITELY suggesto to look for another therapist if you can! You have EVERY RIGHT to see one as many times as you need to and want to after all! I hope you'll be able to find one soon! Let us know how your search goes, ok? WE ALL DO CARE ABOUT YOU! THAT'S A PROMISE! PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP HOPE! THINGS CAN AND WILL GET BETTER! THAT'S A PROMISE! I hope things will get better soon for you and that you'll be able to find who you're looking for! Sending many AWESOME, kind, safe, sweet, warm, wise and WONDERFUL HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY, MIGUEL'SMOM, JUST LIKE YOU ALL ARE! I HOPE YOU BELIEVE THAT AND KNOW THAT! THAT'S TRUE! THAT'S ABSOLUTELY TRUE!

[Victoria'smom]

Use the dbt skills and do a pros and cons list of staying and leaving I'll do that today, I've never done DBT though. I'm to afraid of group and it's not offered here.

Are you able to get in to see your current pdoc in emergencies? The one time I called because I don't do well speaking up for myself, they got me in the next business day. She says she's really available by phone but I don't call when needed because I don't want them to say go to the hospital. So I'll quietly wait for my next appointment. So will my husband.

Can you see your old T at the other clinic more often? Old T left the old clinic for his own private practice. He doesn't take my insurance. The old clinic use to do weekly but I don't know if they do anymore. My husband hates driving there too. So he'll complain every session. We came here because they had IOP if needed and it's connected to the closest hospital. Now I don't think given history I would do IOP.

There is a place right down the road that may take my insurance but I don't know the frequency and they're partnered with a different hospital. They also only have 1 star. Since moving here 4 years ago I've seen 4 therapists. This will be my fifth. 2 of them I asked for transfers. If the other clinic was closer and I trusted our car it'd be a no brainier. But the current clinic we go to is only 2 miles away. I wish I was an easy case and didn't feel as a burden for needing therapy. I'm not even sure I need therapy but it seems easier to stay on meds when I have regular therapy.

[Victoria'smom]

! Does your therapist allow you to contact him/her during emergencies if you need additional support? I don't know.

[Victoria'smom]

Does your tdoc/pdoc know you have trouble with compliance when appointments are far between? They know I have trouble with compliance and they know if I'm off medication I'll just cancel and not reschedule. Which is new in the last few years. They can't hospitalize me if they don't see me. Plus if I don't like a therapist (haven't clicked with one yet at this clinic) I'll give them 6 sessions sometimes more then I'll just not go anymore. I'm horrible at bringing stuff up that bother me. The first time I was transferred it's because she could only see me every 5 weeks and she wanted me IOP. The second time I was transferred I asked after I didn't feel I was getting anywhere and I didn't like her. So I just stopped going. This therapist I didn't care for because I couldn't properly explain why my husband doesn't work and felt I was in trouble when talking to her. So I stopped going. She also asked me every single session if I needed to go to the hospital. When I had to go back (psychosis) she was leaving for another location. So IDK, both my husband and son like their therapists. My son manages to see his T 2x a month and has group in between and my husband's fine with ever three weeks, Maybe I'm asking for to much or I'm really just too sick for therapy.