The Positives of BPD

Hardly anyone talks about the Pros and gifts of having BPD. I was sadly overdue for a diagnosis and finally got properly diagnosed with BPD six months ago, and am finally wrapping my head around some of the gifts it gives us as it sinks in:
-we are very nurturing
-we have a way of relating to everyone
-we could be good networkers/consultants given that (at least I) we can get stuff done through others.
-resilience
-able to draw from wide range of influences given the dissociative personalities that come and go.

I’m sure there are more but at least this gets me out of the rut of so many learning obstacles that are impossible for others without this condition to understand.

Not to generalize, but (outside of a split) I can see people with BPD being more understanding and less judgmental because we've been there, done that, experienced it from all angles.

Yes indeed. What is a split? There's a lot I'm supposed to know but given that BPD is taboo even to psychiatrists it's not like they gave me any information about it. DBT says nothing about the conditions of BPD either. There's literally no reference for us. We're supposed to figure it out all by ourselves. How do they expect us to get better.

It's when you suddenly switch from idealization to devaluation of usually another person, sometimes yourself, sometimes the world or society or a group. Like if I'm absolutely in love with a person and they said they'd call at 3pm and it's 3:06 and they acted distracted last I talked to them, that'll trigger my "core content" (the childhood wounds and resulting fear of abandonment/lack of sense of self/etc.) and, I think out of fear and wanting to protect myself, I'll hate them with such intensity and that'll usually trigger rage.

There are some good sources on Youtube (Daniel Fox I think his name is--he has a workbook too). He's an expert in personality disorders and is really non-judgmental. I do remember thinking that in his videos he implies "will" rather than "can," but if you take what's relevant and leave what isn't that's the way to go. BPD is so wildly varying person to person, and there are other disorders it can be confused with and a lot of people are misdiagnosed as a result. Both add to why there's not a lot of good, accurate information out there--because there's no real consistent information to be found.

Dr. Fox proposes there are four types of BPD, and that some people have it purely genetically and some purely environmentally but a majority a mixture of some sort. We'll pretend he's right here. Who's to say someone with mostly genetically impulsive BPD will benefit from the same treatment as the one with mostly environmentally discouraged BPD or even mostly environmentally impulsive BPD? Just because they have the same name, doesn't mean they'll be successfully treated the same. Some people with MDD do great on Prozac, some people don't do well on any antidepressant at any dose but certain therapies or another class of med has helped. Idk why BPD would be much different

Oh, ok. Thanks for that explanation. So is it called "switching" or "splitting"? I never knew there was even a name for this and DBT just tells you you're misbehaved. How can I explain this to other people then?
And yeah on that note, one advantage we have is that we don't mince words and are very straightforward and bold.

Splitting. Like in « black and white » there’s a split in the middle and you cross the split.

Hard to see the positives when it's ruined your life.
My family is estranged bc of the constant drama.
30 years married to the same man. 3 grown kids. 3 grandkids one in the way.
Had a rupture in the relationship with my husband. Kids got involved. Everyone says I'm dangerous. Never have been i raised them. Yet they weaponize with my grandchildren also.
So painful to live thru it once, then the core attachment wound rears up, rejection.
So hard when my husband still sees and communicates with them but won't help facilitate a reconcile.. " I didn't make this mess, you did. "
Currently in IOP 5x a week. Two therapy sessions weekly.
Been doing for 2.5 months.
CPTSD.BPD.DPDR.