[blondemom]

I hate my kids. That's pretty much it. Any issue I have with anxiety or depression they trigger it easier than anything or anyone else. I try to be a nice mom and do fun things with them, but they are such brats they inevitably end up ruining every attempt I make to enrich their lives. If I didn't think it would give them abandonment issues I would just give them up for adoption to some nice family.
I grew up in a big family and always thought that's what I wanted for myself when the time came. I have two kids. They make me want to rip out my ovaries. Every once in a while there is that one nice thing when the kids say 'I love you' without being prompted, but the rest of the time my life is hell and I'm not quite sure what to do about it. I've read articles about how to enjoy your kids more by having more structure and the like. It's just so hard to stand them.
I feel like I need to see a therapist on a regular basis but we can't afford it. My husband is working and going to school, which means he's gone all the time. That does not help.
Maybe things will get better when my kids start school. They're 4 and 3 right now. I do love my kids. I'm just going crazy. Every day is different, but today was hell.
Has anyone else gone through a stage of hating their kids?

[Yoda]

I did go through a period of wishing someone else would raise my kid but he was ages 14-18 then.

Little kids are hard for different reasons. Is it feasible to put them in day care a couple days a week to let them learn how to socialize and give you a break?

[Victoria'smom]

look into Head start. I feel the same about my child. Library story hour, mcdonald's play place mall play places, give you a little me time. Look into the college's daycare.

3 and 4 are tough ages. At the moment they're naturally going to be very demanding - can your family help you out in any way? Could your mum perhaps take care of them a couple of mornings a week or something like that? Definately look into the your husbands college daycare programme, i don't think its fair you should have to look after them all the time - that would drive anyone up the wall eventually. I hope this situation improves for you. All the best.

[Leed]

Bless your heart. Ages 3 & 4 are enough to make you want to drink rat poison! My daughter was a COMPLETE handful at that age -- I didn't need 2 of her, good Lord! She made me think death was a vacation! But I made it thru, and she's now 37 yrs old! Now she has a BRATTY teenager. LOL Hahahahaha What goes around comes around. LOL

Is there any way you can put the kids in a day care? Can you possibly afford that, cause you NEED some time to yourself. If you don't you're going to lose your mind. Or is there a neighborhood "exchange" where the mothers take turns taking care of each others kids? Could you possibly do that? It gives each mother some time off each week.

I hope you can find some way to get away from the during the week or weekend. Maybe on the weekend, your hubby could watch them while you take off for awhile. Afterall, he's the daddy -- he can watch them for awhile and see what it's like!!!! What do ya think?

Best of luck hon, and let us know how things turn out. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Anika.]

My kids drove me a little crazy at that age too. It's what they do! My three kids are all only one year apart.. so I had a 1,2, and 3 year old all at once. I hear you. It does get better and easier as they get older.

A play group, day care or something to give you a break here and there would be a big help. I didn't have the option of day care but I joined a play group and that helped a bit, my MIL would sometimes take them so I could get a little break.

It's a tough age, at that age they are usually testing all the boundaries trying to figure out just how far they can go, and which buttons they can push, and they can push them all, all at the same time. I don't think they intentionally ruin the stuff you set up for them, but yes it can feel like it at times.

How does the discipline and structure go down in your home? Does your husband help implement the rules when he is around, or is it all riding on your shoulders? When he is around does he spend time with them, take them to the park to get some of that energy burnt off or anything? There are also usually parenting classes in the community and stuff like that, if you feel like you need more support.

I am a single mom, I know what it is like to have to all the parenting jobs alone, without much break. It's really hard, and wears you out that is for sure. When they were the age of yours I would wait till they were playing quietly or having a nap, take my little tv into the bathroom and have a hot bath with the door open just in case.

Hang in there, it will get better.

[Roukan]

Hey,

When I read your title "I hate my kids" I just had to read your post. As parents not much time goes by before we all feel that way. My mom once said "don't ever have kids, they just suck the life right out of you". I have four boys and most of thetime I want to choke them until their face turns red. One day they will all be grown and we will miss them dearly.

[blondemom]

Thank you all for the kind replies. Today was a much better day. I've been looking into the daycare idea. I'm considering getting a job at a daycare so my kids would have some playmates and I would have some variance as well. All of the difficulties with the kids are just a bit amplified right now because we just moved and are kind of starting all over with making friends. Their grandparents and other relatives live in another state so we don't see them much. Things could always be worse

[kbee1981]

Originally Posted by blondemom

I hate my kids. That's pretty much it. Any issue I have with anxiety or depression they trigger it easier than anything or anyone else. I try to be a nice mom and do fun things with them, but they are such brats they inevitably end up ruining every attempt I make to enrich their lives. If I didn't think it would give them abandonment issues I would just give them up for adoption to some nice family.
I grew up in a big family and always thought that's what I wanted for myself when the time came. I have two kids. They make me want to rip out my ovaries. Every once in a while there is that one nice thing when the kids say 'I love you' without being prompted, but the rest of the time my life is hell and I'm not quite sure what to do about it. I've read articles about how to enjoy your kids more by having more structure and the like. It's just so hard to stand them.
I feel like I need to see a therapist on a regular basis but we can't afford it. My husband is working and going to school, which means he's gone all the time. That does not help.
Maybe things will get better when my kids start school. They're 4 and 3 right now. I do love my kids. I'm just going crazy. Every day is different, but today was hell.
Has anyone else gone through a stage of hating their kids?

I feel like you sometimes. I also have 2 kids, and I'm expecting #3. I love them, but they know exactly what buttons to push to make me absolutely crazy, and more often than not by the time my husband comes home from work I'm ready to pull my hair out, and I want to just hide in my room and not do anything else for the rest of the day.

[AngelWolf3]

I am glad you are looking into the daycare option! I am glad that you are in a better place...(well, on the 11th...) How are things today?

I totally understand, my kids are now 7 and 11, but when they were younger it was tough enough...I can't imagine having only 1 year between the two of them; I know I had days where I couldn't take it anymore, so I totally totally feel you 100%.

It is true, though, it does get better...sometimes I miss when they were tiny (they still are kinda, ) and others, I am like Thank GOD they are older...

I hope today finds you well and that you are making some new neighborhood friends?

(((hugs))) (if that is okay!)