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I know im kinda sad for still being sooo cut up about losing my grandma...but each day i struggle to see the worth of getting up and out.
I was 10 when i lost her and christmas this year will be 9 years since she died. When she first died i blamed myself...i never told her i loved her that much...i never really thought she would leave me like she did....i did always hug her and give her a kiss...i did go shopping with her and carried the bags for her....i loved spending time with her....i even after school sneaked round to her and my grandads home just to be with her...my parents didnt even i know i did...they always thought i was on the park or a friends house. I hate myself for feeling so hurt and thinking i wasnt worth her fighting it and staying with me....all she was bothered about was my grandad and him not loving her if she had her other breast off (she had breast cancer twice) she never thought of me or how it would effect me, her not being here....with her being gone...my grandad didnt want to know me...he would get drunk and ring me giving me a lot of hurtful abuse about her and how i wasnt good enough and that it was my fault she died.....he even really hurt me physically (my parents let him....they was there when he hurt me and they could see he was b/c i was crying)....i was abused by my mom without her here to protect me. my life just isnt worth living really.....but each day i wake up, each day i fight, each day im always remined of her, each day im facing a new obstacle....when will all this pain go? how much more do i have to put up with? ![]() ![]()
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Your Grandma knew how much you loved her by your actions. Actions speak so much louder than words. Sorry this is so troubling for you. Have you ever allowed yourself a chance to grieve? It was her time - it doesn't have anything to do with you. I imagine she is living on in your heart and in your memories. Hold on to the good memories you have of her. Could you do something to give yourself some closure? Write her a poem, leave some flowers at her grave, something like that - just for you. Hang in there! Even when it hurts and life has got you down, keep looking for the sunshine and remember how much you mean to others!
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thank you for your comment can't stop crying, means a lot and i really do hope she did. i have written a lot of peoms for her.....one being my "my heart aches" that is for her....her alone.....i have written others too but thats the first one i did every write and it was for her...i just cant seem too....im just emotionally a wreck....i dont do people dying too well.....it hurts too much for me....
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I felt that way when my grandma passed, it took a long time for my well-being to get better, don't hate yourself over this we all have different coping lenths
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Hey Rachel,
I am so sorry to here about your grandmother, ![]() ![]() ![]() Dealing with death Losing someone close, whether they be a relative, friend or lover is hard. Your emotions run haywire while you try to grasp what has happened and the loss you feel seems endless. We can't bring them back but we can try and help you understand your feelings. Quote:
Please also check this page out http://www.thesite.org/healthandwell...reavementblame My Grandma died this week and I'm feeling really bad. I was with her until the end but I just keep thinking that I should have been able to do something to keep her here. We all miss her so much. She was so ill at the end and maybe we should have made different choices about how she was treated. Please help me, it feels like it's all my fault. Quote:
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rach, your grandmother lives on in you and in your heart. i dont know if the pain of loosing someone ever goes away but it does become easier to deal with. Just remember the good times you had with her and it will remind you how much you loved her and she loved you.
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