I want to be a child again

I want to be a child again. I want someone to hold me and tell me that everything is going to be okay. I want to cry on someones shoulder for as long as I can - and just rest in that comforting - nurturing - feeling.

Anyone else want this?

I don't want to get attached to another DBT therapist after what happened last time - but I know that I will. Regardless of how many boundaries I put up - I will inevitably fall in love with my therapist and re-enact my desires for a mother who is actually nurturing and loving.

I miss my therapist even though she abandoned me... I am torn.

(((HD7970GHZ))) I can understand your need for comforting and nurturing.

I found myself at one point in my life as an adult wanting to buy dolls and stuffed animals to recreate the feelings in my life of being a child, safe, protected and taken care of.

My family is not the type to hug or say I love you. I feel your pain and understand.

I hope your new T can help you work through these issues. Please feel free to PM me if you like. Be well.

OMG, HD ... I dream of EXACTLY THIS !

I feel all the same desires.



About getting attached to the therapist, would it be possible, in the future, for you to go into therapy on guard, knowing that you get attached easily ? In order to prevent getting hurt again ?

I can understand how you feel. I am the same way. It's been hard at times and want someone else.
I'm sorry about your T. I hope things will get better.

I can understand these feelings. I am lucky that I get the comforting etc by my husband. When I was still single I bought a soft teddy bear to have something to cuddle with, that helped a bit.

oh geez.............the reflexive response to your post has me aching inside for what you describe. I've battled the desire to be a child again for many, many years. You are most definitely not alone.

I feel like this aaaaallllll the time, and I'm glad to see someone else does too. I feel like a lot of my childhood was robbed from me and I just want to be able to be myself without the rules put on me as an adult by the outside world. I had kind of a break down today because I recently cut all my hair off and I want to dye it a funky color but knowing I need to get a job soon and all of that I can't really do that and I just got really upset that I didn't feel this way in high school. Like instead of thinking like I do now where I'm like "I'm gonna cut my hair and dye and purple and live and have fun!!!" I was like "I need to study hard, I wish I had more friends, but I don't like to go out and do things because I get anxiety so nobody wants to be my friend"

I would love to be a child again...

Sometimes I feel like I am a child expected to live as an adult. I push everyone away to not get hurt yet I feel like the lonliest person ever. I don't think I would like to be a child again ( bad memories) I want to be a baby again! To get so many cluddles and to not be judged

I wish I knew how you feel. I spent my "childhood" in a local psych ward. So I'm trying to recreate it but I just keep getting sent back:/

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I'd love to be a kid again. I grew up way to fast. Being and adult sucks.

I know the feeling about getting attached to your therapist, I have some attachment to my current that why I keep going back even know she does not really help. Have you thought about having a male therapist instead of a female, just a thought.

Wow! I did not think so many of you would relate. Thank you so much for the replies.

I wanted to hug my therapist so bad recently and I almost did without warning her. I miss her sooo much. I regressed in her company and became a child before her eyes. I really wish I could have a girlfriend to hug!

Anyone notice their voice changes to childlike tones sometimes? I only experience this occasionally but when I am with a specific friend - he almost takes on a father role and my voice becomes very childlike and he calls me by my name with a letter 'y' at the end. My family members do this too - as though I am a child... It's very strange.

Anyone relate to this?

I have heard that it can be a sign of complex PTSD and trauma, and of course BPD and regression.

Flowerchild67,

Yes - just recently I was told by a psychologist to work with a male therapist. Unfortunately the DBT program only has female therapists - so my transference issues with most definitely arise again. The problem is - I think I could get just as attached to a male therapist. I get attached to male friends, minus the sexual aspects. But the need to cling is there regardless of gender.

Thanks,
HD

i relate to this so much.

Yeah I feel myself wanting to be a child. I worried and looked out so much for my parents that I feel I missed out on really just being a kid and being worthy all love and safety . I feel myself looking for that all the time. And I'm really childish even at 30 . Feel like I'm behind ..

I don't think that I want to be a child again, because I relate childhood with the sense of powerlessness I felt in my actual childhood. But sometimes I really ache to be able to curl up and have someone hold me. Nothing sexual or anything, I just want to be silent and be held. I was just thinking of this today--I know I can't sustain a relationship right now, but there is just such a huge space in my life where one should be. I want to give love to someone who reciprocates. So I get what you're saying...I just don't necessarily want to be a kid again.

Part of me wants to be a toddler again so I can have those fun, adventurous dreams and get lost in my own little world, but at the same time though, I love living alone in my apartment. Actually, now that I think about it, I don't have many advantages being an adult compared to being a kid. I'm not interested in most adult things anyway.

Thinking of you...

Do you guys and gals crave physical contact?

I get a rush when I am hugged or touched by someone I love... I wish I got the same feeling from my mom but I don't want to get closer to her...

I act like a little girl sometimes. I have two personalities, adult me and little girl me. whenever I had a partner I wanted to act like a little girl and be held and told im a good little girl.

I'm going to wrap myself in a diaper tonight and regress.

(((HD7970GHZ)))

I was happiest when I was a little girl.

Sorry you miss your T so much - what reasoning behind the abandonment.

Mine abandoned me in a way - though I was the one to choose no more contact. He abandoned me in what I think is the worst way - he betrayed me - he did not act in my best interest - he was duplicitous, never telling me of his change in attitude or intentions which I believe meant to do me harm.

No , I am not paranoid delusional which so many will automatically think of when it is someone with mental/emotional problems accusing a professional. People need to be straight about it, "professionals" are people too and must earn and deserve our trust. I have learned that is the best approach for me - my cynicism again - but it is safest to keep a certain distance at least initially until I have enough knowledge about the person to decide for myself it is wise/safe to trust them. Even then i could still be wrong.

Though I will say I have grown to realize and recognize that "inner voice" within me who has very good instincts even if there are no words to describe exactly - for example, why I feel misgivings about someone's motivations.

The few times i have ignored that voice, one in particular it was a major error on my part for which the price was quite high.

Yes I crave Physical and emotional contact very very much. I have not had either in 4 years.