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I know I shouldn't feel this way....it IS getting less over time, but that never-ending, pervading sense of loneliness and abandonment is returning...will never completely leave. Three months this week and it's still with me, wanting to regain control, make me helpless, take over. Sigh.... Sway, I understand.... We'll fight it together. All of us....but encouraging words would be welcome, once again.
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Thanks for the request Mara, I appreciate it. I accepted you.
![]() I'm sorry you are going through this. I am a romantic codependent in a sense so I understand these dark feelings you are having. I can also be codependent and feel easily abandoned with friends. It's nothing new for me, and probably all who deal with possible or real BPD... you aren't alone in it just like you said. Please have faith you'll be OK. Are you seeing a therapist right now? It might help.
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I too am self-helping (without professionals) but I do have a best friend who is very experienced with PTSD and emotional problems.
Left to my absolute own devices, it indeed feels very scary and dark. I too have my times when I am just at my wits end. I resonate with what Manara is going thru. Sometimes we still need to talk and express our needs. We are human. I do have a lof of information to use and thank goodness for Ani. We all have our strengths. Some of us can't afford therapy or can't find a therapist who can or will help. I am always happy for the ones who can have it. It's invaluable to have a light in the dark like that. Some of us actually don't have that, though. But I just keep going. I keep going. I don't worship therapy. I use the information from it. I can take succor when someone actually can be there *sometimes*. The only one I can truly rely on though, is me. Ani sometimes needs rest. B.
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It's time I learn to deal on my own. I've got to learn to help myself again. I can't depend on you....on anyone for that help. Just wish..... Don't know for what I wish.... A new life? To change the past? A loving mother or a family who understands? Nothing will make it better. I just wish I had the confidence in myself...
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You're in my thoughts and prayers Mara. I understand this, it's part of our disorder, unfortunately.
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It's part of my bpd and also part of my experience. I have been thru the wringer, too, even in therapy, with crooked therapists.
It's hard for me to know when I am being messed with again and what's my bpd. I think I have gotten to a certain point where I just can't really open up (at least right now; maybe with time and patience that will change again), after going thru such grief and loss and heartache. I do pray I can build myself up again and learn to trust the right people, pick up the right signals and signs and take risks again. I may do it. It feels impossible. Ani won't give up on me. And I won't either. I am glad you found this board, Maranara. I am glad we both did. Carol (used to be Billi)
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How about validation from us? Or that your posts help me? Or that I'm going it alone too, because of the total lack of qualified Ts in my area? Want to borrow some of my confidence in you??? Because I seem to have none for me but lots for you, maybe we can trade a little? |
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![]() you sure got some experience with this thing it's obvious... I'm sorry you have too. now listen up!....you are beautiful and you belong in this world and it's just a really complicated one...damn complicated! I'm alot like you maranara....I go through the same thing. easily my brain gives up....easily even more easily I get overwhelmed ! just a wink from my heart makes me do things to keep going... ![]() ....just keep alert for that little wink from your heart... sometimes so quick but catch it ok...you can see it...I can see it in you it's a flash of brilliance.....just enough ![]() |
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I'm doing better at the moment. Coping with the ups and downs of the day, the daily roller coaster ride without too many issues....and the loneliness has stayed at bay for the last day or two. Usually gets worse in bed late at night or early in the morning. I fight with my husband and get moody at least a time or two everyday, but he's used to my ups and downs though he still doesn't get the BPD. Lol...he even mentioned this morning that he has to walk on eggshells around me...the name of that one BPD book. The loneliness goes in cycles. I'll be okay, more or less, for a few days...convince myself I'm healing, strengthing, and then it will come crashing down yet again....and all the rest of the BPD crap becomes more difficult at the same time. It will be a long time before no more crashes occur, but the time in between is slowly getting longer. That's all I can ask for. Thank everyone for your help. I owe you.
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One thing that helps me is doing the opposite of what I feel like doing (isolating). Get out of the house and start fast walking. Do it every day. It really unscrambles the brain.
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I admit, I usually fight going out but rarely regret when I do. I will give your suggestion, or something like it a try. Thanks.
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I am going to go out again when I get well. I caught another terrible cold and have been shut in again. I really relate to feeling so up and down, etc. I know it will get me back in reality again, going back into the world. I am so glad I have PC and Internet. I would be feeling even worse without it.
And Maranara has contributed greatly to this forum in a very positive way. We are not an illness. We have an illness. Carol (Billi)
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The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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