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Old Jun 09, 2020, 09:38 PM
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Thanks to all of you !

He is really no different , sleeping 20 + hours a day, I am making him drink every hour, I have unsweet tea, water and gatoraide for him, he doesnt really wake up but he drinks some and rolls right back over.
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Old Jun 09, 2020, 10:30 PM
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Old Jun 10, 2020, 04:38 AM
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I am thinking about you and Steve, hoping his infection is gone soon.
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Old Jun 10, 2020, 12:46 PM
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You are A #1 as far as I am concerned. You have character, consideration, and compassion. You are a full time caregiver. Your hudband is very very fortunate.
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Old Jun 10, 2020, 06:24 PM
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Nothing new to report. He is still sleeping pretty much 20 hours a day. He isnt giving me any grief about half waking him up to have a drink every 45 mins or so.

Thanks everyone for the ongoing support
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Old Jun 11, 2020, 05:40 AM
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I hope things get better for you and Steve soon. I can only imagine the stress of what both of you are going through right now.

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Christina and Steve

You and Steve are both in my thoughts and prayers every day. May things improve for you both. May you both feel love surrounding you. Much love, always
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 03:27 PM
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 07:57 PM
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Nothing has changed He takes his last Bactrium tonight and as expected its not cleared this up, it was like last ditch attempt before Hospital anyway.

With help ( thank you WC) I was able to get paper work on Living wills and download it last night, We discussed it, we just need to fill it out tonight , I am not sure any banks here have open offices, most are drive through so Im not sure how to get this notorized , but if not we just need 2 signatures, I would like Notary so that there wont be any issue with his sons if Steve doesnt make it.

My daughter wants to come up an be with me if he needs to be in the hospital but its a covid risk I cant take right now. If he doesnt make it I will need her then, I really will need her then.

Steves middle son is in school to be a Pilot and he is needing to take a instrument exam and the earliest test opening is 4 months away. Here he could get it done in a few days....He lives in Miami. He still is logging hours and will still be doing more even once he takes that test. Chaise said he could come up here and he ( steve) would just wear a mask 24/7.. Under non covid plague id have no problem with his son coming here for test, He came up for 2 months to get his initial one engine pilot license as it was half the price of doing it in Miami. But we can not take the risk . This infection Steve has ? Its got a 60% morbitiy rate, There is no way he would survive covid on top of it.
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 08:09 PM
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Car dealerships also have notaries and one was very nice about helping me when I was selling my house. I don't know if you have one near you but if you do it's worth a call.

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Old Jun 12, 2020, 08:15 PM
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Car dealerships also have notaries and one was very nice about helping me when I was selling my house. I don't know if you have one near you but if you do it's worth a call.

Still praying for you and for Steve.

Thank you I had not even thought about them.
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 08:35 PM
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my bank gave me a card with a notary public, we met in a star bucks so we could have 2 witnesses there. It worked out well.
Am so sorry you are going thru this, you must be terrified!
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 09:09 PM
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Thanks Bizi .. We might be able to find someone willing to met us.. Covid sure has F'd lots of things up
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 09:21 PM
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Nothing has changed He takes his last Bactrium tonight and as expected its not cleared this up, it was like last ditch attempt before Hospital anyway.

With help ( thank you WC) I was able to get paper work on Living wills and download it last night, We discussed it, we just need to fill it out tonight , I am not sure any banks here have open offices, most are drive through so Im not sure how to get this notorized , but if not we just need 2 signatures, I would like Notary so that there wont be any issue with his sons if Steve doesnt make it.

My daughter wants to come up an be with me if he needs to be in the hospital but its a covid risk I cant take right now. If he doesnt make it I will need her then, I really will need her then.

Steves middle son is in school to be a Pilot and he is needing to take a instrument exam and the earliest test opening is 4 months away. Here he could get it done in a few days....He lives in Miami. He still is logging hours and will still be doing more even once he takes that test. Chaise said he could come up here and he ( steve) would just wear a mask 24/7.. Under non covid plague id have no problem with his son coming here for test, He came up for 2 months to get his initial one engine pilot license as it was half the price of doing it in Miami. But we can not take the risk . This infection Steve has ? Its got a 60% morbitiy rate, There is no way he would survive covid on top of it.
I am so sorry you guys are in this total nightmare, Christina, but I did want to just say one thing about statistics and you know this, because of your background. These numbers, percentages, they don't apply to individual patients, right? Becuae, for example, when I operated on a gal who had metastatic melanoma all over her body her "survival" was less that 5%. But for her, in this case, it was actually 100%--because all her tumors magically disappeared on their own. A miracle, I guess, but the point is, those numbers don't really mean anything to Steve. His survival could very easily be 100%, too. Just wanted to remind you of that, even though I am sure you know it. I know it is hard, btu he could very well totally pull through this.

Hugs and prayers, every single night for you guys.
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Old Jun 12, 2020, 09:31 PM
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Yes the % of life lost has many factors.. But My husband is on oxygen almost full time now and I get overjoyed if he is at 90 sat, So his severe copd plays into all this.. Sure my husband could response quickly to which ever IV antibiotic is tried first or there could be need for numerous antibiotics that open up a window where further infections can happen..

The reality is now that the only option we have is IV antibiotics its raising this to another level. I have not given up hope and I pray constantly... But I also have to think of a possible devastating outcome.

I didnt know you did surgery .. Yes that woman was graced with a miracle
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Yes the % of life lost has many factors.. But My husband is on oxygen almost full time now and I get overjoyed if he is at 90 sat, So his severe copd plays into all this.. Sure my husband could response quickly to which ever IV antibiotic is tried first or there could be need for numerous antibiotics that open up a window where further infections can happen..

The reality is now that the only option we have is IV antibiotics its raising this to another level. I have not given up hope and I pray constantly... But I also have to think of a possible devastating outcome.

I didnt know you did surgery .. Yes that woman was graced with a miracle
Yeah, 2 residencies--foolish. Prayers for you guys...
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I know you've been totally exhausted and simple day-to-day things have felt overwhelming. Your strength is incredible, your love immeasurable. You've given this your all.

I realize it's heart wrenching for you to have to admit Steve to the hospital under these COVID-19 restrictions. I hold you both in my heart, hoping and praying you will both find respite, solace, peace and healing.

I wish I could do much more for you both. I am here for you.
May you both feel surrounded by Love.
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Many town/city offices have at least one notary on staff.

UPS stores often offer notary services.
I am wondering if the Post Office might also offer notary services.

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Last night Steve started to get worse, he had basically been in bed for over 24 hours. He fell twice, Luckily it was in the bed room where there is carpet and our bed is low to the ground.

I finally got him up and he was literally shaking his legs barely holding him up. Hes been on Oxygen full time this past week instead of just at night.

Made him a egg sandwich , Check his vitals and blood pressure a tad low, no fever. About an hour later I checked his blood sugar and it was 295! He is not a diabetic, I rechecked and hour later and only down to 256 then an hour later and 226. So 3 hours and hes still too high. His confusion was getting worse.. I do not know how I got him washed up, dressed and ready to go to the ER, He was almost falling ever moment he was standing up, My husband is not a small guy..Got him in the car.

I had added the last 24 hours on to the med summary of everything going back 8 weeks and all meds he has been on, I sent a message to his boys that I was taking him to the hospital.

We arrived and they would not let me go back in the ER as I suspected, They said they "might" have some visitation Monday, They took him back right away and I was told to go to the car and wait for a call. I got in my car and lost it...They were running all kinds of labs, He was having huge trouble communicating , so they were greatful for all the info I provided but it would ave been better my being there, This God damn Plague !!!!

They will admit him.. I came home, they would not let me see him regardless..... If they dont call me in an hour I will call, I do not know if he will be in a regular bed or in the ICU.. I do not know what IV antibiotic they will be putting him on. He does have his phone and I have texted and no reply and I am not surprised with his confusion.

He was scared that I couldnt go with him and we both were crying, what if that is the last time I see him , And please people dont give me platitudes that he will be fine and I should not think that way,, he has a very serious bacterial infection that 60% of people die from. Yes I am praying hard. If he doesnt make it I will be destroyed.

So if anyone has a prayer or a good thought to throw our way I would greatly appreciate it..
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I'm so sorry to read this. This Covid thing makes everything so much harder than it should be. You've been so strong and you love Steve so much. We need more of that kind of love in the world.

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