i don't fit in anywhere. not at church, not at work, not with other moms, not with other women in general, am excluded from anything with guys because apparently men and women can't be friends at all (how stupid)...i've tried finding an online group or something (i don't even fit in on PC, it seems) thinking maybe someone else will feel like i do (7 billion people, someone has to feel the way i do) but...honestly, if anyone did feel the way i do, they probably wouldn't post on this thread, because i probably wouldn't... and probably won't after this, not sure why i'm posting it, but i am going to hit that stupid submit button, because writing this out and then ctrl-A delete doesn't make it go away, it makes it sit in the back of my mind and keep festering...meanwhile, putting it out there so maybe someone will read it somehow makes me feel better, even though i really don't want anyone responding to it...

ugh. contradicting myself. sorry to those who read.

[troyz]

...its ok...anyway you feel is ok...you need to start getting stronger in these areas that were all weak in but you need to center on, like this...all i can tell you is what *I* did...i trained myself that it didnt matter to me if i "fit in" or not, but that me being there and doing stuff was the reason im out here, not so people can rate my gumby-like superpowers...im a goofy guy, and people either think im cool (and i dont see much of THAT one) or run....FAST!....but i dont change for anyone...it didnt happen overnight for me and it SURRRRREEE wasnt pretty....worrying about my self-worth wasnt worth dancing on fire for the people around me so i could feel good about myself (THAT took a long time too, but thats another post)...ive read your stuff and youre a pretty cool person, and YOU CAN DO THIS!...i didnt think *I* could come as far as ive come, but i did...and you will too, when you get the strength...God bless and stuff...

Originally Posted by DreamAddiction37

i don't fit in anywhere. not at church, not at work, not with other moms, not with other women in general, am excluded from anything with guys because apparently men and women can't be friends at all (how stupid)...i've tried finding an online group or something (i don't even fit in on PC, it seems) thinking maybe someone else will feel like i do (7 billion people, someone has to feel the way i do) but...honestly, if anyone did feel the way i do, they probably wouldn't post on this thread, because i probably wouldn't... and probably won't after this, not sure why i'm posting it, but i am going to hit that stupid submit button, because writing this out and then ctrl-A delete doesn't make it go away, it makes it sit in the back of my mind and keep festering...meanwhile, putting it out there so maybe someone will read it somehow makes me feel better, even though i really don't want anyone responding to it...

ugh. contradicting myself. sorry to those who read.

DA I can relate.
I will say that I don't feel like I fit in anywhere either.
But I think my situation and yours may be different. I don't "feel" like I fit in but its possible that I actually DO fit in...but if I do I don't feel like it for sure. I don't fit in with other dads, I don't do what most guys do, I would rather be friends with females than males because I don't feel like I fit in with the guys anymore.
I mean all I do is work, pay bills, eat, sleep, spend time with my daughter, and wonder why my life is so screwed up.
I am pretty much a loner. I like what I like and that is the best I can do for people. I have mostly loose friendships...no one to count on and no "best friend".
I do pretty well here on PC, but I tend to post on general forums like "what time is it and what are you doing" because they seem safe; safe and stress free.

I do hope things go well for you in the future. Happy to "talk" more if you relate to anyting I have posted.

[Rusty9]

Originally Posted by DreamAddiction37

i don't fit in anywhere. not at church, not at work, not with other moms, not with other women in general, am excluded from anything with guys because apparently men and women can't be friends at all (how stupid)...i've tried finding an online group or something (i don't even fit in on PC, it seems) thinking maybe someone else will feel like i do (7 billion people, someone has to feel the way i do) but...honestly, if anyone did feel the way i do, they probably wouldn't post on this thread, because i probably wouldn't... and probably won't after this, not sure why i'm posting it, but i am going to hit that stupid submit button, because writing this out and then ctrl-A delete doesn't make it go away, it makes it sit in the back of my mind and keep festering...meanwhile, putting it out there so maybe someone will read it somehow makes me feel better, even though i really don't want anyone responding to it...

ugh. contradicting myself. sorry to those who read.

You've done a lot of posting here and still haven't learned that you are the only one who can make you feel better. To do that takes effort on your part. Tell me 5 things you enjoy. You enjoy many more but don't let yourself know you do. I'll check back and if you reply we'll see where we can go from there.

[Miswimmy1]

I cant totally relate to not fitting in. I felt "off" my entire life.

I guess all I can say is that you have to put yourself out there. many of the things you just posted are great examples of distortions, irrational thinking that we all do from time to time... you are assuming that people won't post, you are assuming that you aren't going to fit in. If you go in with that mindset, then yeah, the probability of you making friends is low. But if you go in, with a good positive mindset, and just be yourself, i think you will find that you get much farther...

if you ever wanna friend, i'm here. pm me any time... I don't bite!

[Blubberman]

I don't fit anywhere either!
But who cares, life isn't about fitting in everywhere. It's about fitting in where you enjoy. remember: you werent born to please with your presence to all people, if someone doesnt like you, its his problem.
I also agree with Miswimmy1 , we are all here to talk and we don't bite, and you are right, you are not the only one feeling that way! That's for sure, so cheer up !