[Trace14]

I responded to this thread some where and it was kind of interesting the results that were given but I can see where it could go either way.
I voted that my T would be okay with it without asking her. Then I thought about it and wondered if she would find that PC might be a place I'm asking questions that I should be asking her. So I asked her
She's all for it. She is okay with me finding support where ever I need to find it, but........she would like to know some of the questions and responses I'm getting to make sure they do not conflict with what we are doing. That seems fair enough.
I know from experience that not all T's feel this way. I posted about that sometime back. Again, I understand that viewpoint too.
So does your T know about PC and how do they feel about it?
Or have you even brought it up with them?
Would you stop coming to PC if your T was opposed to it?
Would you invite your T to the forum so that they could read your posts (but not respond)?

[SoupDragon]

Glad your T is ok with it and their response seems logical in ensuring there's no conflict. I haven't told my T. I was in a bit of a mess when I started seeing him and he probably wouldn't have approved. I think he'd be ok with it now, but still don't think I'd tell him. I wouldn't stop coming if he was opposed to it.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

Glad your T is ok with it and their response seems logical in ensuring there's no conflict. I haven't told my T. I was in a bit of a mess when I started seeing him and he probably wouldn't have approved. I think he'd be ok with it now, but still don't think I'd tell him. I wouldn't stop coming if he was opposed to it.

I don't think I would stop coming either, it would just have to be something I hid from the T, unless I saw it was conflicting the therapy. What's the point of going to therapy if you are going to fight it? I mean you don't have to like it, but why fight it if it could help you get to the life you want? Thanks for responding back

[Fuzzybear]

A t said to me it was my decision, either "online support" or the t

I kinda wish I'd just hidden it, none of the t's business really

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

A t said to me it was my decision, either "online support" or the t

I kinda wish I'd just hidden it, none of the t's business really

That was pretty rude. I don't know why any T worth the title would respond like that. Now at one time I was seeing a T and also seeing an online T and that didn't go over well, but that's understandable. But coming to the forums is like a group therapy, unsupervised of course and maybe that's what you other T was concerned about. You getting the wrong information. I think if the client and T have an understanding that important issues can be discussed with forum members, but should also be shared with the T. Trouble is knowing what is important for them to know. Sounds like that wasn't the T you needed to be seeing.

[jrtc3317]

I have told my T about this PC and another forum I use is one he recommended. He has gone on the other one to see my post and what people were responding. We discussed it shortly. If something ever bothers me he asks I bring it to him to discuss it instead of keep it to myself and dwell on it. I've found my T very supportive of online forums and when I was opposed to them he was accepting of that too.

Had my T not been supportive I agree with previous posters I would continue it without telling them. I don't feel my T should ever tell me what I can and can't do that they should just discuss things with me and say their perspective but most things (not everything) I should have the final say. And that's how it seems for the most part unless it poses a risk to myself or others.

[Unrigged64072835]

I've told my T about it, but I don't know if he visited the site or not. He checks out my poetry and photo sites, though. I don't know if he would oppose it or not, but if he did I just wouldn't talk about it. He's pretty busy so seeing anything I did is just a bonus.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

I've told my T about it, but I don't know if he visited the site or not. He checks out my poetry and photo sites, though. I don't know if he would oppose it or not, but if he did I just wouldn't talk about it. He's pretty busy so seeing anything I did is just a bonus.

That's great sounds like he is really engaged in knowing you and what you are feeling. Better hold on to him Really I can see where a T would go either way on it. Though if they opposed it I would want some darn goods reasons why. Maybe it would be something we work out, or not.

[Open Eyes]

I have told three T's I worked with. The first T told me he did not advise it for me because he felt I would end up spending too much time helping others and he wanted me to focus on myself. The second T did not mind it and when I was triggered by things I did bring it in to therapy to show him. And he definitely helped me. I have talked about it with my current T as well.

I think that if you are finding it helpful then that's what is important. It is also a good way to have things to talk about in therapy too. And it "can" provide an avenue for someone struggling to vent and just share thoughts and IMO, it's good for the mind to think and write things out, it's a good exercise for the mind rather than staying trapped in one's own mind.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

I have told three T's I worked with. The first T told me he did not advise it for me because he felt I would end up spending too much time helping others and he wanted me to focus on myself. The second T did not mind it and when I was triggered by things I did bring it in to therapy to show him. And he definitely helped me. I have talked about it with my current T as well.

I think that if you are finding it helpful then that's what is important. It is also a good way to have things to talk about in therapy too. And it "can" provide an avenue for someone struggling to vent and just share thoughts and IMO, it's good for the mind to think and write things out, it's a good exercise for the mind rather than staying trapped in one's own mind.

Good to see someone is still awake in the forum I see your point but with the PE therapy it's pretty much a structured session, certain plan we have to follow , so it's not like we have a lot of time for questions, though......when ever I have sent her one or two she would call me or email me with the answers. Which is good because when I get something on my mind it's hard to move on to other things. I think she knows that. I don't ask that many questions though. I've told her she is welcome to come in here and read my posts, I really don't care.

[Open Eyes]

I do check this forum out a lot, I like your questions Trace. I don't always answer because sometimes I don't have the energy depending on what's going on IRL. I "do" think about some of the questions though and I like to ponder them as it can get me distracted or thinking and problem solving which is something I like to do. I am heading up to bed though, been a long day and am tired.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

I do check this forum out a lot, I like your questions Trace. I don't always answer because sometimes I don't have the energy depending on what's going on IRL. I "do" think about some of the questions though and I like to ponder them as it can get me distracted or thinking and problem solving which is something I like to do. I am heading up to bed though, been a long day and am tired.

LOL good night and sleep well

[reb569]

I haven't met with my therapist since I joined here. I think my last session with her was towards the end of November 2016, just a week or so after my daughter got out of the hospital.

Anyway -- I think she would be fine with it. In our sessions she has suggested several different self-help books. Has suggested that a type of EMDR therapy called "tapping in" might be good for me and suggested that I read about it online, which I did.

So yeah, I think she would be fine with it.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by reb569

I haven't met with my therapist since I joined here. I think my last session with her was towards the end of November 2016, just a week or so after my daughter got out of the hospital.

Anyway -- I think she would be fine with it. In our sessions she has suggested several different self-help books. Has suggested that a type of EMDR therapy called "tapping in" might be good for me and suggested that I read about it online, which I did.

So yeah, I think she would be fine with it.

I think that would be reasonable to be okay with it unless it caused undue stress on the person and made the therapy harder for both. I know sometimes I get so many books that I hardly ever complete because it's too hard to stay focused for that long of time. Then all this information is churning in my head then therapy adds a couple more things and it's information over load, can't concentrate of anything. It was horrible when I first started investigating myself what was wrong with me. Glad that phase is behind me.