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Old Sep 07, 2019, 04:51 PM
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HI again, Laura!

How are you doing today?

You have waited 2 years to meet this gentleman, why not wait until you are stable?

If I am recalling correctly, you have some lengthy periods of stability. It's best to pursue new relationships, especially potentially romantic relationships, when in a more stable place.

Oh, want to ask you: How is your mom doing?

Are you still in contact with your nurse friend?

I am very concerned about you.
I hope you will wait, Laura.
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Old Sep 07, 2019, 06:42 PM
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Hi Miss Laura please be careful! I don't know if I have much new to add to this post, but want to echo what others have said that this sounds dangerous, and if it's out of character than please consider waiting until you are stable before making decisions. I have made a rule with myself that I will not make any important decisions if possible when I am dealing with certain mood issues due to hormones because I know I would make decisions I might regret later. This has worked well for me. If I still feel that way when I am more stable then I can make that decision when my judgement is not clouded. I hope you can keep some insight into what is going on and think about your future self. Reaching out for help seems like a good idea if you are not feeling stable.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 04:03 AM
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HI again, Laura!


How are you doing today?


You have waited 2 years to meet this gentleman, why not wait until you are stable?


If I am recalling correctly, you have some lengthy periods of stability. It's best to pursue new relationships, especially potentially romantic relationships, when in a more stable place.


Oh, want to ask you: How is your mom doing?


Are you still in contact with your nurse friend?


I am very concerned about you.

I hope you will wait, Laura.
Hey!!! I had a great sleep, slept 10 hours making up for yesterday I suppose. I still feel great. I feel if I don't do this I'm no fun. My fun side is non-existent. I know you all think I'm crazy.

Mum is good thanks still plodding along very little progress tbh.

Yeah Zoe has been great but I think she's concerned about me now which I didn't want, I just needed someone to chat to
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 05:02 AM
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I'm chatting to a guy on WhatsApp and he is wanting me to dye my hair lilac I have brown/blonde hair. He made an appt at a hair dressers here for me to look into extensions. I don't want to do either. I managed to fight that battle and win I think. But then he ordered me things off of Amazon that are naughty. He constantly wants to know what I am wearing. To begin with I would pretend to say yes but now I'm worried he's getting too intense.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 05:14 AM
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Yes, he's definitely getting too controlling and I'm REALLY HAPPY you're starting to see that as well. Please interrupt all communications with him... I feel like he's up to no good. Please, PLEASE stay safe, my dear, sweet friend!
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 06:19 AM
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I'm chatting to a guy on WhatsApp and he is wanting me to dye my hair lilac I have brown/blonde hair. He made an appt at a hair dressers here for me to look into extensions. I don't want to do either. I managed to fight that battle and win I think. But then he ordered me things off of Amazon that are naughty. He constantly wants to know what I am wearing. To begin with I would pretend to say yes but now I'm worried he's getting too intense.
So many red flags here. Find a polite way to stop communicating with him.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 08:33 AM
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Hey!!! I had a great sleep, slept 10 hours making up for yesterday I suppose. I still feel great. I feel if I don't do this I'm no fun. My fun side is non-existent. I know you all think I'm crazy.

Mum is good thanks still plodding along very little progress tbh.

Yeah Zoe has been great but I think she's concerned about me now which I didn't want, I just needed someone to chat to
Hi Laura!

Glad you've gotten some sleep!

You are fun! You often tell us about the fun things you are doing.

I don't think you are crazy. I do think you are having difficulty with insight right now and I am concerned about your welfare.

I agree with fern46. These guys' behaviors are clearly signaling they are not looking out for your best interests.

When you are well, you are better able to see/notice these things.
You are loved here. You've been reaching out here because you are not sure about how to handle this situation. You can trust us to help you make safe decisions.

It is not a good time to meet up with any guy. Wait until you stabilize so you have a better chance of making sound decisions regarding establishing any romantic relationship.

Please take our feedback into consideration.
I think you know we keep writing to you because we care.

Please take good care, Miss Laura.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 12:32 PM
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Thanks for all your comments and private messages.... I'm lucky to have you all. I'm gonna try and stay away from here and the guys but I'm not promising anything. I go home in an hour and a half. Which means I'm gonna be alone in my flat where all the carnage happens.

Honestly thank you for talking to me you guys are the best
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 01:07 PM
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I am glad you are going to try to stay away. It is good you set boundaries with the one about the hair. They don't have a right to try to make you do anything, they don't even know you and it's not their decision to make! Please continue to keep yourself safe. Can you talk to or visit some friends or occupy yourself in some other way? What kinds of other, safer things do you like to do that make you happy, that you could use to distract yourself?
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 01:24 PM
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I am glad you are going to try to stay away. It is good you set boundaries with the one about the hair. They don't have a right to try to make you do anything, they don't even know you and it's not their decision to make! Please continue to keep yourself safe. Can you talk to or visit some friends or occupy yourself in some other way? What kinds of other, safer things do you like to do that make you happy, that you could use to distract yourself?
I don't have any friends in real life. I've a lot of acquaintances. But that's not the same. I'm unsure if the guy is still coming on Tues. We haven't spoken since Thurs. I'm volunteering tomorrow and seeing an acquaintance tomorrow.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 02:07 PM
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I don't have any friends in real life. I've a lot of acquaintances. But that's not the same. I'm unsure if the guy is still coming on Tues. We haven't spoken since Thurs. I'm volunteering tomorrow and seeing an acquaintance tomorrow.
why do you want to stay away from here?

I really like yellow_fleurs' post to you. She talks about healthy boundaries and distractions.

I am sorry you feel you have no friends irl..

I recall your sharing a photo of you with other people: Weren't there friends in the picture?

What about your nurse friend?

I hope you can reach out irl, too!
We are here for you!
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 02:19 PM
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Just wanted to clarify I am glad you are trying to stay away from those guys, but please don't feel you have to stay away from here. I didn't catch that part of the your post
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:06 PM
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I feel I'm annoying you guys so I'm gonna take tomorrow out from being on here. Its gonna be hard but yeah think I need to do it.

Zoe hasn't been in contact today and I know she's working tomorrow so I can't chat to her.

Tonight I'm home and stressing out about what to do.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:06 PM
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ur not annoying im experiencing mania vicariously it's nice.

ur using the forum for what it's made for.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:17 PM
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You're not annoying anyone. You're getting some strong and direct advice, but I think that only shows how much people care about you here.

I hope you are able to find ways to experience peace this evening without too much stress. You know what the right decisions are. Fight for them instead of stressing. Its a better use of energy.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:20 PM
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Miss Laura,

You are not annoying anyone!
I'd be very concerned if you disappear from here when you are having a tough time.

I am wondering if your decision to stay away, for now, is what may cause some misunderstanding with people irl?
Friends step up and are supportive when you need support. We are here for you and you are choosing to isolate and/or to withdraw from support offered here.

We are here chatting on this thread with you because we want to chat with you. We want to be here for you. We would not return to this thread, otherwise.

No need to isolate from people being available to you!
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:30 PM
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please don't quit posting.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:32 PM
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Thank you guys it's nice to know I have friends.

IRL my friend that I talk to has ignored my message on WhatsApp that I sent last week despite being online so she would of seen it. My message was hey how are you? She has also ignored my message on FB messager I sent on Fri asking if she wanted to go to a meditation class with me. My 3 other friends ignore me have their own important lives to lead. I haven't spoken to 1 since April, 1 from May and 1 from June I constantly text or message them but they ignore me.

I give up!

Life isn't meant to be with friends I'm destined to just be alone like the loser I am.

The friend in May took 10 days to tell me she had her baby only cause I texted her to ask. Despite her saying she would text. People say I over reacted as I'm raging she doesn't class me as a good friend I've known her for 10 ish years. I'm hurt tbh. But as usual I'm a loser.

My friend is currently online who I normally chat to and she hasn't looked at my messages. I give up.

Talking to the guys makes me feel liked. I know that's stupid.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:46 PM
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I think that you should tell these friends of yours that they hurt your feelings.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:48 PM
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You are liked here. You're great!
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 03:59 PM
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I think that you should tell these friends of yours that they hurt your feelings.
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I don't want to hurt their feelings ironic huh. I feel if I did I would lose them completely as in my head I still have them... if that makes sense
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 05:59 PM
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Laura I have enjoyed your company for years here. Stay, share how your feeling.

Love you bunches and I just want to help you ride out this manic hell and have soft as possible landing and not a path of destruction to fix in the aftermath.
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Old Sep 08, 2019, 08:02 PM
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I really can't think of anything to add beyond what has already been said, so just consider me a member of the chorus. Much love to you Miss Laura, I hope you find your way back to safety, and soon. Also, please continue to post. So many people here care very much about you.
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Old Sep 09, 2019, 10:22 AM
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how u doing @Miss Laura
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Old Sep 09, 2019, 12:35 PM
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how u doing @Miss Laura
I'm still great thanks, my friends haven't contacted me so I give up trying to talk to people in real life. The guy is definitely coming over in less than 16 hours. I'm mega excited still.
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