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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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This is the kind of stuff my husband was talking about. Nothing on how to be supportive but lots of negativity.
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Mags Depression diagnosed March 1996 PTSD diagnosed January 2000 BPD diagnosed September 2013 |
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I don't think I'm like that...but my boyfriend may say different. I feel like I'm just a big pushover. I do play the victim a lot though.
This article is AWFULLY one sided and kind of hurtful.
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Allie Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder. I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress. I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
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HORRIBLE article that i find very offensive and hurtful.
If you scroll and read the comments they are even more insulting and bashing.. This obviously was written and commented on by people who are jaded and have no understanding of our "disorder".. Quote from comment section from the author: NPD and BPD aren’t illnesses like diabetes or cancer. They’re not even illnesses like depression or schizophrenia. Women with these issues are often malicious and purposefully so. |
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I can't honestly say I do none of those things, but I honestly never consciously do any of them. Definitely zero understanding about bpd, just a bunch of people playing victim and indulging in hate speech and fear mongering.
Zero grasp of the disorder, like I don't change the topic because I'm losing an argument and know I'm being nonsensical. Something you said triggered an entirely different issue (eg being invalidated) and now this is a problem for me too as well as whatever the hell started the intial argument... Pffft I don't take offense, I have enough real problems as is. |
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This article is painting people with BPD to be totally bat **** insane and irrational all the time. I'm actually a pretty reasonable person most of the time and can communicate with people just fine. I have abandonment issues and low self-esteem which can cloud my judgement at times.. but I'm always aware that it's just the BPD talking and can re-calibrate my thoughts so as to see things more clearly. This article is stupid.
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Sadly I have experienced every single one of these on the receiving end intermittently for five years after my spouse's (now separated) meds were changed. I know she is ill and not at fault. But like alcoholism, her MI tells her that she is OK, that I'm the one who is sick and not loving and understanding enough. Wish I could have found the converse to this article, i.e. what a spouse/SO should do when there is projecting, splitting, cutting, flash backs, recklessness, impulsiveness, rage, ad hom attacks, idealization, etc... it is so very very hard to witness and to experience acts of love, kindness, and understanding get so utterly and totally confused or twisted, forgotten or ignored like they never happened.
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My husband has told me many times I do these things....I have known for a while how abusive I am towards him and how he is a victim of my outrageous behaviour. This article really hit home and as much as I want to lash out and call it bs....it isn't in my case. It's harsh but true.
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I've experienced this too, on the receiving end
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I don't get why this had to be written specifically about a woman. My SO does all of these things and he's a MAN. I am thankful he is getting help and was able to see himself in the information I gave him. Reading these boards helps me see things from his side. Thank you all for sharing.
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I'm not quoting anymore this is clearly a bullsh__ article. Thing is if as I read more it's funny, most of it is things that my ex did quite a bit of. |
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One of the things DBT stresses is letting go of judgements, I think whoever wrote this needs to work on that. So unfair.
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I was thinking how judgemental it was and it was kind of funny to read about name-calling as such a terrible thing while continuing to call bpd/npd people bullies and then further equating that listening to and letting such a person is like letting the "asylum" control the situation.. thus saying we are also insane. SMFH.
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I couldn't resist. I had to comment.
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While some of those things might apply to some of us at times, (such as playing the victim), I feel that article is a bit offensive and trigger.
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The article is interesting and some of which is true, some not so true. Yea, I love the HELL my BPD gives me/my life . . . . jeez people.
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