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Old Mar 27, 2011, 11:02 AM
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This morning my husband called me his ex wifes name. I just don't know how many more time I can handle being knocked down. I tried to call my sister just wanted to talk to my niece she always cheers mr up but they wont call back. It's been 3 days since she sais she would call back and I get no response. How am I supposed to care about myself when no one cares. I am so sick of taking care of everyone else at work, in my family, marraige. I know I am not supposed to feel this way but I do.

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Old Mar 27, 2011, 12:59 PM
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Hang in there - it's tough to feel like you do. I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you, just know that you are in my thoughts
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Old Mar 27, 2011, 02:01 PM
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I've had weeks where it just seems like no one notices, like everyone is okay dumping their problems on me but I'm not allowed to lean on them. I hope it gets better for you soon, HMR126... I learned to love and care for myself no matter what... If I like me and I take care of me.. then I have only one person to answer two who loves me unconditionally, myself. Sometimes that's a good feeling... Like today for example, I'm listening to music, I lit a smell-good candle and I'm just going to do some things that I've put off all week, like read a book I borrowed from a friend... Just looking forward to this helps me feel a bit better.. I don't know if it will for you but I hope something comes along to cheer you up!
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Old Mar 27, 2011, 02:17 PM
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You are number one and you have to make yourself number one. You are special and unique and your first priority. Years back it was considered selfish to put yourself first. Today we have to take care of ourselves if we want to care for anyone else.

Life has many stressors and the only way to survive is to allow time for yourself. Its the only way you will find serenity and stay well mentally. Staying mentally healthy is a full time job sometimes, but its number one on the priorty list. You have to make it number one too, to survive and you must survive!!

Take care first of YOU!! YOU ARE NOT INVISIBLE!
We see you and we hear you!

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Old Mar 27, 2011, 07:01 PM
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Bless your heart ~ I know how you feel -- invisible. I too feel invisible lots of times. Your family pulls you in 3 different directions, but when YOU are having a problem, no one is there. They're either too busy, or aren't at home, or something. So there you sit -- all alone. No support, no one to talk to -- nothing. At least not until the next time someone needs your help! I guess that's when we're going to have to say NO. Take care of it yourself! You're all grown up and haired over -- YOU figure it out!!!

Sometimes tough love is the only way to go. Besides, if we don't make them do things themselves, we're going to be stretched to the limit the rest of our lives. And I don't know about you, but I'm getting TIRED of taking care of everyone else. Maybe it sounds like "sour grapes." So what?? All I know is that I've had enough of solving everyone elses' problems!!! There are times I can't solve my own!! LOL Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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