[greyclouds]

I am waiting to be diagnosed for BPD they said it will be next Monday.
I not sure how after meeting me twice, but any how I know I have it.

I am just a little concerned as I have been doing what I can to find out more about the condition.
It always says this is an SERIOUS ILLNESS

I don't get it...? I have had thoughts of death but have never thought of following them through. I don't want to die.
Is it serious because one day I will?

Please can some one explain more to me

[Girl_Interrupted]

Yes it's serious because of our impulsivity, depression, suicidal tendencies, self harm, dissociation, paranoia etc.

ALL mental illnesses are serious.

[greyclouds]

Yes I know all mental illness are serious , it just bothered me that when reading about it.
All lot of the said these people are very ill.
I just found it a little frightening, and thought them kind of words were well I don't know harsh.

When my depression has been bad I have read up on that too and never came across such sentences.

And I guess I'm still learning about stuff.

Maybe my question should have been how ill am I? And will I ever get better?

It's a serious disorder because of the fact that it affects so many areas of your life sometimes very severely. it's serious because it makes it hard for us BPD'ers to cope everyday with the stresses that others may handle with ease. Being serious does not equate to being life threatening. So if you're taking it that way, although some people may have that risk it's not necessarily true for everyone with BPD.

[Girl_Interrupted]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

It's a serious disorder because of the fact that it affects so many areas of your life sometimes very severely. it's serious because it makes it hard for us BPD'ers to cope everyday with the stresses that others may handle with ease. Being serious does not equate to being life threatening. So if you're taking it that way, although some people may have that risk it's not necessarily true for everyone with BPD.

We need a 'like' or 'kudos' kind of button, so I can just like comments that I agree with xD 'Thanks' doesn't quite cut it :P

BPD is serious and I wish that here in UK that it was taken more serious, My Pdoc thinks therapy is the way forward to treat it, I am in therapy but now my T she wants to end it I really think that my T can't help me, I am being sent for longer term therapy.

[greyclouds]

Sorry tink to hear that, not spoke to you for a while, I hope the new therapy helps ((hugs))

And thank you as always s4 ((hugs))

Originally Posted by Girl_Interrupted

We need a 'like' or 'kudos' kind of button, so I can just like comments that I agree with xD 'Thanks' doesn't quite cut it :P

Aww well a like button wouldn't quite have been as nice as seeing the nice comment so I guess I can say it "works for me!"

Thank you so much *hugs*

[radioactivegirl]

I never thought that I would actually follow through with committing suicide because I didn't feel I had the guts. But one day I just had the impulse and I ate a whole bottle of pills. Don't underestimate BPD. I'm not saying you will, I'm just trying to point out how tricky it can be. I am so glad to hear that you don't have suicidal tendencies.

Originally Posted by radioactivegirl

I never thought that I would actually follow through with committing suicide because I didn't feel I had the guts. But one day I just had the impulse and I ate a whole bottle of pills. Don't underestimate BPD. I'm not saying you will, I'm just trying to point out how tricky it can be. I am so glad to hear that you don't have suicidal tendencies.

This is very true, It is only been recently in the last 2 years that I have had suicidal feelings but I would say more often in the past 3 months, I have even planned my suicide.

[msjanalyn]

Originally Posted by radioactivegirl

I never thought that I would actually follow through with committing suicide because I didn't feel I had the guts. But one day I just had the impulse and I ate a whole bottle of pills. Don't underestimate BPD. I'm not saying you will, I'm just trying to point out how tricky it can be. I am so glad to hear that you don't have suicidal tendencies.

My moods change from second to second. This afternoon I found myself on the ATF website to see if I qualify to buy a firearm. Oh the drama! I guess I can't. Which is good - if I had one I wouldn't be here but the impulsiveness of my disorder is so strong - sometimes I can't see the forest through the trees, don't think and can ruin a good thing in a blink of an eye. Every brain disorder/mental illness is serious but there is "recovery/remission" we can't lose hope.

[failenmyprince]

my dr says this can go away with therapy. is that true? it's not chemical?

[ECHOES]

I think there are levels of seriousness for all illnesses.
Some with a BPD diagnosis are very antisocial and end up being incarcerated for breaking the law. Others struggle in other ways, including daily struggles that interfere with our daily living, career, relationships. These struggles are usually about fears and perceptions that we can explore and work on so that we can feel better.

It's good to want to be alive and work on feeling better! Life is for learning!

Originally Posted by ECHOES

I think there are levels of seriousness for all illnesses.
Some with a BPD diagnosis are very antisocial and end up being incarcerated for breaking the law. Others struggle in other ways, including daily struggles that interfere with our daily living, career, relationships. These struggles are usually about fears and perceptions that we can explore and work on so that we can feel better.

It's good to want to be alive and work on feeling better! Life is for learning!

My impulsivity almost had me arrested. It is a constant struggle for sure. Another reason why BPD is considered serious and is often looked upon differently than other mental health conditions is it cannot be successfully treated with drugs. Drugs are sometimes given to "take off the edge" but they cannot solve the problem. Most BPD traits are learned one way or another or come from being invalidated. In order to "cure" BPD you have to reteach yourself, which is not easy but I don't believe it's impossible. That's where DBT and meditation come in. Don't let anyone tell you it's a hopeless situation and you'll never get better. Sure it's hard, and we all have setbacks, but it CAN be done.

Grey, with everything said here, the horror stories.. Truth is, yes these things are all a reality but at the same time, remember just because you have this disorder it does not mean you are just a pawn to it and that all of the terrible things will happen to you. Now that you know that you're dealing with a disorder like this, the power is in your hands to get help, take control and make the changes you need to avoid those terrible outcomes. Take them all as warnings and possible outcomes if you just ignore it. You're gonna be fine - just get the help you need, and do what you have to and you may make it out relatively unscathed!

Take heart, all is not gloom and doom! *hugs*

[greyclouds]

S4 thank you, and I am investigating next steps.
I've ordered a book BPD for dummies!! Don't really like the title but ordering it for me and my mum.
I also was looking for good therapist last night.
I'm also taking part in group therapy (skills for life) hopefully these will help me and control my moods. If not anything the si.

[Girl_Interrupted]

Originally Posted by greyclouds

S4 thank you, and I am investigating next steps.
I've ordered a book BPD for dummies!! Don't really like the title but ordering it for me and my mum.
I also was looking for good therapist last night.
I'm also taking part in group therapy (skills for life) hopefully these will help me and control my moods. If not anything the si.

That book is not good. The dummies series of books don't have a clue what they're talking about, and I don't even think they should touch on mental illness to be honest.
That book will tell you all sorts of wrong. Don't let your mum read it for Christ sake xD It's as bad as I Hate You, Don't Leave Me.

Originally Posted by Girl_Interrupted

That book is not good. The dummies series of books don't have a clue what they're talking about, and I don't even think they should touch on mental illness to be honest.
That book will tell you all sorts of wrong. Don't let your mum read it for Christ sake xD It's as bad as I Hate You, Don't Leave Me.

You should offer some suggestions Girl I would but I don't have any books on this that I've read.

The DBT Workbook is pretty good: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/157224...=sr_1_1&sr=8-1=

The DBT class on Yahoo: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/

And old favorite that a lot of people around here like: www.dbtselfhelp.com

There is also a DBT chat here on PC on Saturdays.

[fletch33]

Honestly, I think that any mental health diagnosis is serious. BPD can especially be serious due to the self harming tendencies and the possibility for suicide attempts/completions. Not only is that a problem, but BPD really isolates you from the rest of the world at times.

All that said, please do not be afraid of having a diagnosis. See it as an opportunity to know what is wrong with you and a way to work through it. Best of luck!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

It's a serious, *treatable* condition that many of us can recover from.

I felt the same way.

No, I don't take bpd lightly at all. But I do have hope now.

Carol