Welcome to the Borderline Personality Disorder

welcome polar2, you'll find this is a pretty active forum, feel free to join in!

MAY 4TH, 2014 10:42PM Hello Trying2Survive!!!!
I am in the say boat as you are! I have been here I think once before, but I could never find my way back here!!!! It is so frustrating when you do not know or remember how to get around on these forums! Well to your post I can not answer from a psychological prospective, only the good people in charge maybe able to answer that question! But I do believe in GOD'S HOLY WORD and according to THAT there is an enemy out there who hates GOD and all mankind and he is behind all the evil, madness, cruelity that man is going thur!!! But soon and very soon his time is going to come to an end of his wickness Toward GOD CREATION!!!! Until then we need to get help from the ones who understand the different physical sickness, emotional problems so many of us are going through!!!!
It is so good to have this place, because you can talk to people like ourselves who may be going through the same thing or maybe close to it and you can get compassion, because others here know what it feels like to some extent! I hope and PRAY you find the help and friends that can surround you and embrace you so you know you are not allow anymore!!! There are so many cruel people out there and they just do not take the time to listen! nor offer help! So again I am glad you found your way here !!!! I hope I can find my way back here again myself! I PRAY You have a good night if it is night for you! It is night here!

Hello! I am new here and BPD. I am a calm person on the outside, but inside is a different story. It comes out when provoked or when one of my kids are messed with. I finally came here after spouting off another angry email to my child's school counselor for something. I always feel that I or my children are being wronged. I wish I could be peaceful inside!

Well I'm new and I have bpd and lot of other disorders looking forward to making friends with same issues

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hello to you all! I'm new here, and in this type of forum. In my teens, a psychiatrist diagnosed me with mild bipolar affective disorder 2 and depression. The family doctor now considers my personality traits as bpd, hence I am here.
My view on my situation is that I have feelings of exclusion from groups, I experience verbal abuse and take offence from it (i.e "you're stupid") and I remain still on how to react, I know little of what my behaviour should be in social gatherings and lack social skills, I have a fear of abandonment and divorced parents with dad absent in childhood, I have low self esteem and low problem solving and task optimization skills, I have 1 year of being single after an intense relationship and creating a new relation seems very difficult to me, and I have 1 year and a half of loosing a person I held very dear.
All of this bring me unhappiness and I find it hard to go by with them. I am medication free - always have been; smoking is my way of coping and integrating in groups.
I am here to find insight on the cause of my distress, acceptance, and new perspectives on how to deal with it by sharing life situations with people that go through similar things. I'd very much like to ask your opinion about situations I find hard to cope with, and I'd gladly give mine if anyone requires it, if that is acceptable to this forum.
I wish you all to have a great week and a good night sleep!

When are chat meetings and what are they like? I've done online 12 step meetings, is it sort of structured like that?

Hello to each of you.

I was diagnosed BPD/PPD earlier this year, after a long struggle to obtain an answer. I am considered high functioning, but most days I really do not feel like it. I think I mask myself well for a while and then get kinda worn out and eventually slip.

I would like somewhere to go to share those times when I do slip, and to help others when they are falling also. So, here I am!

Hi peoples. I think I have this disorder. Just realized it last night in my Lifespan Development class. Trying to wrap my head around it. Just thought I was "bad at relationships"

Hi,
Tomorrow is a forum on bpd. Check it out. Last year I started researching my own symptoms of this thing and one of the major things IS fear of abandonment, not sure why in my case, as I had a normal childhood, a very secure one; but it could have developed later. In your case, perhaps the divorce caused your insecurity. I don't know if you are in T for this, but that may help you sort out the social anxieties and causes. I've found self acceptance is important whatever one may think of how others see us. Self esteem can be built through skills and self understanding, I think so anyway.
Best to you,
"help.............."

HI. I am new...needless to say...I didn't follow the rules...and posted I don't know where. So I know that my post won't show until a human reads it...but how will I know when and where it posts? lol
Thanks

I thought the same thing where does my post go lol

If you check your profile under statistics you can find a link to all your posts.

Hello everyone, as you can tell I am new to this forum. I am a 42 year old male, divorced with 4 kids, and diagnosed with BPD last December. I am looking for information and the most appropriate treatment. Trying to put my family and life back together. Thanks in advance for any help.

This post was from 2009. Are these chats ongoing? Same time/same place?
TIA

Me too on the relationship part. I just discovered this yesterday and can't pull myself away from reading up on it. Seeing the doc Friday and I have a few suggestions for him....

Just joined tonight. No formal diagnosis; not yet anyway. Then again, after reading all I've read there's no doubt that I have it. Lit up when I saw the title of this thread but after scanning all 14 pages I'm let down. I see plenty newcomers introducing themselves and posting a question or two but next to zero responses.
Wondering if there's a moderator here? I realize Doc keeps this place up and running but someone with a little BPD knowledge could do this thread a lot of good.
Just a suggestion.

Just joined tonight. After reading this thread, it appears it's the blind leading the blind.

Hi phoenix14,

Welcome. As Psych Central is a peer-support website, we do not have professionals here to give advice or knowledge. So everyone who posts here, even if they have a professional background in psychology/psychiatry/counselling/therapy, they are here for their own issues, not to provide therapy or professional advice.

As for this particular forum, I've got some borderline traits (not enough for a formal diagnosis, so said my former psychiatrist) and a background in psychology and counselling. So I guess if anyone was knowledgeable about BPD, I'd be one of them. DocJohn (Dr. John Grohol) runs the entirety of Psych Central, so he doesn't answer questions or personal issues.

If you're looking for online counselling, there are some options.

First, we have a section that you can peruse: Find a Therapist

Otherwise...

1. Ask the Therapist You can submit a question for free, and a therapist MAY answer it in a reply. It is not guaranteed though, so your question/issue may not be answered.

2. Resources to find an online psychotherapist. Psych Central: Psychotherapy: Online

There is also a phone-option -- hotline phone support:
Common Hotline Phone Numbers | Psych Central

Generally I consider this particular thread as unimportant. To me it is nothing more than an introductory thread briefly explaining BPD.

If someone has a question then generally I would expect that they create a thread of their own.

Wow! Not feeling so alone. Here I sit in Starbucks by myself. Had a rough day, full of emotions, but also got a lot of anger and fear out of my system!

C.

Hello just joined last night, after reading You know you are a bpd when thread. While I don't have a formal dignoses I've read enough books in the last two weeks to realize that i'm not bi-polar or manic depressive that I don't suffer from PTD, OCD, or social anxiety disorder or any of the other mental illnesses I've been labeled with since I was 9. And reading that thread is the first time I've laughed since I've found out about the disorder.

Since finding out, I've been feeling as if my entire personality is the disorder, I'm not sure who I am without it. Even the good parts of myself like social empathy and wanting to help abused children seems to be nothing more then the result of my disorder. So the thought of getting any help (plus the fact that medication brought on self mutilation when I was younger because normal feelings left me feeling nothing but empty) scares me. Luckily my wife is dedicated to our relationship (although I've done everything I can to drive her away at times) and has agreed to learn as much as she can to help me and that I can go at my own pace in seeking help.

So anyway just wanted to say Hi.

Hello Phoenix, im sorry there's a poor representation of BPD interest. Though it states Im new Im actually not I just have been away for sometime. ive been dx with BPD for about 6 years. I'd say I know a fair amount about it. it could be that because there knew they don't exactly know what type questions asked because they have been newly dx. and how this might be difficult to hear but that's one of the main things though BPD as we take things are personal,so I hope that that's not the case and would deter you from using Sikes centralized place to get just a friend or some help. Phoenix would've noticed in the past is when things get a little hectic here on PC may take a break from it and then return to when you have a better frame of mind. if not what can happen is you become too emotional to upset about it and and this can just make it tough for the next time it's right to communicate with somebody. It may also help to learn if you don't already DBT skills. Learn to test some time ago I think of misplaced my notebook about it and I could always use a brush up on myself. So Phoenix I hope this helps you can message me at any time and not always at the computer but I a trainer and wanted to keep my word so if you message me onto my best to get back to you and glad you joined PC. Bye

Hey, welcome to the group. I have a new Dx of BPD. This site is a great way way to talk and vent with people who can understand the intensity of emotion you may experience, the losing control at times, and what I really consider "self-sabotage". I was relieved to get my Dx; I finally knew there was a reason my relationships were failing. My entire life, I just thought I was a b**** who didn't want to put up with anyone's bull****. I thought myself independent, so when someone would piss me off, I'd send them packing, or pack up myself. Gives a whole new meaning to the "it's not you...it's me" break-up statement. LOL

how to get past all this?

Hi, I'm new here. Looking for some support and people to talk to. I fear I just lost a very important relationship and I am hoping that here I can find the support I need to take some of the pressure off of my BF. Right now he is my only support and he currently doesn't want to talk to me. I'm feeling very alone.