[Wild Coyote]

I have participated in Bizi's diet thread both last year and this year. Bizi started a "New" 2017 Diet Thread in January of this year, where many of us have also participated.

Another member has started another new community diet thread. I have tried to participate, yet am blocked from participating. I get a message, stating I am on the OP's "ignore list" and cannot reply to the thread.

It's very unfair to start a community participation thread and have any community member blocked from participating.


WC

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

I have participated in Bizi's diet thread both last year and this year. Bizi started a "New" 2017 Diet Thread in January of this year, where many of us also participated.

Apfei has started another new community diet thread. I have tried to participate, yet am blocked from participating. I get a message, stating I am on the OP's "ignore list" and cannot reply to the thread.

It's very unfair to start a community participation thread and have any community member blocked from participating.


WC

Why in the world would anyone block you? You're one of the kindest, wisest ones here.

[Wild Coyote]

The "ignore" option exists for a reason.

It's unfair to re-start/start a community-oriented participation thread and to block specific members (any member) from participating.


WC

[Icare dixit]

"You are on this users ignore list and therefore cannot reply to this thread." (not saying it's unfair to me in general)

Are there two different "ignore" options or what do you mean?

Honestly, the blocking feature needs to be completely revamped here.

For example, if you have somebody blocked, than they should make it to where you cannot see the threads and posts of the person you block at all because many people might find it triggering to see threads and posts from people who they have blocked. I'm not referring to how it is now where you see that somebody made a post but it says that the message is hidden because you have the member blocked; I mean there should be no visible traces of their posts at all to you if you have another member blocked.

I also think that you should have every right to participate in a thread created by a person who has you blocked. If the change I suggested above was implemented, than this wouldn't be an issue.

I love this site to death but I think that a lot of this website's features are stuck in the dialup/DSL beige box computer days.

[Wild Coyote]

Icare dixit,

The member has re-started a community participation thread.

When I attempt to participate in the community-oriented thread, I get a message telling me I cannot respond to the thread because I am on the OP's "ignore list."

My points are:

1) We already have a "diet thread" where all have been welcomed.
2) It's unfair to re-start/start a community participation thread when blocking ANY member.


WC

[Icare dixit]

I wonder whether people realise they prevent people on this list to post. It makes no sense. They could have the post be ignored while allowing others to see it.

The problem is making people aware of this when you're being ignored.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by Icare dixit

I wonder whether people realise they prevent people on this list to post. It makes no sense. They could have the post be ignored while allowing others to see it.

The problem is making people aware of this when you're being ignored.

Yes!

I hope this thread increases awareness and resolves the issue for anyone in the same position.


WC

[*Laurie*]

A long time ago a PC member blocked me. I was really hurt, as I had absolutely no knowledge of why that member blocked me. I finally decided that there has been some kind of misunderstanding and tried not to fret about the situation.

Here's the real kicker:

if someone blocks YOU, they can post in YOUR threads, but you can't post in THEIRS. Have had it happen to me before. Can confirm.

Also, they can PM you, but you can't PM them. Can confirm also.

BASS ACKWARDS

I wish the ignore feature was more like Facebook's, where you can't see them and they can't see you. That, to me, makes much more sense.

I don't bother with the ignore feature. Never used it. I'm sure people have their reasons for using it, though.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

A long time ago a PC member blocked me. I was really hurt, as I had absolutely no knowledge of why that member blocked me. I finally decided that there has been some kind of misunderstanding and tried not to fret about the situation.

I think you handled that well!

This isn't a thread about hurting because a person has me on ignore.

We have been discussing the blocking of community members from community-oriented participation threads.

This is more of a community awareness thread.


WC

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Here's the real kicker:

if someone blocks YOU, they can post in YOUR threads, but you can't post in THEIRS. Have had it happen to me before. Can confirm.

Also, they can PM you, but you can't PM them. Can confirm also.

BASS ACKWARDS

I wish the ignore feature was more like Facebook's, where you can't see them and they can't see you. That, to me, makes much more sense.

I don't bother with the ignore feature. Never used it. I'm sure people have their reasons for using it, though.

This is exactly what I was trying to explain in my previous reply.

I suck at communicating my thoughts to people lol

BTW, I hope this person does not feel ganged up upon. I don't mean to do that

But for what it's worth, I don't think this person meant to block anyone from posting in a community thread. The whole blocking feature something even *I* didn't understand until I was blocked! Then I was like "ooooo, so that's what this does... strange! "

[Nammu]

They should also refrain from starting game threads since that would block those on ignore from playing.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

BTW, I hope this person does not feel ganged up upon. I don't mean to do that

But for what it's worth, I don't think this person meant to block anyone from posting in a community thread. The whole blocking feature something even *I* didn't understand until I was blocked! Then I was like "ooooo, so that's what this does... strange! "

Thanks for being so sensitive to everyone.
You're right, the intention is not to gang upon anyone.

The overall purpose is to raise awareness, which I can do by telling my story.
I honestly feel it's wrong to exclude ANYONE from community-oriented threads.

The intentions are to raise awareness and to allow for community inclusivity in community-oriented threads.


WC

Community participation threads would be best started by those who don't have anyone on ignore perhaps? I can see why this is an issue. I'm also being ignored and each time the person posts I'm reminded of it. I wish that when someone puts you on ignore, you wouldn't see their posts at all....that would be best I think. I hope some resolution is found that helps everyone. I can understand why some would choose to ignore a person and I don't mean to shame anyone who does but this thread is a prime example of what is broken about the whole thing. It would be best if we didn't see the posts of people we ignore and they can't see our posts either since they don't have a spirit of support towards the posts of people they choose to ignore. Perhaps this can be fixed.

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Thanks for being so sensitive to everyone.
You're right, the intention is not to gang upon anyone.

The overall purpose is to raise awareness, which I can do by telling my story.
I honestly feel it's wrong to exclude ANYONE from community-oriented threads.

The intentions are to raise awareness and to allow for community inclusivity in community-oriented threads.


WC

Yep

Maybe it's best, from now on, to have moderators create community threads. This way, people can block who they want and we don't have to worry about inclusivity

Edit: there should be a sticky in the community FAQ forum to let people know that moderators are the only ones who can post community threads

This thread should be moved to the community feedback forum IMO so more people will see it.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

This thread should be moved to the community feedback forum IMO so more people will see it.

I can see your point of view.

We are also trying to resolve a current situation on this (BP) forum.
In that I'm on the Op's "ignore" list, how else can I get a message to her in order to resolve the current issue? I hope she sees this thread. Outside of starting an awareness thread, my hands are tied. Without awareness, there'll be no resolution.


WC

[amandalouise]

question... has anyone checked out the two threads... if so you will find that they are vastly different....

one is community wide where everyone is checking in about how they are doing that day (in other words not necessarily focusing on listing ones goals to accomplish with combating their eating disorder, just a daily check in as in hi Im here, Im feeling ok to day or I ate too much or too little yesterday kinds of posts)

the other thread is specific where a member has a specific goal that they want to complete and work on.

I see no reason why the two threads should or is conflicting with the other community wide thread... they are two different things...

also the ignore feature is not a punishment of preventing others from posting their points of view.. anyone who is on someones ignore list is free to make their own thread and post reflecting their own points of view...

example if I see a thread discussing mood swings and I find out that I am on the original posters ignore list I can post about my own situation with mood swings by starting my own thread.

I look at the ignore list and not being able to post in every single members thread just like real life. in real life there are people that we dont want to be friends with or engage in conversation with and there are people who do not want to be my friend and engage in conversation with me... does that mean I cry and ask someone to force the other to have contact with me or have someone force me to have contact with them.... of course not. in real life its just normal to know people who I dont like and dont want to have contact with and its normal for me to know people who do not like me and dont want contact with me....

bottom line the ignore feature is there for a reason.. the person who is using it (me and every one else who uses it on psych central) are taking care of their self and their own triggers and such. I do use the ignore feature frequently and am not offended when I find a thread I can not participate in... why? because its not preventing me from discussing that topic. if its that important to me I just start my own thread about what I deal with around the same topic/ issue.

Originally Posted by amandalouise

also the ignore feature is not a punishment of preventing others from posting their points of view.. anyone who is on someones ignore list is free to make their own thread and post reflecting their own points of view...

example if I see a thread discussing mood swings and I find out that I am on the original posters ignore list I can post about my own situation with mood swings by starting my own thread.

I look at the ignore list and not being able to post in every single members thread just like real life. in real life there are people that we dont want to be friends with or engage in conversation with and there are people who do not want to be my friend and engage in conversation with me... does that mean I cry and ask someone to force the other to have contact with me or have someone force me to have contact with them.... of course not. in real life its just normal to know people who I dont like and dont want to have contact with and its normal for me to know people who do not like me and dont want contact with me....

Definitely agree! 100%. But this thread is not about why people do or don't block each other, or why people should or shouldn't block. It's about the ability to participate.

The OP of that thread is definitely 100% entitled to block whoever she wants. We all want to have a good experience on this site, and if blocking certain members helps, then I say go for it. Tailor your experience to your liking because this site is meant to be a positive place where we can all feel safe and get the support we deserve.

However, WC here wants to participate in a thread that she was previously allowed to participate in and enjoyed participating in, but now she cannot simply b/c the thread has changed ownership.

I would argue it's a community thread b/c that's how the first two were designed to be. The third one (this one) is designed to be no different. It's just a revitalization of the previous thread, except under a new owner.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Definitely agree! 100%. But this thread is not about why people do or don't block each other, or why people should or shouldn't block. It's about the ability to participate.

The OP of that thread is definitely 100% entitled to block whoever she wants. We all want to have a good experience on this site, and if blocking certain members helps, then I say go for it. Tailor your experience to your liking because this site is meant to be a positive place where we can all feel safe and get the support we deserve.

However, WC here wants to participate in a thread that she was previously allowed to participate in and enjoyed participating in, but now she cannot simply b/c the thread has changed ownership.

I would argue it's a community thread b/c that's how the first two were designed to be. The third one (this one) is designed to be no different. It's just a revitalization of the previous thread, except under a new owner.

then maybe we are talking about different threads lol sorry for misunderstanding....

my suggestion is contact a moderator. Reason I say this is if I remember right somewhere it does say if a thread reaches 100 the mods close the thread and open another one so that its not a situation of someone else starting another thread who may have people on ignore. let them know what thread has changed hands and they may be able to help sort things out.

[bizi]

I started a new new diet thread.
bizi

[Crazy Hitch]

Yeah that ignore feature sucks a bit if a member posts a kuddo regarding another member that I can't reply to. Anywhooooo ... it's an imperfect system but it's designed to do the best it can do and I've been told to just restart a thread or something along those lines ...

It looks like the post you were referring to has been closed.

[Wild Coyote]

The original intention of this thread is: Awareness.

It was my intention to make members aware that if they start a community-oriented participation thread, members on the OP's "ignore" list will be blocked from participating in the community-oriented thread.

I feel my point/intention has been made successfully.

Thanks so much for feedback.


WC