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Feb 19, 2014, 07:19 AM
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So I think I may have BPD, I fit a lot of the criteria. I think I may also be avoidant/introvert BPD.
I absolutely hate being touched, I don't like hugs, or kissing, I don't even like shaking hands. If someone touches me I instantly become tense and just want to shove them away. However I have been in sexual relationships (lots of risky sexual relationships) and have had lots of sex (wasn't that enjoyable to be honest) but it was mostly sex and I didn't like the affectionate parts of relationships like kissing and so on. What is wrong with me? Is this bpd? |
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Feb 19, 2014, 01:03 PM
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i do not believe that is a trait of bpd (but I not an expert).
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Feb 19, 2014, 05:50 PM
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On the other hand, addictive sex where the other person is used to get a release, rather than lovingly or intimately related to as a separate person, does fit with BPD. It is an acting out mechanism, which involves using the other person like an object, rather than a sign of a true intimate relationship. But I would suggest not thinking of yourself as either BPD or not BPD. Anyone can have borderline traits to different degrees, and what is more important is how in the future you can have better relationships and learn to be intimate with other people if you want. |
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Feb 19, 2014, 05:55 PM
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Maybe you have BPD and something else. I tend to turn away from affection too (unless they're not giving me any at all; then I need it.) I dunno why.
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| lynn808, shezbut
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#5
Feb 19, 2014, 06:26 PM
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I hate to be touched by people, but I wouldn't put this down to having BPD. I grew up in a family that didn't hug and kiss and show affection so I just feel uncomfortable now. Runs in the family I think!
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| lynn808, shezbut
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Feb 20, 2014, 02:53 PM
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I am not great with touching. I was never a cuddly child either, then again I grew up with an emotionally abusive mother so I never felt 'safe'.
It might help to figure out where you think the dislike of touch sprouted from. My guess is that there is something in your childhood there.
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Feb 21, 2014, 01:14 AM
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I am a big mess, if you look at my labels. I am Avoidant as well as BPD, but the BPD is a much stronger trait in my personality (to me, anyway). But, yes, I have a big problem with both accepting and expressing affection towards others. I feel extremely uncomfortable with both.
My family was extremely negative and non-affectionate, maybe that's my reason. My POS brother is the same way in that respect, but he's an abuser. My sister is very affectionate with her family, but she's AvPD. Don't know if that means anything, but that's how my family ended up. 
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Feb 21, 2014, 01:17 AM
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It just dawned me on that you might have ptsd too. Have you ever talked to a professional about your touch issues?
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Feb 21, 2014, 08:34 AM
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I hate being touched by people. I can remember when It started - I was about 7 or 8 years old. But I have no idea why. It makes me want to physically fight off whoever's doing it but I just end up frozen stiff, heart pound, wanting to cry and throw up.
Just the though of shaking someones hand freaks me out. |
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Feb 21, 2014, 10:42 AM
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I have never liked being touched... I honestly don't enjoy sex much it makes me very anxious, I think because I have difficulty feeling connected and intimate with people. I can be intimate one minute, and the next minute I feel invisible.
My family was never one to hug or kiss often. I'm not cuddly. I feel strange cuddling with people and like my personal space. I think the intimacy issues are related to some bpd traits, like the fear of being abandoned after you become intimate. I have always felt that after I confide in people, they leave me. That's just my experience and I think it's caused some issues. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Feb 21, 2014, 01:37 PM
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I am just the opposite. I love affection and love. I think I yearn for it as I grew up in a family too that didn't love, kiss, hug or show any kind of f emotions. My very abusive childhood is where my bpd comes from but I think there is a genetic component too. I used to be very reckless with sex to. I had no trouble going home with a complete stranger. In fact I'm surprised that I wasn't killed or raped. I was also sexually abused by my brother. That Limits my ability to truely b enjoy sex. I hate it! I'm in a very loving relationship and still b feel v scared that something bad will happen to him. I know he wouldn't leave me. It's a fear that he might die. It's a true genuine love and I'm so lucky to find someone who really accepts me and my illness. I do think that what you suffer from is both bpd and some kind of ptsd. Were you abused growing up?
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