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i keep spacing out all the time was a t a group today with my church and all i did there was stair at the floor ...i cant seem to ground myself that well apart from when i self injure even then i dont always become grounded
i had to leave the group with me husband its was getting too much for me
am home now still a little spacey but not as much as i was
in the group people where talking to me and i only gave very small answers unable to make sense of anything when am like that
had flashbacks it kinda triggered all this

dont know what triggered me

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by -Asphyxia-

i keep spacing out all the time was a t a group today with my church and all i did there was stair at the floor ...i cant seem to ground myself that well apart from when i self injure even then i dont always become grounded
i had to leave the group with me husband its was getting too much for me
am home now still a little spacey but not as much as i was
in the group people where talking to me and i only gave very small answers unable to make sense of anything when am like that
had flashbacks it kinda triggered all this

dont know what triggered me

Those situations are hard and confusing. Maybe you are not ready for this group.Work on finding a grounding exercise that works for you and practice it regularly so it will be automatic when you need it. Get some rest, this can be exhausting.

[Wild Coyote]

We tend to "space out" when whatever is going on around us ( and/or within us) is just too much at the time.

Sorry you are going through this. It's very difficult to endure. You can get through it though. I'm pulling for you!

You've shared that flashbacks had triggered you.

Are you working with a therapist?

Trace gave excellent advice.

What has helped you in the past?

Please get some peaceful rest and stay safe.


WC

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i dont see a threapist av never been able to talk about the abuse to anyone talking i shut down its too much for me but the flashbacks , the spacing out and the feeling of being unsafe is with me most of the time the group today was at a coffee shop not at the church i had friends there apart from 3 people who av never met before its too exposed for me anyone can turn up normally ok in coffee shops there has been a few time where av been triggered
Now am sitting here with a teady scared to leave the house now and i have a friend birthday party meal to go to tomorrow and some of the people there i have never met before ...dont want to go but the friends who birthday it is dont know i space out or that i have flashbacks he knows am ill but not why am ill

[Wild Coyote]

We can see a therapist just for generalized support.

We don't have to get into discussing traumas until or unless we are ever ready to do so. It's preferable to not get into processing traumas until/unless you are ready.

A therapist could help you with day-to-day coping skills around the anxieties, the dissociation and the many challenges of life. Have you studied DBT and/or CBT? Great coping tools.

My therapist helps me with overall support.

I hope you get to go to your friend's event.


WC

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by -Asphyxia-

i dont see a threapist av never been able to talk about the abuse to anyone talking i shut down its too much for me but the flashbacks , the spacing out and the feeling of being unsafe is with me most of the time the group today was at a coffee shop not at the church i had friends there apart from 3 people who av never met before its too exposed for me anyone can turn up normally ok in coffee shops there has been a few time where av been triggered
Now am sitting here with a teady scared to leave the house now and i have a friend birthday party meal to go to tomorrow and some of the people there i have never met before ...dont want to go but the friends who birthday it is dont know i space out or that i have flashbacks he knows am ill but not why am ill

I think WC has given some very good ideas for you. Trauma is something you need to wade into and not jump in with both feet. First you have to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with and can build a therapeutic relationship built on safety and trust.

But also you have to be ready for therapy, ready to commit to the work. Therapist can't fix us but they can listen and teach us tools to help us find our way out. It's not a fast process or a process that always moves forward.

There will be peaks and valleys along the way and that's all part of the healing process. And sometimes that where people get frustrated and quit.

Having a good support system is very valuable in the process to help you through those hard times. Do you have a support system? People you can talk to if you are going through a hard day?