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Old Oct 08, 2012, 03:52 AM
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Thank you for posting this. I haven't been able to find anything that was that easy to understand. Most descriptions I've read are filled with psychological jargon and I get lost in the point. It makes perfect sense now. I was just diagnosed with BPD and this description suits me.


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Old Oct 08, 2012, 10:36 AM
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yes it is possible to live a normal life with bpd also the symptoms become less and less problematic as we get older ..
That is a theory but not always true. I'd been relatively fine for years and then circumstances put me right back where I was as a teenager. I've met a number of people on here in similar situations. I think BPD can improve or get worse....it all depends on what life throws at you. If you have nothing dramatic happen, it will get better over time. If you get involved in a relationship, are afraid of being abandonded, or adverse things happen, it will come right back. Just depends.
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Old Oct 15, 2012, 11:02 AM
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does anyone know of any support groups out there. The mental health team are failing me big time
Check out NAMI, and see if they have anything in your area.
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Old Oct 15, 2012, 11:06 AM
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That is a theory but not always true. I'd been relatively fine for years and then circumstances put me right back where I was as a teenager. I've met a number of people on here in similar situations. I think BPD can improve or get worse....it all depends on what life throws at you. If you have nothing dramatic happen, it will get better over time. If you get involved in a relationship, are afraid of being abandonded, or adverse things happen, it will come right back. Just depends.
I agree 100%. I was coping fine until approx. five years ago then bam, crash and burn. Many hospitalizations, meds, etc.. So it getting better with age is definitely not the rule.
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Old Oct 18, 2012, 08:49 AM
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Power Tools 321 is right, this is more like me than Bipolar disorder. It's actually creepy, and makes me wanna cry..
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This is a really good description, and easy to read...I don't know if I'm glad that there is something to describe how I feel, or freaked. Oh well. Good description anyway!
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Old Oct 27, 2012, 11:36 AM
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This is so enlightening thanks for posting ,I was offically diagnosed with BPD 7 months ago after being trated for Depression ,Anxiety ,OCD and few others in a period of 20 years but what I could never understand was why out of lots of other people with depression I always felt extra emotional, extra scared ect but I have spent my life trying to please everybody to the extent I actually feel other's pain /mood. I am in DBT therapy now learning new skills but if I feel so sad if I take a step back I want to give up, but I have to try for my kids and Husband ,I wish I could just wake up every day and feel ok I am not asking to feel over the moon just ok to get through the day .
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Old Nov 03, 2012, 07:39 PM
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instablity pretty much sums up my life......
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Old Nov 09, 2012, 04:46 AM
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is this the most scariest of mental illness. I'm scared of myself my thoughts, being alone and especially my impulsivness especially suicide attempts. They have been quite serious. Last attempt I was found unconcious by my Dad. I wished he'd never found me. I wished I could have, "Do not ressucitate" on my hospital file.
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That sounds like me, unfortunately.
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Very good description of me. I feel as though I try so hard. But, the chronic chaos in my life is maddening !

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Hi there Shez. Just found this comment from you on the BPD symptom's list and as I feel EXACTLY the same - I thought I'd let you know hunny. Look, there's all of us borderliners!!!!! XXX
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[COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]this is so me[/COLOR]
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This is a somewhat good description of BPD. Discribes me to a T.
Although there are many negative traits
attributed to this disorder I think that BPD is just the result of frustrated genius.

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Old Nov 29, 2012, 10:12 PM
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I can't believe that after reading the symptoms that were posted how much everything fits me. I have just been recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, although I believe that I have had this for years and no one has diagnosed me with it until now, when I actually lost my kids, and everything is going south for me.
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After reading the description of borderline that is in this thread,
I became very sad.....
to think that I've had all of these borderline symptoms my whole lifetime.
I've wasted a whole lifetime with my borderline behavior. And also
the lives of the people I came in contact with. I am deeply ashamed.
Had I not stumbled on this PsychCentral website, I might never have found
any explanation at all for my worthlessness. I would most likely have spent
what's left of my life blaming everyone else for my problems.
I don't know if I am still young enough to make any worthwhile changes now that I can admit to my insanity.
I wouldn't even know where to begin.
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Old Dec 04, 2012, 04:38 AM
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I thought it was bipolar II. This is all me, no wonder my dr diagnosed me with this instead of bipolar....i'm not bipolar at all.
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After reading the description of borderline that is in this thread,
I became very sad.....
to think that I've had all of these borderline symptoms my whole lifetime.
I've wasted a whole lifetime with my borderline behavior. And also
the lives of the people I came in contact with. I am deeply ashamed.
Had I not stumbled on this PsychCentral website, I might never have found
any explanation at all for my worthlessness. I would most likely have spent
what's left of my life blaming everyone else for my problems.
I don't know if I am still young enough to make any worthwhile changes now that I can admit to my insanity.
I wouldn't even know where to begin.
Dear gabmux, you are not worthless at all. . You care about others and you care about yourself, and that shows in your post. Learning is something to celebrate. We can't go back, but we can go forward with what we have learned and what we keep learning.

Although I had been in therapy several times for depression and depression-with-anxiety, I didn't know about BPD until I was past 50 years of age. What a gift to receive! I am working with a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic psychotherapist and it is so helpful.

You already have learned something about perceptions, and working with a therapist can help you feel better and help your relationships. You have a lot of insight, so you have a 'head start'.

There is no need to feel ashamed of what you didn't know. We all act on what we know; it's all we can do.

I hope you can feel enthusiastic about your future because it sounds to me like it is getting ready to change for the better!!
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Old Dec 04, 2012, 09:47 AM
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Old Dec 09, 2012, 08:03 PM
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I like this description of BPD because it is more than just a list, and I suppose because I relate to it very much. Learning more about BPD has helped me slow down the processes and find words for what is going on.

When this diagnosis is offered, it isn't always offered as an explanation for how we relate to ourselves and others and the intense emotions that result.
It is a complex way of being, as one thing affects another..affects another. It is no wonder we often feel overwhelmed.
I feel so fortunate to have a psychotherapist who understands, accepts, and is kind and patient.

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from the site: http://www.borderlinedisorders.com/public.php

The symptoms of borderline patients are similar to those for which most people seek psychiatric help: depression, mood swings, the use and abuse of drugs, alcohol, or food as a means of trying to feel better; obsessions, phobias, feelings of emptiness and loneliness, inability to tolerate being alone.

In addition, these patients displayed great difficulties in controlling ragefulness; they were unusually impulsive, they fell in and out of love suddenly; they tended to idealize other people and then abruptly despise them. A consequence of all this was that they typically looked for help from a therapist and then suddenly quit in terrible disappointment and anger.

Underneath all these symptoms, therapists began to see in borderline people an inability to tolerate the levels of anxiety, frustration, rejection and loss that most people are able to put up with, an inability to soothe and comfort themselves when they become upset, and an inability to control the impulses toward the expression, through action, of love and hate that most people are able to hold in check. What seems to be of central importance in the symptoms and difficulties mentioned above is that the hallmark of the "borderline" personality is great difficulty in holding on to a stable, consistent sense of one's self: "What am I?" these people ask. "My life is in chaos; sometimes I feel like I can do anything—other times I want to die because I feel so incompetent, helpless and loathsome. I'm a lot of different people instead of being just one person."

The one word that best characterizes borderline personality is "instability." Emotions are unstable, fluctuating wildly, often for no discernible reason. Thought processes are unstable—rational and clear at times, quite extreme and distorted at other times. Behavior is unstable—often with periods of excellent conduct, high efficiency and trustworthiness alternating with outbreaks of regression to childlike states of helplessness and anger, suddenly quitting a job, withdrawing into isolation, failing.

Self control is unstable leading to impulsive behaviors and chaotic relationships. A person with borderline personality disorder may sacrifice themselves for others, only to reach their limit and suddenly fly into rageful reproaches, or they may curry favor through obedient submission only to rebel, out of the blue, in a tantrum.

Associated with this instability is terrible anxiety, guilt and self-loathing for which relief is sought at any cost—medicine, drugs, alcohol, overeating, suicide. Sadly, oddly, self-injury is discovered by many borderline people to provide faster relief than anything else—cutting or burning themselves stops the anxiety temporarily.

The effect upon others of all this trouble is profound: family members never know what to expect from their volatile child, siblings, or spouse, except they know they can expect trouble: suicide threats and attempts, self-inflicted injuries, outbursts of rage and recrimination, impulsive marriages, divorces, pregnancies and abortions; repeated starting and stopping of jobs and school careers, and a pervasive sense, on the part of the family, of being unable to help.
Thanks for the website. It really opened my eyes!
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Old Dec 10, 2012, 08:18 PM
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I feel the same way. Embarrassed and like I have wasted my life. Over 50 myself. No marriage, no children. See myself as the old lady with cats. It is really painful to feel that I have lost my chance at succeeding at life.
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Old Dec 11, 2012, 02:21 PM
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After reading the description of borderline that is in this thread,
I became very sad.....
to think that I've had all of these borderline symptoms my whole lifetime.
I've wasted a whole lifetime with my borderline behavior. And also
the lives of the people I came in contact with. I am deeply ashamed.
Had I not stumbled on this PsychCentral website, I might never have found
any explanation at all for my worthlessness. I would most likely have spent
what's left of my life blaming everyone else for my problems.
I don't know if I am still young enough to make any worthwhile changes now that I can admit to my insanity.
I wouldn't even know where to begin.
A lot of us feel the same way....I among them. We knew something was wrong our whole lives. All these constant problems, or we managed to pretend all was okay for a long time. Then, it got to the point that we couldn't do it anymore.....discovered BPD...were lead here. I am among them. You're not alone anymore. Find solace here, and work on getting better. Late is better than never. Imagine the amount of people who have the same issues but never discover the truth, never know.....
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I am terribly sad right now. I had my final appt with my Pdoc yesterday afternoon. He is retiring. The office gave me a copy if my records for my next Pdoc. I was dsm dx with major depression, severe anxiety and bpd. Nobody ever mentioned BPD. I have been reading up on it, and I am very shocked and saddened by it. I dont know what to make of it...I feel labeled and damaged. I am very sad.

I thought all of the horrible life experiences contributed to the symptoms of depression and anxiety. But I did not know I was walking around with a big sign on my forehead that announced to the world "BPD".

I have been living in a bubble: a giant lie. To myself. I feel as if my efforts in life and who I thought I was (a survivor of circumstances. Someone dealt a really crappy hand in life).

Not an eff'd up person I dont feel relieved. I feel as if another part of my soul/spirit has been trampled on. And a part of me has died. That part of me that I thought was intelligent and a survivor. BPD feels like such an ugly label. I feel ashamed and ugly.

I didnt realize I was born and presenting to the world labeled and broken.

Is there hope?
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