Welcome to the Borderline Personality Disorder

Hi. I'm new to the group, but not new to BPD. I was unknowingly dx with personality disorder in 1998. Read "I hate you, don't leave me" and thought "This is me!" I felt insecure, angry, and shame. Now, I just started seeing a new psychiatrist and she dx me with BPD. I know I have it. I hate that I have it. I want to keep it a secret, but had to tell my husband. Now I fear he will use my dx to explain me (my thoughts, emotions, and behavior) away to himself and others. I feel trapped in this dx.

Hello. I just diagnosed myself. I'm not really surprised but I am upset. I emailed my psychotherapist to ask what she thinks. I don't know if I'm meant to tell my general practioner, or my employer, or my friends. I am single (thanks to this bloody thing) and do I tell people I'm dating?? I'm so confused.

I wouldn't unless it begins to seriously affect your relationships. Most people run for the hills when you say BPD!

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If you can avoid telling people then that's what I suggest.

BPD is a hard thing to deal with. I hate it!

I agree me too I hate it!

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Hi Blueberries

I'm new here and new to coming to terms with BPD. Have a think about who it is likely to affect. Does it affect your work and so does your employer need to know? I have told a couple of close friends (I don't have many thanks to the disorder)as it helped sharing the burden of it and they were understanding and supportive. There are plenty of other people in my life who I won't be telling.

My partner and I have separated until I can become more stable as we both want a healthy relationship which isn't possible right now. I'm waiting on some NHS treatment which means my GP knows (if they ever read my notes. I don't have much to do with them directly).

Somebody on here (I will get their name) wrote that you are the same person you were the day before you got your diagnosis. That helped me as I am more than the labels I am given (though BPD certainly takes over when it wants).

Take care, stay safe and well

Hi

Does anyone have any advice. I keep getting so hurt because I am so sensitive which means that I keep pushing people away. It is from people who know about my condition and they mean well. I get so frustrated by being so sensitive. I can't help how I feel. It's like every day 'life' is just too hard. I can't cope.

Thanks and peace

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Hi, I understand where your coming from however, I'm not sure if I have an answer. I know it may take some time to learn DBT skills but this maybe a good place to start. Another tid bit of advise is to "not react" when someone upsets you, yet I know impulsivity is difficult to control. it does get better but this means work too!

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Hello all, just joined after using search engine for 'cant feel love from other people' and came across an old thread/forum post here that was the first thing I have ever read that felt dead on. Even the things you don't talk about with people who know you have bpd.
At this point in my life I was diagnosed many years ago at age 18 but didn't really accept it. Well I never tried to figure it out. I am not medicated and luckily only have 2-3 major episodes a year but I have daily issues and hard time dealing with certain things. I don't know there is a fix but I think being active in a forum/group like this may be helpful as I want to seek support but don't do well with social situations.

Thanks <3

I have been suffering with bpd for several years and have a very hard time getting my friends and family to open up enough to understand and accept the fact that i have a disability that effects my daily life and decision making and that this disorder is real and not just an excuse for my mistakes and poor decision making. I am very excited that there is a avenue for me to express my emotions and receive positive feedback from others that know exactly what i am going through on a daily basis, so thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Thank you!!!

I think that its absolutely amazing that there is a group like this I never had anything like this before. So thank you.

Feels like another impulsive decision I'm going to take in my life, but after having suspected severe BPD in me for a few months (before I didn't even know it existed) and having had my suspicions confirmed by a therapist I decided it might be a good idea to try and look for people who are similar, since no one in my environment is able to relate to what I'm going through. A lot of issues that you've touched on here before I could relate to, like the struggle for authenticity someone mentioned, I've experienced that the constant switching between deep sadness and hopelessness and anger and frustration and rage and excitedness makes it hard for others to view these states as genuine, and normally I lack the words to express the feelings anyway. And there's so much of it in my head. I hope to be able to write about things that I hesitate to talk about normally here, and I hope without being too overwhelming or burdening anyone with my problems. I still don't know what feedback this message is going to meet with. Just looking for a point of contact for people like me.

What is one thing that an help someone with bpd, until they find a medication/therapy that works..I feel like I just want to be numb at this point.

Hello,
Thank you for welcoming me to a safe place to talk about BPD. I live in the UK and don't know anyone else with BPD. I read about BPD symptoms/difficulties about a year ago and recognised myself completely. It was such a relief, as I'd always thought it was just me who felt that way and that I was just terrible at life! To see all the things I struggle with on a daily basis, written down and to know that there are other people who understand what it's like, feels amazing. I would love to chat to you all and offer support where I can. I'm so glad I've found you all.

Hello. I just joined today, and was encouraged to check in. I'm not quite sure how things work, but I thought I'd give it a try. /).(\

Hi Asphyxiated, glad you found us. Kick off your shoes and get comfy, and post anything you like.

Hi Ruby R, welcome to the thread and the BPD forum. I hope you'll find a lot of support here.

Thank you! <3

There's a lot to read here, too. There's another check in thread, still not sure what it's called lol. I'm a little distracted at the moment by my bad teeth so forgive me if I disappear or something.

Adderall induced psychosis...has anyone taken adderall for BPD? What was your experience with this?

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Hi I'm glad you found us, Welcome!

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Hello. I have been doing my own research about BPD treatments. I found out that a Group Therapy for BPD alongside working with a psychologist using DBT weekly is effective. I have a remarkable psychologist and have been working on my BPD for 3 months solid. I want to discuss interpersonal skills, how to handle distress and emotional regulation.