Being so mentally unstable that you cannot understand mentally stable people

Has anyone experienced that?

Not sure what you mean but, sometimes i can't understand other people emotions like when something happens that i don't see no deal in it and other people get all mad or sad because of it.

I'm not sure exactly what you mean either, but I often do not understand other peoples thought processes or emotional responses.

Reading books on emotional intelligence all of them stated three points to me. People who feel in control of there emotions, people who flow with theres and people who feel like slaves to theirs. I'm not the most sane person but I can never understand the last 2 people, how they have no desire to just, control it.

No desire? if that where the case I wouldn't constantly be trying to act like I feel better than I do to keep from worrying people...of course I cannot always mask it, stuff builds up and sometimes I simply get triggered with the PTSD and crap and lose control and it sucks its not like if I had the choice of controlling it I would have no desire, but it really kicks my *****, if one can simply control their emotions then what do they need a mental health diagnoses for.....though I think my issues go a little deeper than just trouble controlling emotions there is much more then that. Its probably not always so much a lack of desire as much as it would be lack of ability to do so.

how do i tell if someone is mentally stable?

I hope this helps. I'm no mental health professional, so this is just my own experience.

Mentally stable people tend to be on an even keel. They don't have extreme highs or extreme lows. The generally tend towards a calm feeling of wellness. They say what they mean and they mean what they say. They are trustworthy. They have a sense of their own limitations and possibilities. They care about others but they care about themselves too.

I have observed plenty of mentally stable people who aren't exactly trustworthy..or always mean what they say. I don't think being without mental issues makes one a prime example of humanity per say...

To me people who are 'mentally stable' understand and exercise the concept of emotional resilience. They're able to recognize how things affect them and they find ways to deal that aren't totally destructive to them or others. Of course there's no straight and narrow when it comes to this because we're not perfect and all make mistakes.

Great explanation!!! I am not an accredited expert myself, but I have 37 years experience as me and my struggles. Everyone makes mistakes, especially growing up, I continued making mistakes and truly did not understand why. Some people have told me that I use my illness as an excuse. I will reply, "An excuse for what, being so miserable that I constantly want to kill myself." I wanted a family, career, vacations in beautiful places, what I have right now is doctor appointments every week, medications, living alone, and a stray cat that visits me sometimes. Sorry if I got off subject, I needed to vent and this brought it out. Thank you.

No. Even deep in psychosis I saw the evil.

I'm sorry my reply served as a trigger for you. I did not mean it to be. I said nothing about making mistakes. I realize everyone makes mistakes. I make mistakes and I have no doubt I will make mistakes until the day I die. I got chronologically older never feeling as though I was worthy to live, let alone have "vacations in beautiful places." I see a therapist now to help me with my sense of self-worth, and I do this so I don't act upon my suicidal ideation. I won't post here again, but I will say one last thing that I hope helps. Just because someone says something like 'using an illness as an excuse' doesn't mean you have to agree -- or even listen -- to what that person says. My mental illness is agonizing. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.