[Melmo]

What do you do when you are so angry you just want to punch something? I got so angry tonight (I havn't felt this angry in a long time) and I normally scream, punch walls/doors, slam doors etc. I really don't want to do that in front of my daughter though. Was wondering how you all handle anger like that.

[Permanent Pajamas]

I hug my cat. Do you have a pet? It might help you.

[Melmo]

I have 3 cats. I dunno, it might help. I just wanna break something with I am angry.

[Permanent Pajamas]

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

I have 3 cats. I dunno, it might help. I just wanna break something with I am angry.

That's what I used to do. I ended up destroying a complete set of crystal and an antique gold trimmed teapot.

If you have to destroy something pick something cheap and inanimate.

I understand completely.

I worked for fast food for long time doing counter work. The worst thing I could do is allow myself to fantasize about doing bad things, when I was angry at a belligerant customer. I would get my mind on my job, or take a break and chat with a co worker. Sometimes, co workers would get in my face, if I became too upset. I'm glad they did that. Being really mad, even with a reason, will not excuse it from law, and guilt comes when passion dies, and I see the damage done. Guilt will kill us or drive us to dis associate. I've stuck a burning ****** in my fore arm to distract myself from acting on rage. I'd rather take anti psychotic medication, than act on a rageful thought, and did, for a long time. It is not easy, in our high stresss fast paced competitve world, to not become rageful. We NEED to not give in to it. NEED not should. Jail is bad bad bad. Do what it takes to contain and filter a rage impulse. Keep it a legal filter....! brook as in been where you are. It gets easier smile and laugh be ask for help you WILL succede!

[Permanent Pajamas]

Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying surrender to anger. I'm saying if you must, think of your checkbook!

[Thunder Bow]

Extreme Anger can be dangerous to you and those around you. Adding on other things such as insults and accusations can make it Fatal. Are you really mad at yourself, and hate your self? See a Therapist and explore the deeper causes of your extreme Anger!

[asp1079]

I agree that intense anger not handled with efficiently can just build up and build up and cause so many problems - psychosomatic ills, bitterness and hostility, misplaced irritation, etc. etc. It's important to learn how to deal with intense anger more effectively. Here are some ideas my counselor suggested to me since I've gone through the exact same thing!

1. Take a long walk with music on, even aggressive music, to feel like you can relate to the music playing and storm out your frustration with a walk and jog. Then, put on some relaxing music and bring yourself down from it. If you don't like rock music, just play the relaxing music first. Personally I always feel better listening to Dope and Marilyn Manson [LOL] because I feel they're singing about my angry emotions in some of their songs. But then a more calm song will bring me down from it and help mellow me out. Combined w/ the phys. activity it helps.

2. Punch a pillow, or throw it around [safely!]. Way better than punching hard objects like walls and slamming doors.

3. Learn deep breathing. It might seem dumb or cliche but man, you'd be surprised how awesomely effective being able to find your center, relax and feel your own breath to become calm again.

4. If all else fails, you might want to consult therapy. It's not a bad idea and doesn't speak poorly of you. You might just need some other therapy techniques or support to help quell and deal with the anger.

Kudos to recognizing you should learn how to deal more effectively with your anger especially for your daughter. I wish my mom had been that way. It shows how considerate and good hearted you are! Good luck.

[JayJay2]

running and other sports might help if you are able.
I go out walking and listen to music to try and calm down.

[Grammabug]

I am in the same place. I am ready to implode or explode in an uncontrollable rage. Even my pets aren't helping. I would never ever! hurt them but I just don't even want to be touched. My husband for the first time is listening that something is wrong and now is trying to be kind and understanding. This isn't helping, it makes me more angry. Like too little too late. I am almost moving in reverse due to shutting down. Angry keeps me from feeling the other things I have been ignoring. I have a lot of pain due to injuries and illnesses but I can actually "feel" the different kind of pain that thinking of dealing with my "baggage" creates. It terrifies me to go there and live through all of that. I am the strong one that has always handled all of the bad stuff and come out ok on the other side. Joke is on me, I berried it and now it is seeking me out and demanding to be dealt with. Then there are the external stressers that refuse to stay out of my life no matter how many times I tell them screw off. I finally made an appointment. I know this is where I need to go next but don't want to. But I need to take control and start living my life again. I am so so so tired. Anger is too much of a go to habit now.

physicly sooth onesself, like with a damp washcloth; but not excluded to...

[sandworm]

Originally Posted by JustWantToBeNormal

What do you do when you are so angry you just want to punch something? I got so angry tonight (I havn't felt this angry in a long time) and I normally scream, punch walls/doors, slam doors etc. I really don't want to do that in front of my daughter though. Was wondering how you all handle anger like that.

: Hi Justwant. I understand how you feel. wow. I do not know if you are male or
female. For guys, i know some men I know handle it this way, "fixing the car" if they are good with cars. chopping wood (to vent that pent up energy.) walking , swimming, running. what is a more feminine activity is journaling, which I highly recommend. (i am male but it works for me to map out the lay of the land as to why i am angry and who I drag into my feelings about key person who elicited my anger.)

there are other ways, music, talking to a friend, or doing something destrutive like weeding. cleaning or anything that feels like you imagine it being your enemy.

hope this helps.
Hugs (((( )) we love you
S.

[doyoutrustme]

I write about my anger to my private blog and just keep typing till its all out or my keyboard catches fire.

[yellowted]

try going into your bedroom away from your daughter, close the door and punch your pillows till you feel better.
i can't seem to get that angry some how, usually when i feel like i want to explode i cry!