[Alishia88]

I´m not quite sure if this is the right place here, however I didn´t find a
more fitting forum...

Anyway, as I usually do not interact in internet forums etc. except for psychological help and grief support,
I am quite shocked to see and learn how incredibly mean and hostile people can be on other sites, like youtube, opposed to how supportive and compassionate people are on here.

I guess I am very sensitive, also of course to my psych. difficulties,
so this horrifies me to see the hostility and hatred of the world outthere!

Why are some people this way? There´s so much mean stuff outthere,
makes me feel sick

(((Alishia88)))

It is very easy to act cruel behind a screen of a computer and it annoys me so much when I see online bullying, My advice is to stay clear of these sites

[Silent Void]

The internet is mean because it is, more or less, anonymous. What you are seeing is what people really are beneath the facade of socialization, the real human animal.

It's difficult to hold people to civil standards when they can hide so easily behind a faceless medium like the net.

Hang around here. Everyone here seems very understanding. I haven't felt stressed at all.

[pegasus]

Yes, I've seen some really nasty stuff on Youtube. It's because, people can post whatever they want and know they can get away with it. Stay here, everyone is in the same boat and any nasty posts are taken care of by the mods. Hugs to ya!

[Thunder Bow]

As said in the posts above, this is a safe media to be mean in. Bullying is all about control. Those who bully usually bully when they think they can get away with it. The internet makes that possible. Be selective is all you can do.

If a site is important to you, then stand up to the bully. I fought many battles on the internet, and won.

[gaia67]

It makes me wonder about human nature.

[Belmore]

Try to find a site like this one that is moderated you can block a person if they are mean to u.

[allimsaying]

I think its important to remember not all people are mean. Only some. Like the others said, anonymity makes some people feel brave enough to 'be themselves'. Thats good in some ways but not in others. Bullies are usually weak, cruel, unhappy people with a mixed up understanding about life. A lot of us have felt mixed up so I bet some of us can relate to them feeling miserable.

Im still learning how to cope with bullies myself. I think starting off any response with "Im sorry life has been so cruel to you that you think being mean is the proper way to interact with others" can set the groundwork for an honest talk if one can happen. I end it with "I hope someday you'll see the true beauty of life and want to share in it with the rest of us who are sometimes struggling just as hard as you do." I think that can help them see we are all human and having a hard time sometimes and maybe open the door to understanding and a connection to kindness for them.

Otherwise, its best to just walk away from them. jmho

Originally Posted by Alishia88

I´m not quite sure if this is the right place here, however I didn´t find a
more fitting forum...

Anyway, as I usually do not interact in internet forums etc. except for psychological help and grief support,
I am quite shocked to see and learn how incredibly mean and hostile people can be on other sites, like youtube, opposed to how supportive and compassionate people are on here.

I guess I am very sensitive, also of course to my psych. difficulties,
so this horrifies me to see the hostility and hatred of the world outthere!

Why are some people this way? There´s so much mean stuff outthere,
makes me feel sick

Hi Alishia88: Yes, there are trolls everywhere on the internet... people who just seem to take pleasure in tearing others down for no good reason. I've been on YouTube for a couple of years now. I also have a Google+ account.

On YouTube, I have found that, if you can find a like-minded group &, for the most part stick with them, you can pretty much avoid most of the trolls. When I do unwittingly step on one or one tries to jump out at me from some unforeseen hiding place, I just ignore them. They go away. And if in the unlikely event they don't, I could always block them. I've never had to do that.

The friendships I've made on YouTube have been well worth the little bit of inconvenience I've encountered from trolls. They're a sad lot. So we can feel sorry for them, but not invite them in...

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

I´m not quite sure if this is the right place here, however I didn´t find a
more fitting forum...

Anyway, as I usually do not interact in internet forums etc. except for psychological help and grief support,
I am quite shocked to see and learn how incredibly mean and hostile people can be on other sites, like youtube, opposed to how supportive and compassionate people are on here.

I guess I am very sensitive, also of course to my psych. difficulties,
so this horrifies me to see the hostility and hatred of the world outthere!

Why are some people this way? There´s so much mean stuff outthere,
makes me feel sick

Im taking a guess here that the reason you dont see any or very few people being mean to others here on psych central is because the rules here is support.. any mean /offending/hostile postings are removed. we have great moderators here that make sure that everything about psych central is focused on support. people may not always agree with what people post and thats ok, but name calling, mean stuff is just not allowed here...

that said given that I have reported some hostile/mean/ and otherwise against the rules postings, if the rules that are here were not here (which other sites do not have these support rules) and if we didnt have moderators (which many other sites do not have) psych central would probably be just like any other site on the internet...with everyone fighting and being mean to each other because they dont like each other or are having a bad day, or their meds are off, or because of the type of mental disorder...all kinds of reasons lead a person to lash out at another in mean ways.

[Thunder Bow]

On my YouTube channel I block trolls from posting. Remember it is all about Control!

[seeker1950]

I post on other sites, just opinions and feedback, like IMDB and Youtube. I've seen some horrible and very mean responses. I don't know what to make of it myself, like you, Alisha88. As gaia67 said, "it makes me wonder about human nature." I am glad you found PC, though, because you won't find such cruelty here! It's a safe place.
Peace and love,
Patty

I've been on some no holds barred forums but youtube comments can be incredibly obnoxious and hateful. Are there people who are really that petty and mean? Yes. Very few would be that way face to face.

[Travelinglady]

I think everybody has hit the nail on the head about these folks knowing they won't be held personally accountable because they can hide behind anonymity.

And also here people are held accountable. Plus, I think many of us have been abused, but have gotten or are getting some treatment. We know what it's like to be hurt and don't want to do the same to others, for the most part.

I guess I am blessed that I've never even posted on many other sites! I'm sorry you've had to go through that. Shame on those people!

Here's a hug for you:

[allimsaying]

Originally Posted by Bedobones

Hi Alishia88: Yes, there are trolls everywhere on the internet... people who just seem to take pleasure in tearing others down for no good reason. I've been on YouTube for a couple of years now. I also have a Google+ account.

On YouTube, I have found that, if you can find a like-minded group &, for the most part stick with them, you can pretty much avoid most of the trolls. When I do unwittingly step on one or one tries to jump out at me from some unforeseen hiding place, I just ignore them. They go away. And if in the unlikely event they don't, I could always block them. I've never had to do that.

The friendships I've made on YouTube have been well worth the little bit of inconvenience I've encountered from trolls. They're a sad lot. So we can feel sorry for them, but not invite them in...

I like your post. I tend to over-reach. I agree with not inviting them in.

Hi Alishia,
I don't know about anyone elses reply on here because I just don't bother reading them. But the best possible answer to why people are so mean is the environment we live in. You watch the news right? People are being killed, and usually in a senseless manner.
It is a real hostile & not-so-nice world our here. Most times the people in question were raised to be mean but not all turn out that way.
For me, and I will have to out my age I grew up in the 60's & 70's. The 60's were a real violent time and I was a young girl who just happened to hear about things I shouldn't have heard. Real brutal stuff. Along with being raised by a brute of a stepfather who was an ex Marine Seargent major who brow beat into me that the World is cruel & no one will show mercy. Among other negative mantra's. That's just one example for you. I know that for me I have a real hard time being nice or trusting anyone. I lost that sweet innocence since I was 8 years old.
I'm trying (yet again) to find someone to help me through all of this emotional torture I go through which is why I chose the moniker.
I don't have an answer you'll just have to try to find your own path in life.
As for what you said on Youtube about how not so nice the replies are. I'm guilty of that, however the reply I had left was for an interview I saw about one of the Manson family murderers who were trying to gain parole and OMG did I let loose on that one. I didn't hold back they are some evil animals those psycho's are. But that was the only time. Sometimes Youtube is a good place to vent!
Although I'm swear like a sailor I too want a nice world to live in. There really wasn't a time when this world we live in was ever nice and I know I've been around for a little while.
But keep optimistic will you? I'm counting on you! I hope to call on you to help me through.
I know I've rambled but this is how I feel. Its the best possible answer I could provide.
Take care

[doyoutrustme]

Some people just like to stir the pot. Don't get sucked in.

[justmemaybe]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

I´m not quite sure if this is the right place here, however I didn´t find a
more fitting forum...

Anyway, as I usually do not interact in internet forums etc. except for psychological help and grief support,
I am quite shocked to see and learn how incredibly mean and hostile people can be on other sites, like youtube, opposed to how supportive and compassionate people are on here.

I guess I am very sensitive, also of course to my psych. difficulties,
so this horrifies me to see the hostility and hatred of the world outthere!

Why are some people this way? There´s so much mean stuff outthere,
makes me feel sick

((((Alishia88)))))))))))))))))))))))
Someone said before me , that on the net ppl are hiding behind the screen. They can pop off a mean coment and walk away.
I once had someone tell me they troll the net just to mean. I kicked the dude out of my store lol
Ive seen it on facebook too.
The best part about here is there are rules. Its a support site.
Just becareful where you go on the net. If a site bugs you , dont go there.
Or ignore the mean ones.

[avlady]

Those people that are mean are the ones the ones that need the help the most, not us!!!

[Perna]

I don't go to pages/sites I don't enjoy. Just as I don't go to porn or hate sites, I wouldn't go to a site where there are what I consider stupid or ignorant posts. I have a friend who visits random sites where one can give one's opinion and he argues with the stupid posts, etc., I don't get the point of spending my time that way.

[RyanFialcowitz]

The problem with YouTube in particular is that it's largely self moderated. People up vote and down vote comments. Which means terrible things that some people find funny get shot right to the top. And even if people down vote it- it just gets hidden not deleted.

Personally, if someone is trolling in a thread I create I try to deal with them calmly and rationally. But that doesn't accomplish much when their goal is to hurt you and I must admit it does bite quite deep. As if humans haven't created enough horrible things & misery in this world. . .

- Ryan Paul Fialcowitz

[smnhc7310]

Keyboard toughguys....don't let it get ya. These people are the same ones who got bullied and are taking it out anonymously.

[jan16th]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

I´m not quite sure if this is the right place here, however I didn´t find a
more fitting forum...

Anyway, as I usually do not interact in internet forums etc. except for psychological help and grief support,
I am quite shocked to see and learn how incredibly mean and hostile people can be on other sites, like youtube, opposed to how supportive and compassionate people are on here.

I guess I am very sensitive, also of course to my psych. difficulties,
so this horrifies me to see the hostility and hatred of the world outthere!

Why are some people this way? There´s so much mean stuff outthere,
makes me feel sick

I think the compassion on this site is due to the fact that we have been hurt time and again. Many people in the world "out there" do not understand us. They do not readily see us as injured,sick or hurting. If it is something they can see, say a broken leg, a bad burn, torn up limbs and such, they are sad......come visit ....tell much we are loved, bring flowers and spend time. When you have a mental sickness.....they don't.

[Piglette]

I've been asking myself why people are so mean for years now. I don't really have an answer. All I can come up with is that, this world is crazy and confusing. Everybody is just reacting to the world they live in and if people react with anger and hate, others will too. Someone decides to be an A-hole to people because he's angry at life, that person will become angry about that A-hole, and may talk back in the same manner. Then we get an argument, in which somebody else joins, and before you know it, all hell has broke loose. Everyone is angry and confused about life. It ends up that they all take it out on eachother. After a while, this becomes the norm. It's expected. It's a cruel world.

I imagine that the people on the Internet who say nasty things also say nasty things in real life. I don't believe that good, kind people come online and suddenly switch. Maybe some do. But if I see a couple of people on YouTube arguing about which Spiderman movie is better and calling eachother names, I think it's pointless and pathetic, and I also think "urgh, the high school kids have come home from a hard day of chemistry and are now proving their tastes are valid and superior with other high school kids." It looks like school to me. They probably spend a lot of their time arguing about films in real life and YouTube is another place to do that. Obviously they're not all high school students. Some are probably in their twenties, thirties, forties... then I just think, well, nobody ever grows up.

IMDb is another site where people have the most inane arguments about nothing. It's the same as YouTube, some place people with differing tastes can come together and have a "discussion" AKA moanfest. People think their opinions are "right" and other peoples' are "wrong" and their passion for the subject causes them to be aggressive. "No, no, you're an idiot if you think that's good! THIS is good!!" Blah blah.

Those are just movie examples, but it applies to pretty much everything. Everyone is angry, confused, and desperate to validate their identity with their tastes and interests. Differing opinions are threatening to their beliefs, to their identity. It angers them more. Words are used. It goes on.

I have social phobia so people are my problem... I watch them and try to understand them. This post might be veering way off, I apologise if it is! This is a subject that interests me.

I don't post on sites with mean, pointless comments, but I do want to make a YouTube channel. I may have to learn how to deal with such comments if I do.