[sunshinemeadow]

Hello All!

I was recently diagnosed with BPD (3 days ago to be exact). I have been dealing with this my whole life, but struggled severely the past 8 years. I'm currently in a relationship in the "devalued" stage, and I don't know quite yet how to handle the information. I am relieved that I finally have an answer, but scared as to what comes next. My family and significant other know about the condition, but I they are all taking it very lightly. My doctor said I am on the high functioning scale of BDP. I am in the process of establishing a therapist; I am looking around due to insurance and financial difficulties. Do I need to leave my relationship, move back home, ...? I don't trust myself to make these decisions without the proper knowledge of what to expect. I would like to know what everyone else's response was to their first diagnosis. Any tips or advice on where to go from here?

Thank You!

[kaliope]

i am not bpd but had a sister who was so know quite a bit about it. i have to say i am ignorant as to what the "devalued" stage is though. you dont say how long you have been with your bf or how supportive he has been, but if he is the one devaluing you, and you have a highly conflictual relationship and want to be serious about treatment, then maybe a change is in order. finding a therapist who is proficient in working with borderlines would be a great plan. look also into DBT treatment. it is a great addition to assist in that emotional regulation. you could even start now. there are some great workbooks out there. if you stay with your guy, getting him involved and educated would be a great start. take care.

[technigal]

For me diagnosis was a light bulb moment, it all made sense.

Getting started I would suggest reading BPD for dummies, I got it from the library and it was really helpful, so much that I bought my own copy. It really breaks things down in a way that was helpful at a time when I was not processing information very well. There are other great books out there as well.

[dancinglady]

Originally Posted by sunshinemeadow

Hello All!

I was recently diagnosed with BPD (3 days ago to be exact). I have been dealing with this my whole life, but struggled severely the past 8 years. I'm currently in a relationship in the "devalued" stage, and I don't know quite yet how to handle the information. I am relieved that I finally have an answer, but scared as to what comes next. My family and significant other know about the condition, but I they are all taking it very lightly. My doctor said I am on the high functioning scale of BDP. I am in the process of establishing a therapist; I am looking around due to insurance and financial difficulties. Do I need to leave my relationship, move back home, ...? I don't trust myself to make these decisions without the proper knowledge of what to expect. I would like to know what everyone else's response was to their first diagnosis. Any tips or advice on where to go from here?

Thank You!

I have had this DX for many years so I know all to well the "devalued stage". My experience is to get into DBT, hold off any major decisions. I have continually fluctuated between the two. Sometimes I know I am in it others not so much. DBT will make your life so much easier, go to class, get the skills and practice until you are "blue in the face".