i constantly need people around me

i get extremely anxious when alone but i get tired of being around people all the time really fast. i start to get irritated, angry etc. but then as soon as im alone i get anxious and fidgety and kind of scared even. i need the comfort of just having someone around me and so this goes on and on in circles and its really unhealthy because im constantly irritable and im not having any time to just be alone which is like what i feel i need. why cant i just be ok for a day or two without having to be around someone. is this a normal part of bpd? i just feel disoriented when im alone.

I have been this way most of my life; I can't tolerate being alone. If my husband has to go to a meeting in the evening then we have to call around for a "sitter"--for ME! It's terrible. Since my latest T has helped me, I am better. I can go for 2 or 3 hours alone as long as I listen to my stereo and sing along.

omg i listen to music for hours on end when im alone too ! and yeah ive been like this since i started having relationships, why am i so dysfunctional! >.>

I wonder that about myself too, but then I try to question it hard.

Oh boy do i know how this feels. I actually start pacing the room i get that irritated being around people physically (thank god i live alone) Im trying to just 'be' with being alone - i think having a distraction helps. Reading works wonders, once im committed to a task i have to finish it - i get annoyed if my mind starts to wonder whilst reading so i force myself to focus. Perhaps just being around people in short bursts would help? That way you get the comfort of being with them but not enough to start making you uncomfortable. I think for me this would probably make me want to be with them even more but it might be worth giving it a shot.

i do read when im alone too it does help thank you. this definitely ties in with a previous post about noise i think thats part of it. short bursts seems worth a shot but i think that if im already with someone i have a hard time stopping being around them despite evil tick of irritation. what ends up hapening is il get away fromt he person (like my ladyfriend for example) by saying o i ahve to work on a apper or something or i need to be alone and she totally understands. but then like a few hours later im calling her again and asking her if she wants to come over(which again she totally understand which makes me that much more of an asshole for going back and forth all the time, seriously idk how she puts up with it but thnk god she understands lol) il just have tot ry to keep myself form making the call lol thnx for ur replies

were you reading my journal again??? Ever since I was a small child I have not been able to stand being alone... as irritating and frusterating as they are I must be around other people or I go stir crazy. If I know I will have to be alone for even 1/2 an hour I will do whatever I have to in order to avoid it. I've been told I should have been a wolf, lion or dolphin!

what do you mean again??

I'm needy, like a puppy. Alone time is terrible for me. I need to be around people who constantly calm me down in order to feel balanced. Any arguing or yelling sends me into a raged depression. I like hushed soothing tones and warm words.

ok so i finally managed to shoo everyone away against my dependence on company. im gonna try to get to friday w/o any needyness!

Old thread is old, but I had to post~

Being alone is difficult for me. But only every once in a while or for a prolonged period (longer than a day,) I become very scared. I begin panicking. I start crying and begging people to talk to me (online or on the phone.) I will call up anyone I can and try to make plans to go out.

When I first started my relationship with my current boyfriend, when he would leave for work or to go home, right when he would walk out the door, I'd start SOBBING and panicking. I'd cry so hard that I could hardly breathe and I would throw up. This happened for a long time.

I hate being alone, but every so often I like a few hours alone in the house to turn up the music and relax.

When I am alone, I listen to music ALWAYS. If I am feeling that sadness and fright, I get online and talk to people. It's a temporary treatment for a few hours. Glad to know I am not the only one.

lol thnx for answering old threads. The "get away from me/ i need you" thing is hell isnt it? its like i burn out my ppl tolerance and then desperately need to get away and it recharges and i need more ppl. its like being addicted or something because i cant do anything about it >.< (music is a must when one is alone)