Just Made Brownies--I Feel Better!

Wow, fern--that is some extremely high-level stuff you are pulling off for yourself. Totally out of my league. Fantastic!!


I know zero about dreams or dream analysis. But I am going to read about it this afternoon, because what you write resonates. Consciously, the wide-awake and alert me? I can honestly say, I am afraid of only two things: something bad happening to my kids and my own brain. I have no fear of any other human(s) or any other life outcome, because I have been to the bottom of the pit and I have danced with the monster.


I am not boasting here, but, the path that I have been set upon has resulted in me knowing that, even if the worst possible thing happens to me, I will make it through that--assuming I choose to do so. I am very, very strong, at the end of the day. No idea why or how. But I am.


My subconscious, however, could certainly be an entirely different matter. This could explain a lot about me. So, I am off to read about dream analysis.

Thanks a million, fern!!!!!

I wouldn't have mentioned it if I felt it was out of your league

I too was in a similar place consciously speaking. I had a pretty strong resolve and felt like I could weather any storm. Oddly enough, my greatest fears are the same as yours. I was fighting hard for kids and to keep them safe and I had a fear of losing my mind the way my mother had. At any rate, my 'dark night of the soul' came.

It turns out I suffered some trauma from when I was a child that I repressed. If I had to guess, it caused me to dissociate. Memories of that trauma began to surface before I got sick. They helped to explain why I was so afraid of my kids being hurt.

When I went psychotic, it was just like being in a dream. I didn't analytically think anything through. I just acted instantly like you do in a dream. Seemingly unrelated things all blurred together one after another. At first, it seemed like pure chaos and I repressed a lot of it. Only my husband really had the full picture of what happened and of course he could not see inside my brain.

I started digging into psychoanalysis and the theories Jung had about the subconscious and how it works and holds the memories that we have dissociated from. It is the home of our deepest fears personified and he speaks at length about the possibility for psychosis if the subconscious takes over and we begin to identify with its personas. It is like a dam that eventually just breaks and floods your mind if you repress too much.

I knew the subconscious mind is in the driver's seat when you dream and I remembered telling my therapist several times my episode felt like I was trapped in a nightmare I couldn't break out of.

Several more memories from my episode came back to me and it hit me. My subconscious mind was in control during my episode. Somehow the balance went haywire and that's why I could only remember bits and pieces. My conscious and subconscious were in one epic battle.

So then I reviewed the parts I could remember, but in the same way you would if you were trying to understand a dream. Here are a few interesting parallels I made.

I stood in my hallway for a long time and slammed hand onto the light switch and each time the light came on I yelled 'do you hear me now?'. I would then turn it off and whisper 'I don't think they hear you'. From a consciousness perspetive the light represents the conscious mind and the dark is the subconscious. I think perhaps my subconscious wanted me to finally see what was hidden. It was so adamant I did this until my hand bled. It didn't think conscious me was getting it so it stepped up to the next level.

At one point I thought my husband, who I felt was evil during my episode even though he's the best dad, stole my child. I busted down a huge section of wall to get to and free my child. Subconsciously we all have an inner child. Mine had been abused. Symbolically, I think I was projecting the role of my abuser onto my husband and the role of damaged me onto my real life child. I was basically trying to save myself.

There are tons of other examples, but that might give you an idea. So now, when those similar feelings come up I consciously tell myself that it is ok that I feel that way. I remind myself that those memories do not have to hide anymore. I no longer dissociate from it and welcome those pieces home. I acknowledge the fear and match it with unconditional love. I also try to hold compassion for those who hurt me because we are all connected. I've found a small sense of peace this way. I'm still working with it.

They may have a vegan option, there certainly are some.

I am about 95% vegan. Maybe a bit more than that. The only thing I use that is out of bounds is occasional eggs, most often for baking. If I could solve that, I would be 100%.

Welp, I've read this post three times. I do relate to what you describe about repression. I do not know if I have dissociated. Possibly.

Going to have to consider how all this applies to my situation. Dreams, as I say, are not an issue for me. But maybe this subconscious world is exacerbating the psychosis business. Maybe that's my dream. Certainly could be. It would be so nice if that got better.

Meeting it with love, huh? That seems like a challenge. Love for myself for surviving all that abuse? I can see that, I guess. When invalidation has been constant and unrelenting, it is a bit hard to get there, since I tend to adopt the psychic detritus of the invalidation. But I can work on this...

I have some homework. Thanks a million, fern!!!!

When everything happened to me I hadn't dreamt in years. I dream regularly now. Its like my episode sorta reset things.

Yes love. Not the passionate kind or the kind that you have when you prefer something, but the unconditional kind that accepts all things. I didn't want to see this 'dirty' part of myself that was broken so much that I held it in for over 30 years. I treated it like I hated it.

When I met that part of myself with love, I also offered the love of a mother. I am a mother now and I know what it means to love and protect a child. I'm safe now and I needed the hidden parts of me to know they weren't wrong or ugly and that coming back together was safe.

When we suffer trauma at the hands of others we are made to feel weak and broken and like we lack what they 'take' from us. Validation for yourself and loving the incredibly strong survivor self that you are paired with the scared victim you were feels to me at least like we're talking the same language. You see quite well My psychiatrist thought my approach was fascinating. On the one hand he was fearful I'd go too far too fast. On the other he said he could see these same themes in countless patients he sees.

Nobody told me this is the way. Its just a strategy I organically came up with. Kinda like physics and balancing out two forces. Fear is pushing so hard in one direction and it is your mind and heart gnerating it. You mind and heart maybe need to at first accept the blow, navigate to the root of it, see it for what it is (bring it to light or consciousness) and validate it. Then you can infuse it with a force that brings things back to balance.

The light and the dark are equally as valuable and powerful. I think some psychologists have this part confused when they say the subconscious is inferior. Facing it is equally as hard as any conscious effort I've made if not harder.

I'd be very interested to see what turns up for you on your journey. Follow your intuition. If it resonates, go with it. If it feels wrong, drop it. If it scares you, you're probably right on target. Go at your own pace. There is no wrong way except for maybe standing still forever.

Eta: I like this song for our discussion.
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I shall endeavor to work on it...

Very interesting approach, fern--as usual. Thanks again!!

Hugs!!

bpcyclist, my friend, do you know what this thread made me do? It made me make brownies! I'm not sure if I feel better or not. My house smells good. Anyway, I found a recipe that calls for olive oil instead of butter. We'll see how they've turned out. I've been trying to cut down on saturated fat in order to maybe lower my cholesterol. I'm more concerned about my cholesterol than my weight.

AHAA!!!!! Good for you! Or sorry! Whichever works better in this situation...

That is so funny that you mention the olive oil. I have been trying to increase my use of it (and reduce butter, which I mainly only use in baking) and so I substituted about 2/3 of the total oil (I usually just use canola) with extra virgin olive oil to see what happened. Very curious how that turned out for you. Mine were darn good and I could not tell about the olive oil. I could, however, note the relative absence of that unique canola oil odor/taste and I actually preferred its absence to the actual recipe.

That's interesting what you wrote about canola oil having a unique taste/smell. I never noticed that.

My brownies turned out great and fudgy with the extra virgin olive oil. Perhaps if I had had regular or light olive oil that would have been a better choice (cheaper and less fragrant), but I only have extra virgin. I don't mind that faint taste in them at all. I love olives! I think my brownies could still be good with slightly less oil.

I am thinking of making chocolate chip cookies. Anyone have a good recipe for this? I am relying more on "I cannot believe it is butter!" than olive oil. For every tablespoon, the margarine has allot less calories, but still tastes good. I think they use real butter as part of their ingredients. Sometimes I use both at the same time.

Hi Tucson. I don't often make chocolate chip cookies, but make many other types. I assume your "I Can't Believe It's Not Butter" is one appropriate for baking and frying, as opposed to one only suitable for spreading. There is a difference that would truly affect the end result. Even so, if your "I Can't Believe It's Not Butter" is in a spread form vs. a stick, there is surely more water content in it. That would affect the texture of the cookie. My strong guess is that using a spread vs. a stick margarine would result in wafer flat hard cookies rather than chewier ones. Maybe I'd be wrong. You can try it.

I know that the chocolate part of chocolate chip cookies is often the main appeal, but the brown sugar, vanilla extract, and butter aspect is also crucial, giving it that delicious raw dough many like. My advice is to use dark brown sugar instead of light brown sugar, if there is a choice. You would surely want the extra molasses flavor (that is more present in dark brown sugar) to shine more since you would not have the benefit of the natural delicious flavor of real butter that margarine usually lacks. If you like nuts, the flavor of some walnuts, especially, may also help. Plus, they add some more fat (healthy fat) and would help the appeal if the cookie baked flatter. If the margarine also has a higher water content, perhaps a wee bit of extra flour might be needed to get the dough the right stickiness. I'd also be sure to use size large or even extra large eggs, no smaller. Eggs are a form of leavening. Or another strategy may be to add 1/8 tsp or less more of the baking powder/soda. It's possible that the cookies may be a little "cakier" than usual vs. chewy.

If you take any of the above advice, please forgive me if your cookies don't work out.

The fat in the butter really helps the cookies from a texture perspective. I like the classic Toll House recipe. It always comes out great. It makes a lot, but you can put the dough on a cookie sheet and freeze the balls and then bag them and store them in the freezer for months. Enjoy your cookies!

Tucson, I think fern has a good idea about the freezing/chilling. I know that with many cookies, refrigerating (at least) the dough helps prevent cookies from spreading too much. You might consider putting the cookie dough on the cookie sheets (in ready to bake shape) then refrigerating the dough for 15 mins before putting in the oven. Usually chocolate chip cookie dough is not refrigerated, but I can't see that it would hurt at all. If you look at the ingredient list for the tubes of refrigerated cookie dough you can buy, there is no butter included. Only shortening. NESTLE(R) TOLL HOUSE(R) Refrigerated Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough, NESTLE(R) TOLL HOUSE(R)

Outstanding ideas! I always use real unsalted butter for my cookies. Texture is the issue here. I will chill the dough before using. Adding extra baking soda is a thought. For fluffy pancakes, I usually add an egg to the mix, extra baking soda, and a couple squeezes of a lemon. I then let it sit for a couple hours to leaven. In the case if cookies, it is different. Refrigeration is the better idea. I will place all the ingredients together and combine with a fork.

These are awesome, but I have never made them with anything but butter.

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I just bookmarked this.

Be careful--they're yummy... especially when they are still warm...

Cant go to the gym which I did regularly for years.
Cant even go to the dog park.
Close to finishing the first of my series of childrens books. Blocked on finishing.
How are you doing with your book, bicyclist?
Ordered Nutrisystem to control my binge eating.
The food is really disgusting with some pouches of food like they have in the military. Many lunches are simply snack bars. This isnt even healthy.
Of course I ate all the little ice cream desserts first!!!LOL
I am going to use turkey patties, fish and vegetables to supplement this. I do pretty well on Weight Watchers because vegetables are zero points.
At least the concept of getting serious about weight loss has stopped me from eating huge bags of movie time buttered popcorn, which I had been doing.WHAT ARE YOU FOLKS DOING TO FIGHT BOREDOM? EVEN THE DOG IS GOING NUTS!

Really? Not even the dog park? Bummer. Thought the six-foot thing might work there...

I did not know you were writing a children's book. That is totally awesome!! What is it called? I am half way through edit #1. It is going fine. Going to need to tidy a few things up here and there, but it should be okay.Painful and triggering at times, but I will make it.

My ex-wife was a model. She would occasionally take time off from it, then, when she got back to it, she always started trying to lose weight with one of those systems thingys. I never thought any of it tasted very good, but she always lost the weight,which she totally did not even need to lose in the first place, because she was already skinny!!!! The modeling business is horrible. So abusive to those women (and maybe, men, too--not sure).

As for fighting boredom, am binge-watching shows, cleaning, baking occasionally, reading, writing, ane getting outside at least once a day for at least a few minutes. Not sure what else to do.

Not sure why these turned out so poofy--usually, they are much flatter. Dunno. But they taste good! Never made them white choc chips before. And it cheered me up to make them! So, that's good, I guess...

Those look great! My cookies often come out poofy too. They disappear regardless.

I was thinking of adding white chocolate chips in addition to the regular. My audience loves a chocolate cookie from Subway that has both kinds. I think the recipe you shared might get us close. We're planning to try it this week.

I dunno if it's just me, but I prefer poofy sweets. I like things that are soft.

Sounds good though. I love white chocolate chips in my brownies.

They look darned good to me. They look like brownie bites.

I need to use some white chocolate sometime soon, too.