Originally Posted by beloiseau

One of the rules when I started was that you're not really supposed to form relationships with others in the group. In some ways I agree, and in some ways I don't. I would like to keep in touch with a few people, because I honestly feel connected to them and like them as individuals. But, I also recognize that everyone in that group has major issues, and I don't want to take on more than I can handle (because I'm barely handling caring for myself).

My thought is that the treatment is there to help people to cope with life and live normally. No part in living normally includes avoiding other peopel with issues or anyone at all for that matter. You'd think that if DBT were working for the people, they'd be more apt to want to be friends afterward and be able to have relationships like that normally. It seems to go against the idea that he whole method works or it wouldn't even be a thing. BPD normally have a hard time with relationships. Why encourage avoiding them for any reason? Just my thoughts.

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

My thought is that the treatment is there to help people to cope with life and live normally. No part in living normally includes avoiding other peopel with issues or anyone at all for that matter. You'd think that if DBT were working for the people, they'd be more apt to want to be friends afterward and be able to have relationships like that normally. It seems to go against the idea that he whole method works or it wouldn't even be a thing. BPD normally have a hard time with relationships. Why encourage avoiding them for any reason? Just my thoughts.

The only thing that can come to my mind, and i agree with you, is that people have poor coping skills. Thats why theyre in the group. I think they want to keep everyone safe.

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[technigal]

Great news! My hubby is on his way to get a job offer. His temporary layoff ends next week but they said they may only be able to keep him for 2 more weeks while one of the guys is on vacation so this is perfect timing.

Originally Posted by beloiseau

The only thing that can come to my mind, and i agree with you, is that people have poor coping skills. Thats why theyre in the group. I think they want to keep everyone safe.

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I understand where tehy are coming from but that's not an encouraging thing to do. It's probably a rather good environment for bonding to people who have things in common with you. I see that they restrict you as a hindrance to becoming healthy, actually.

Originally Posted by technigal

Great news! My hubby is on his way to get a job offer. His temporary layoff ends next week but they said they may only be able to keep him for 2 more weeks while one of the guys is on vacation so this is perfect timing.

Awesome! Grats to your hubby!

[CandlesAndSage]

I keep dissociating today. I am under a lot of stress. I guess that's why.

[beloiseau]

Can't decide if I'm in a good or bad mood...going from motivated to not motivated. Anxious to not so anxious. What to do with my day...

[technigal]

Ugh! I hate when people are not organized and then expect me to do things immediately, I have a life! Feeling very frustrated at the moment.

[Verity81]

Overwhelmed with thoughts and the emotions are trying to do the same.

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[beloiseau]

dealing with some serious anxiety today...trying to use some dbt skills, but not sure i know quite how to handle it

[BarelyMakingIt]

I just went to blahtherapy.com to vent and whoever was chatting with me was completely invalidating. They told me self diagnosing wasn't healthy and questioned my knowledge of mental illness and asked if I was in the medical field. I had to leave and I am crying now. So now I feel even worse instead of getting help. I might as well have just talked to my mother.

[technigal]

The boy has a T appointment in the morning and I am the one nervous. This is a new therapist for him. He also sees the pediatric dentist, hopefully they will be able to work on him.

Hubby starts new job on Tuesday so that is good but it means I have to get back into the morning routine.

[Unrigged64072835]

Kid's birthday today. She's happy so that counts.

Getting rid of the rental house on Wednesday. That means two less months of paying for two houses, so that's a relief. Still have taxes though. Ugh.

[atomicc]

Not sure why I'm losing it lately...I've started depriving myself of food, hitting myself in the head, crying a lot more, frequent headaches and I don't feel like being around anyone.

trying not to let the overwhelming sense of emptiness and need for love and validation consume me.

Trying to stay busy. Studying kids cleaning cooking. ....pot helps the most sometimes..

will this hollowness ever go away....

[youwillrise]

today was pretty cool...up until now. just got really sad and now crying...all because i thought about someone. funny how my mood and emotions can change so easily.

Bad day

Got into a nasty fight with him this morning. I snapped. things went too far.

i self harmed after.

I hate him. I hate myself.

[BarelyMakingIt]

I really need something for this anxiety. It's affecting my ability to think objectively and I've always been a critical thinker. I do not like this at all, I can barely function.

[technigal]

My anxiety levels are increasing. DH goes back to work tomorrow. I go back to the morning routine of getting the boy off to school. DBT starts on Wednesday. I feel like I am going crazy.

[shezbut]

I am getting a bit tired of having to walk to appointments (maybe a mile, thank goodness not any farther!). I don't mind the exercise, but I do mind doing it in the freezing cold for Pete's sake!! I don't know why, but the weather is always crummy on Mondays and Tuesdays here...WTH?! Both are days of appointments and work for me.

Every day is cold, of course. As, we are in winter, I know. But these days are bitterly cold. Dangerously cold, frostbite can strike in 15 minutes or less. Great! not My nose has been SOOO runny and my facial skin seriously feels like the white side of an emery board from the dryness. That's all despite me dressing warmly in layers, hats, gloves, etc. also using hankerchiefs and lots of tissues. UGH!!!

Please give me a small break ~ maybe tomorrow morning won't be as biting as they're anticipating. Right? Yeah, maybe we'll even get into the teens...no windchill either...yeah. Now that sounds a lot better!

Am not in work
Til thurs. I am restless I wana do something.... But I can't face going the gym xxxx

[Unrigged64072835]

Somehow I felt my life was too boring and started some intense therapy sessions yesterday. Now I'm anxious. Why do I need to create drama? Can't I just relax?

My kid got her tattoo yesterday as well. She put forget-me-nots above her scars to remind her that people do care about her. She's getting her hair done today. Thankfully she decided against an undercut on half her head. Too cold for that here and not sure what the school would say. (We're in a conservative suburb.)

[Maranara]

I'm doing okay. I don't want to put a thread for it on this forum because it just isn't a good fit, but I put something about the business I'm trying to start on the Social Forum if anyone would like to check it out http://forums.psychcentral.com/gener...-business.html.

Going through A LOT of major ups and downs....one minute I feel upbeat and doing great, and the next minute in the middle of a minor crisis and ready to dump the entire thing, but I'm doing my best under the circumstances. Sorry I haven't been around. I am trying to stay focused and distraction free as I try to make this work.

[technigal]

Tomorrow is a busy day. Advanced Skills is starting and then I see my pdoc 3 hours later at the same hospital. Not sure what I am going to do with the time, it is too cold to walk to the mall a few blocks away so I am pretty much stuck at the hospital. Guess I will be doing a bunch of reading. A bit anxious about Advanced Skills, wonder how many of the 12 of us at orientation decided to stay in the group.

[Espresso]

Life is painful. So very painful. And it doesn't help that apparently I'm a lunatic.