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#1
Aug 23, 2014, 10:42 PM
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How would you react, if a neighbour was giving off strong vibes of... I really don't like you!?
Reason why I'm asking, one of my neighbour's is doing this to me. I live right beside them and the lady there acts arrogant in my presence. I don't care for her either, but I am trying to mind my own business and ignore her. But she is making it more difficult with her glares and acting like she is WAY above me. It is bothersome. Need help with this... |
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#2
Aug 23, 2014, 10:55 PM
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Maybe my anxieties about this ordeal, is giving off negative vibes that she is picking up and reacting to them...
Gosh, just want to let it go, and rise above it. Too many important things going on, to want to bother with this immature behaviour from her. |
| anon20141119, spring2014
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#3
Aug 23, 2014, 11:16 PM
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Something about you intimidates her and she is afraid to show it.
I have the same issue actually... Like you, I just avoid him as much as possible.  Took a bit of practice but it pretty much works out. 
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#4
Aug 24, 2014, 01:36 AM
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Just avoid and be glad she's not forcing herself on you and calling your name, like one psycho fake-friendly neighbour I had.
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| Soul_Flower43
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#5
Aug 24, 2014, 01:43 AM
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A bad relationship with a neighbor can make your life miserable. My suggestion is to stop analyzing and taking her behavior personally right now. Just stop. If you run into her, be pleasant, then go on with your day.
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| H3rmit, Soul_Flower43
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#6
Aug 24, 2014, 01:51 AM
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| Soul_Flower43
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#7
Aug 24, 2014, 09:10 AM
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I'd let her stew in her own evil juice.
Seriously. People who want to hate will hate. You can still have a good day. I say just ignore her. If you don't think that is possible, a cool "good morning" or "good afternoon" or good evening" is all that is required. I don't believe anyone is superior to anyone else. <--that is one reason why people hate me. And it doesn't bother me a bit
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| Soul_Flower43
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#8
Aug 24, 2014, 10:12 AM
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I'm dealing with this too. I just want to ask why, but the answers given here are helpful. Avoid is the best thing to do with some people, because, for me, I just end up feeling bad about myself in that person's presence. And let it be on them. That's your neighbor's problem. It's only your problem if you let it be. And if that person doesn't like you - oh well, not everybody in life will. That's not a reflection on your character, but on hers - for the bad attitude she shows you. Just continue to be the kind person that you are. It's funny though, sometimes we can get a little insight into another person's life, some how, and then say, "oh, so that's why she acts the way she does," and then sometimes believe it or not it can allow us to empathize with the person. This has happened to me in the past, and I hope it will happen to you.
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| anon20141119, spring2014
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| Soul_Flower43
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Aug 24, 2014, 11:03 AM
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| music junkie, Soul_Flower43
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#10
Aug 24, 2014, 01:04 PM
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Thank you everyone for your supportive, and helpful advice! This really helped me feel better reading your replies. I'll see how it goes, in the next week, with having a different mindset about this whole ordeal. I'll update on how it goes.
Thank you all again! 
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| anon20141119, BLUEDOVE, H3rmit, IceCreamKid, spring2014
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#11
Aug 31, 2014, 06:56 PM
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Update: 08/31/2014
I've been applying the advice on here, and being more mindful. The first day, didn't go so good, but the next it wasn't too bad. Each day, I work harder at minding my own business, not analyzing everything to death, ignoring people who want to make trouble, and keeping focused on the tasks and not paying attention to what neighbour lady is doing. I totally was in the zone of keeping mindful and being observant of what I was doing. I noticed enough that neighbour lady was outside in her backyard, but I continued to be mindful of my day, and I enjoyed it too. I didn't give her any attention by looking her way... I just kept doing my yard work. The first day of being mindful and not annalyzing her... wasn't good at all. I got caught up in her prancing around and being in my zone. When we looked up at each other... she had that neighbourly glare. I was in not a good mood, so I glared back at her. Ugh! I lost my power and walked right into that one. I'm sure that made her day, that she got to me. |
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#12
Sep 02, 2014, 03:26 PM
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Start waving and saying very loudly 'Isn't this weather perfect?' and then carry on with whatever you were doing -- it will leave her wondering whether you really mean it or are just messing with her! If she just glares at you and ignores your friendly greeting, it makes her look mean. Before you know it, she will change her tune.
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| Soul_Flower43
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#13
Sep 02, 2014, 03:31 PM
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Ignore her. She can't afford the surgery to get that stick in her behind removed.
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| Soul_Flower43
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#14
Sep 02, 2014, 07:41 PM
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(venting out a little here...)My ego is getting in the way of doing the right thing. I'm wanting to tell her off instead. Give her a piece of my mind, of what I think of her, and her attitude with me. Ugh! I'm resenting her because I have to go out of my way to be nice to someone who's not worth my time. But I will because there's no other way to be... except nice! |
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#15
Sep 03, 2014, 12:43 AM
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hmmm you are in a pickle aren't you? IMO if you are that uncomfortable I would devise some kind of outdoor blinds that hang from an awning or some poly-resin porch fence...some sort of divider so that when you come outside you don't really have to see her.
Hang in there!
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| Soul_Flower43
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#16
Sep 03, 2014, 01:13 AM
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Actually my neighbor doesn't like me, & I don't really give a d***. I don't like him, either.
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| Silent Void, Soul_Flower43
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